0911 Single, Ready to Mingle - Love vs Lust

LOVE VS LUST

After this Absalom the son of David had a lovely sister, whose name was Tamar; and Amnon the son of David loved her. Amnon was so distressed over his sister Tamar that he became sick; for she was a virgin. And it was improper for Amnon to do anything to her. But Amnon had a friend… 2 Samuel 13:1-2 (David is 53 years of age, Amnon is 22, Absalom 20, Tamar 15, and Solomon 2.)

So it came to pass in the morning, that behold, it was Leah. Genesis 29:25

“Making love” does not make it love.

JOKE: Son: Is it true? Dad, I heard that in ancient China, a man doesn't know his wife until he marries. Father: That happens everywhere, son, EVERYWHERE!

The world says “fall in love”. The Word says “walk in love” (Ephesians 5:2; Matthew 5:44

Don’t fall into love, grow in love. Everything that falls gets broken and everything that grows gets stronger.

The world says “find the right person”. The Word says “be the right person”

The world says “love is a feeling”. The Word says “love is a willing”

The world says “marry the person you love”. The Word says “love the person you marry”

1. Love is person focused. Lust is pleasure focused. (Fish love)

Love is obsessed with person. Lust is obsessed with love.

2. Love gifts. Lust grasps. (John 3:16)

Love can’t come out of sick person. He needed a doctor, not a date.

3. Lust feels like love (alcohol + water). Label and looks don’t tell you whats inside. You don’ have to taste it to know it’s LUST, smell it. It’s not how it looks but how it smells.

4. Lust is passion outside of principles; love is passion within principles. (soil vs dirt)

Lust is desiring the forbidden, love is delighting in the promise. Soil went from cultivating to staining.

5. Lust needs bad friends; love needs good mentors

Friends that feed your lust are on the devils payroll

6. Lust seeks isolation; love seeks community.

Isolation leads to fornication. Relating helps you to know people more than dating them.

Relationship level: spiritual (not secular) social (share activities, not feelings)

emotional (share feelings, not nudes)

physical (sexual relationship is reserved for that)

7. Lust forces sex; love initiates marriage.

Lust buys a condom. Love buys a ring.

Lust will take you to the back seat of the car. Love will take you to the front of the church

You’re not a man because you got a penis, you’re a man when have principles.

Love waits. Lust is now.

8. Lust hurts; love heals. Thrill Adrenaline. Land on your feet without breaking your heart.

9. Lust does not last; love grows with time. Going from I can’t live without to you to I can’t stand you. He is such a fine to he is such a pervert. You get what you want but you don’t want what you got.

10. Lust gets punished; love gets rewarded (bring a saw)

Repent for hurting people. Mercy is for repentant. Forgive those who hurt you. Receive GOd’s love. Future is bright. (It’s not a big deal)

The first time it happened you were a victim but now you’re a volunteer.

Holding on to unforgiveness is like setting yourself on fire hoping that the person who hurt you will burn. Wounds into scars - scars into stars. Snake went to the shop, cut on saw - went to attack the saw. Bled to death.