0326 Wilderness - Dating

WILDERNESS - DATING

Break up without falling apart: Not every date will be your mate Invest as much into dating as you’re willing to lose (down payment for pain) Live with mindset of make it instead of break it (reason for break up can’t be argument but unfaithfulness) Don’t use God as an excuse Kill the horse not the rider (no gossip “Joseph”; no unrealistic promises)

Manna - chemistry Food came from heaven in wilderness (work) but in promise land food came from ground (no work) Chemistry is infatuation, attraction but not love. Love is eternal, unconditional, patient, Person Love is feeling of devotion where chemistry is feeling of emotion Love is decision, chemistry is a feeling (we are command to love those we don’t have chemistry for) Love is truck while chemistry is trailer (trailer don’t pull the truck but truck pulls the trailer) Before marriage chemistry leads commitment but after marriage commitment must lead chemistry Love is path not valley (it’s not something we fall into but something we walk on) Love grows (hard to see, hard to feel, but when you look back you see how much you’re grown) Love is giving not getting; love is accepting not expecting Fireplace: fire from gasoline is temporary, fire from woods is permanent (the hottest love has the coldest end) When first love is gone? 1. Repent 2. Do the first works (feelings will catch us if you start doing the first works)

No water – character Problems of our life reveal problems of our heart (hot water reveals the teabag) Rebellion: - Rebellion removes you (Lucifer) and ruins you (Miriam) - Rebellion is as sin of witchcraft; rebellion is entry level for occultism Complaining: (oxen ask wheel why do you make so much noise?) - I complained that I had no shoes until I met men who had no feet; do everything without complaining - There is no need to advertize your problems there is no market for them; 80% don’t care; 20% think you deserve the - To swear is sin cause it’s taking God’s name in vain, to murmur is sin cause it’s taking God’s promises in vain - When deep in water keep your mouth shut Anger: - Moses lost his job, broke the tablets, hit the rock, & missed promise land all because of anger - Lift your hands without wrath; anger is good emotion but use it well; be angry but do not sin (Cain’s anger led to sin) - Anyone who angers you controls you; your temper if your valuable possession don’t lose it - Slow to anger is better than mighty; anger is one word short of danger; if you have sharp tongue you’ll cut your throat - When you give someone a piece of your mind it makes your head little emptier

No honey – wait to mate Why buy the cow when you get milk for free 1. Milk is not for free – emotional and physical price; the way people come in and out is important 2. She is not a cow 3. Sex is not drinking – it’s bond between two people You have test the car before you buy it 1. She is not a car 2. Sex is not testing 3. Marriage is not buying a car. Car is used as tool, it doesn’t last long Why don’t you make her mother to see if she is good at it? What if she is not good at it?