The Godly Wife

Submission

Colossians 3:18

Colossians 3:18 NKJV

Wives, submit to your own husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.

1 Corinthians 11:3

1 Corinthians 11:3 NKJV

But I want you to know that the head of every man is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.

The command for wives to submit is difficult for people to swallow. It is seen as demeaning and sexist. It is also VERY misunderstood.

It’s important to take notice that although Scripture places man as the head, there is no command for the man to TAKE charge (although he should act like a leader, he is not to demand submission). The command lies with the woman to submit.

This may not seem like much, but its huge. Why? Because it places the ball in the woman's court. It makes it voluntary by the woman, instead of forced by the man.

The submission is not the husband’s to command but for the wife to willingly and lovingly offer.

Submission does not mean inferiority. It means that she recognizes that her husband is the head of the home and responds to him accordingly without usurping his authority to herself.

God established the principle of male authority and female submission for the purpose of order and complementation, not on the basis of any innate superiority of males.

An employee may be more intelligent and more skilled than his boss, but a company cannot be run without submission to proper authority, even if some in management are not as competent as they should be.

The phrase "to your own husband" limits that submission to the one man the God has united her with.

Submission is voluntarily given

Ephesians 5:22

Ephesians 5:22 NKJV

Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.

The phrase "as to the Lord" means that that submission is to be voluntary, out of a loving desire. The Lord does not force us to submit to his will, we do it voluntarily.

Everything we do for the Lord is to be done first of all for His glory and to please Him

Submission is to God’s Glory

1 Corinthians 10:31

1 Corinthians 10:31 NKJV

Therefore, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.

So when a wife submits to her husband, she does it because it is the Lord’s will and ultimately the submission is to Him.

A wife who properly submits to her husband submits herself to the Lord.

A wife who responds willingly and lovingly, however, honors God, her husband, her family, her church, and herself. Additionally, she becomes a beautiful testimony of the Lord before the watching world.

Keep in mind that the wife’s submission requires intelligent participation:

Mere listless, thoughtless subjection is not desirable. The quick wit, the clear moral discernment, the fine instincts of a wife make of her a counselor whose influence is invaluable.

That is only appropriate of one who was created to be the ideal complement and helper to her mate, and not a competitor.

Submission is to be helpful

Genesis 2:18

Genesis 2:18 NKJV

And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.”

Again, we must remember that God's perfect design for marriage is based on what is best for us. We have discussed that God created men and women to be different, and these roles that He has defined reflect those differences, and utilizes them in the best way.

Since men were designed to be the head, it only makes sense that he woman would be asked to submit to that leadership.

We need to understand, though, just as with any Christian, the ultimate submission is to God.

What does this mean to the husband / wife relationship?

It means that there are limits to the extent that a woman is expected to submit.

Submission has limits

Acts 5:29

Acts 5:29 NKJV

But Peter and the other apostles answered and said: “We ought to obey God rather than men.

The greatest commitment must always be to the Lord.

No one, not even a submissive wife, and especially not a godly women should allow her loyalty to anyone to cause her to violate the Word of God.

One last thought on submission, because I know it can still be hard to swallow.

The submissive element of the husband / wife relationship is seen modeled in the relationship between God the Father and Jesus Christ.

Jesus is clearly God, and is therefore equal to God.

Submission is not inferiority, it is Christlike

Philippians 2:5-8

Philippians 2:5–8 NKJV

Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus, who, being in the form of God, did not consider it robbery to be equal with God, but made Himself of no reputation, taking the form of a bondservant, and coming in the likeness of men. And being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself and became obedient to the point of death, even the death of the cross.

Submission is Christlike

Jesus was obedient to the will of the Father, He was submissive.

So how did Jesus find Himself in a position of subordination to the Father when He was clearly His equal?

By choice, He did it willfully, knowing that it was necessary to God's plan.

The model of Headship and submission is a system that God was willing to undertake for Himself.