Wedding | Nic and Salowa

SERVICE OF MARRIAGE

Prior to Service:

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(congregation seated)

Words of Welcome:

To congregation:

On behalf of Nic and Salowa, I want to extend to you a very warm welcome.

We have gathered together in the presence of God to join Nic and Salowa in sacred marriage, an institution ordained by God, and to be honored by all people. It is the means by which God seeks to establish the welfare and joy among the family.

Through the witness of Scripture, we learn that God instructed all those who enter into this relationship to cherish one another with a mutual love; to share in the infirmities and weaknesses of one another; to comfort one another in sickness, trouble, and sorrow; to provide for one another; and, to partner with one another and the Holy Spirit to bless the world.

It is for this purpose today, Nic and Salowa, that you stand before God, one another, and these witnesses… to become united in sacred marriage and to celebrate the formation of a new family for the glory of our Lord Jesus Christ.

To the Bride and Groom:

To you, Nic and Salowa, may I express on behalf of your family and friends gathered here that we feel a such deep sense of joy to celebrate this sacred union with you. As we witness both of you make a sacred promise to one another before God, know that we’ve have been praying for you and will continue to do so as you begin your new life together. You are not alone. We stand with you.

Prayer:

Let us Pray:

God, we thank you for the real life and love that only you made available to us through the sacrifice of your son, Jesus. We praise you, and give you our gratitude. Lord, and we invite you into this ceremony. Thank you for the lives of Nic and Salowa. Thank you for their friendship together and with these witnesses. Thank you for joining their lives together. In this time, we ask that you make yourself known to us and forever unite Nic and Salowa together through the bond of your love. Remain with us now and always. In you name, Amen.

Word of Explanation:

Today, in the company of those whom they love, Nic and Salowa will declare their intent of marriage, exchange vows, and give rings, all done in the full knowledge of what the sacred union of marriage means. This kind of union - this kind of love, which initially drew them together years ago, now demands from them the highest form of human co-operation and sharing. Their covenant of marriage is binding until the day that death shall separate them.

Declaration of Intent:

Nic and Salowa, before God and this gathering of family and friends, I am going to ask you to declare your intent to enter into this covenant of marriage:

Nic, will you have Salowa to be your wife, to live together in the holy covenant of marriage; will you love her, comfort her, honor and keep her, in sickness and in health; and forsaking all others, be faithful to her as long as you both shall live? If so, answer, “I do.”

Salowa, will you have Nic to be your husband, to live together in the holy covenant of marriage; will you love him, comfort him, honor and keep him, in sickness and in health; and forsaking all others, be faithful to him as long as you both shall live? If so, answer, “I do.”

Now, to your witnesses gathered with you, do you promise to stand by Nic and Salowa in their marriage together, supporting them, honoring them, and praying for them? If so, answer, “We do.”

Scripture Reading:

I would like to read a collection of short passages from the book of Ephesians chapters 4 and 5 that emphasizes well the importance of community and love as you begin your marriage together. It reads:

Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace. There is one body and one Spirit, just as you were called to one hope when you were called - one Lord, one faith, one baptism; one God and Father of all, who is over all and through all and in all.

Therefore, each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one Body. In your anger do not offend. Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry. Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful in building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving one another, just as in Christ, God forgave you.

Follow God’s example, therefore, as dearly loved children and walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.

Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.

Wedding Homily:

Nic and Salowa, I want to offer the two of you and your witnesses gathered here today a simple, yet profound charge: Serve one another.

In the passage you just heard, Paul began his letter by stating, ‘be humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.’ This instruction demands sacrifice on behalf of yourself for the other… rooted in faith… and draped in humility.

The true essence of humility means more than just merely thinking about yourself less, it actually means not thinking about yourself… at all. True humility means completely removing yourself from the equation - for the sake of the other.

Marriage is a selfless relationship. Bearing one another in love means setting aside your wants and needs in order to shoulder the burdens - the cares - the joys - the successes - the losses of the other.

Humility is the solid bedrock on which to build a life long marriage. Even Jesus, the very Son of God who alone deserves all of our praise and glory, did not hold onto his rights and privileges as the Son of God, but instead, he made himself a servant. Jesus always gave up his prestige - wants - desires - and even his rights as God - for the sake the world whom he loved.

And Nic and Salowa, you are called to do the very same thing, to love one another with that same kind of humility and sacrifice. And ultimately… to give up your rights as individuals for the benefit and blessing of the other.

