0822 Rhythm of Revival - Staying in Love

Rhythm of Revival

Staying in Love

Moments must create a momentum. Spark must create a fire. Falling in love turning to walking in love. Falling in love is warm emotions, fuzzy feelings, and surging hormones. Walking in love is commit ourselves to act in best interest of another person.

Falling is chance, walking is choice.

Falling is emotion, walking is devotion.

Falling is spark, walking is fire.

Jewish Rabbi about what is love! Example of Fish

Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. Genesis 2:24

Priority by leaving (stop texting, turn off social media)

a. leave parents (tv, phone not your adopted child, work, business, hobbies, prayer)

b. we want benefits of marriage with a lifestyle of a bachelor

c. don’t give to God what belongs to your family

d. Abraham left Ur but took Lot with him

e. Jesus left heaven, so that He can pursue His bride!

Pursuit by cleaving

a. cleave to your wife, date your spouse

b. pursuit is not passive

c. when you lost first love (repent, do first works) fire dies start with small wood

d. Humor: Man sick. 3 meals. meaningful sex life.

e. Jesus is example. Left. Pursuit - sought after.

Process by becoming

Our differences attract and attack: fascination, irritation, tolerated, appreciation, celebration

Road blocks to becoming:

- Lack of commitment (burn the bridge, don’t use word divorce, contract not covenant, murder yes, divorce no)

- Lack of communication (he speaks, she listens…it’s blood of relationship, not waterworks, not over yelling, share without starting WW3, talk with, not at, seek to understand not change, women must feel loved, men must know they are respected)

- Lack of conflict resolution (fight like street, no rules; it’s not winning but settling argument; attack problem not spouse; negotiate win and win)

Scientists on how to name computer he or she

Computer is HE

Turn them on to in order to get their attention

They should solve the problem but instead they are the problem

As soon as you commit to one you will wait for little while you could get better model

Computer is SHE

No one but creator can understand them

Smallest mistake is stored for long term memory

After buying it you spend more money on accessories

The success of a marriage comes not in finding the right person, but in the ability of both partners to adjust to the real person they inevitably realize they married.

Men say, women are TOO EMOTIONAL, DON’T FEEL PRESSURE TO PROVIDE, TALK TOO MUCH. Women say, men are not SENSITIVE, DON’T SHARE HOUSEWORK, DON’T LISTEN

“Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.” 1 Peter 3:7

Our basic differences:

- Women’s right brain is caring, man’s left brain is logic. (1981 study by Dr Rogger from 16-26th 2 chemicals are released that slow development of right size. We don’t remember the same. We react to stuff not the same. Men say 3 times more in public than in private. Women opposite.

- Women enjoy the process, men focus on the goal. Women get worth by who they are, men by what they do. Shopping. Foreplay. Wives love romance, men love sex. Men will give emotion to get sex, women will give sex to get emotions. Sex - woman is well. Man is foceut

- Women need sensitivity, men need space. (Men when stressed become focused and withdrawn, women become overwhelmed and emotionally involved. He feels better by solving it, she feels better by talking about it)

- Men have authority, women have intuition. (Men are not dictator, women is not a manipulator. Can’t trust my husbands decisions. That’s funny, one of his decisions was you. Body with two heads is a freak.