PREPARING FOR MARRIAGE GOD’S WAY*SESSION 1*
*GOD’S BLUEPRINT FOR MARRIAGE*
~*Some time ago--Ann Landers (the “answer lady”)--wrote a column
--entitled “Answer Lady Has No Answers”
--acknowledged that after 36 yrs. of marriage, were divorcing
--expressed her astonishment that it could happen
--once had a very good relationship
Ann Landers perplexing question: "How did it happen that something that was so good turned out so bad?"
--when they married, they enjoyed each other...liked each other
...were friends, lovers, confidants...were excited about each
--but over the years their relationship began to deteriorate
--affection turned to apathy
--excitement to exasperation
--attraction to aversion
--enjoyment to enmity
--so asked, “How did it happen?”
~*Safe to say--most couples who marry do so because they really enjoy each
other...are excited about each other...don’t get married because they
hate each other!
--but all too often this has changed for many couples...Ann Landers’ situation is not an isolated instance...
~*But I don’t believe this has to happen!
I believe it’s possible for married
people to remain “sweethearts” throughout their entire lives
...*IF* ...they make and fulfill certain commitments
--That’s what marriage is in God’s eyes...a *commitment*...and
marriage wasn’t man’s invention...something just for
cave men...something socially convenient for a time but
\\ *--*But God created it to be a covenant.
This means a ““contract”
--It is a commitment...a covenant...made with God and with each
This covenant is not based upon feelings...but on the will
--we live in such a “feeling oriented” society..self is at the
center...people act based upon how they feel at the
A couple can remain sweethearts throughout their entire lives if they will commit themselves to following God's blueprint for marriage.
--but a Christian marriage is based upon making and fulfilling
These commitments are found in Scripture
as a sort of “blueprint” for marriage...a blueprint for building a
foundation which will last as long as God gives you life on this
--when a couple lives by these commitments, they will never
cease to enjoy their marriage relationship...they will never
simply coexist...they will remain “sweethearts”
*/You must be committed to fulfilling.../*
*THE SIX P’S OF THE COMMITMENT REQUIRED TO FULFILL GOD’S BLUEPRINT:*
The PURPOSES of God for marriage.
The PRIORITY of the marriage relationship.
The PURITY of the marriage relationship.
The PERSPIRATION required for marriage.
V The PERMANENCE of marriage.
The PREEMINENCE of God in the marriage.
! I. Commitment to fulfilling God’s PURPOSES for the marriage relationship:
Ask yourself, “Am I committed to these purposes?”
!! A. Companionship Gen 2:18; Prov.
2:14; Dt. 24:5; I Cor.
9:5; 1 Pet.
!!! 1. Implications
V Common interests...
V Holding things in common
/The animals couldn’t provide these for Adam/
!!! 2. Definition
V One with whom you have a deep friendship...
V Not just based upon physical attraction (this leads to problems later)...but interested in the person
*/The second commitment to God’s PURPOSES is.../*
!! B. Children________ Gen.
2:15; Ps. 127; 128:1-4.
!!! 1. Desiring
If at all possible physically, children should be desired...
V may be temporary reasons to not have children...
V but no such idea in Scripture of a couple not desiring children *if God has opened the womb*
V any reasons except not being physically able end up being selfishness
!!! 2. Raising
V Ephesians 6:4/ /And, fathers, do not provoke your children to anger; but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
V Deuteronomy 6:7 and you shall teach them diligently to your sons and shall talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way and when you lie down and when you rise up.
\\ !! C. Co-workers Gen.
1:26; Acts 18:1-3.
!!! 1. Working
God blessed “them”...both given responsibility to take care of what God made and to use it for His glory
!!! 2. Serving
V Each has the goal of actively SERVING the Lord in Ministry
V This includes SUPPORTING each other in ministry.
!! D. Co-witnesses Eph.
V Your marriage gives witness to the relationship between Christ and the church