0257 The Road Signs of Dating

THE ROAD SIGNS OF DATING

Dating many people doesn’t prepare you for marriage but for divorce

Dating doesn’t help you to get to know the other person

Dating is seeing the sky through the cloud

Dating doesn’t promote love but liking

Liking is selfish (get) while love is sacrificial (giving)

Liking is temporary while love is eternal

Liking is conditional while love is unconditional

Liking is feelings while love is Person (love is a decision because we are commanded to love God)

You are not in love until you are in God

Guys suppose to take a lead in a relationship because they are responsible

YIELD Let God go first

Dating relationship will not change your relationship with God it will only reveal it

Hot water doesn’t change a teabag it only reveals its true color

Sun only exposes what eyes don’t see

You determine how close to God you will be not circumstances

Your God is not Creator but whoever is first

The first is required to be like God

The first is the foundation upon which the relationship is build (Ecc.4:12)

You have to committed to God more then to your date

SPEED LIMIT Dating must have a limit if marriage is to be limitless

Trees that are slow to grow bear the best fruit

Patience is bitter but its fruit is sweet

Impatience is too costly (Abraham and Saul)

The slower you go the faster you will get to know other person

The faster you go the slower you will get to know the other person

DO NOT ENTER Dating must have “no trespassing” zones

Marriage trial “cohabitation”

10 million people are living with a partner of the opposite sex

It’s like testing a car (person is not a car, and you don’t put your clothes in the trunk)

People who practice cohabitation are least likely to marry; have higher percentage of divorce; most likely to have unhappy marriage; most likely to have extramarital affairs; hurt their kids; have parental disapproval; more stressful then being married

People who practice cohabitation have lust or character issue

No sexual activity

Average length of first sexual relationship is 3 months

24.3% of youth reported having first sex during the same month as the start of the relationship

37.5% had sex 1 to 3 months after the start of the relationship and

40.1% after 4 months

Premarital sex is an open door to the extra marital affairs

Premarital sex is the root for relationship unfulfillment

No sexual fantasies

We tend to fantasize about everything we are not allowed to do

God calls fantasy an act

Holding of hands is recommended while kissing is optional

CONSTRUCTION Dating is fun work

Work on spiritual intimacy

Work on friendship

There are many ships (wooden, plastic, metal) but the best one is friendship

Friends are like health; you don’t realize what gift they are until you lose them

Prosperity births friends but adversary proves them

Friendship is one soul in two bodies

Work on relationship with family

UMBRELLA Protection of dating lies in submission

Umbrella protects you from rain and from getting wet

Prodigal son left the umbrella and got busted

Ruth stayed under the umbrella and got blessed

DESTINATION Engagement is the destination of dating

Mariana’s and Ilya’s testimony