In fact, let me be quite honest with you… the secret sauce to every successful marriage is not money… or time… or even good communication… it’s humble servanthood. Everything good in marriage flows from serving the other. If you constantly set aside yourself and make your mission in marriage to serve the other, then ironically - and truly, this is the great secret of marriage - your needs will always be met. And you will discover a rare kind of joy in marriage that only a few ever find. Therefore, make this your mission from now on to serve one another, and in doing so, nearly everything else will fall into place.

Now, Nic, this will mean giving Salowa your undivided attention when she shares her thoughts… her ideas… her cares with you.

And Salowa, this will mean allowing Nic margin to decompress after a long day of work.

Only the two of you know what serving one another really means, but one thing I can say…

Since meeting you a couple of months ago, I am continually impressed by how well both of love each other! Your years of history and shared experiences together built a lasting bond between the two of you that today becomes solidified in the Spirit. During our couple of times together, I learned that though Nic adores Salowa above all else. And likewise, Salowa, your love and respect for Nic shines through every time you mention his name.

Both of you know sacrifice well. You’ve lived it, endured it. This intimidates some people, but I want to encourage you to continue embracing it, and let it shape life in Christ together.

Bearing one another in love means remaining by one another through every argument - every illness, and every joy. It means always choosing your spouse - always choosing your spouse - ahead of yourself, no matter what person or thing, attempts to drive a wedge between the unity of your marriage.

Hold onto those unique qualities that make up the foundation of your friendship, for God graciously formed those distinct qualities within you so that you may serve one another throughout the awesome journey of your marriage.

In the passages I read a moment ago, Paul described in the book of Ephesians, 3 key components that make up a healthy marriage:

First is ‘hope.’ Hope is rooted in the love of God for us through Jesus Christ, a reality and expectation that extends beyond ourselves.

Martin Luther King once spoke, “We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope.”

I think every married couple would agree that finite disappointments, grudges, and conflicts can feel like an eternity. But in reality, they only last as long as you want them to. Cherish the kind of hope that’s infinite, and let that become your perspective.

Second is ‘unity.’ Remain together no matter what the obstacle.

During our time together, we talked quite a bit about obstacles that both of you have overcome… together. And through those challenges, the Lord refined and united you.

At the time, those obstacles can seem draining, tiring, and even threatening to your marriage and family.

But over time, they can become the bricks that build your foundation for a healthy, long-term marriage. Remember each brick and learn from its lesson.

Furthermore, remain united to your community - your family, friends, and your church. See these people gathered here. These are your people… for better and for worse… who support you… care for you… and love you. Hold onto them, no matter what the cost. Fight for them… in the same way that all of you [[[look at the witnesses]]] must fight for Nic and Salowa.

And the final element is ‘forgiveness.’

Forgive one another, just as in Christ, God forgave you. Forgiveness may be the most important of these elements, yet also, the most difficult. Forgiveness requires that you fully commit to humility, forsaking your desires and wants for the sake of the other.

Nic you are to forgive Salowa just as you have been forgiven by Jesus.

Salowa you are to forgive Nic just as you have been forgiven by Jesus.

Family and Friends, you are to forgive one another just as you have been forgiven by Jesus.

Forgiveness is the truest expression of humility. I hope you come to realize that as you offer forgiveness to the other, you not only offer freedom to the other, but in so doing, you set free yourself to live the kind of life that Jesus promised you - full and real.

Salowa, submit to Nic, respect him and honor him in all you do. Serve him, maintain your bond of unity, and forgive him when he falls short.

Nic, love Salowa and sacrifice for her in the same way that Christ sacrificed himself for the church. The charge of marriage goes to you. Feel the responsibility. Maintain her purity, and keep your marriage holy, set apart, and on mission for the glory of Christ in the world!

Let’s pray together…

Exchanging of Vows:

We now come to the moment when Nic and Salowa will exchange their vows to one another. Would you please face one another and join hands:

Nic, please repeat after me:

I, Nic,... take you Salowa,... to be my lawfully wedded wife,... to have and to hold... from this day forward,... for better or for worse,... for richer, for poorer,... in sickness and in health,... to love and to cherish;... from this day forward... until death do us part.

And now Nic would like to share a set of personal vows that he wrote for Salowa…

Salowa, please repeat after me:

I, Salowa,... take you Nic,... to be my lawfully wedded husband,... to have and to hold... from this day forward,... for better or for worse,... for richer, for poorer,... in sickness and in health,... to love and to cherish;... from this day forward... until death do us part.

And now Salowa would like to share a set of personal vows that she wrote for Nic…

Exchanging of Rings:

The wedding ring symbolizes both the unending love and commitment made to one another, as well as the unending love and commitment made by God to us.

Nic, please repeat after me: With this ring,... I pledge my life... and my love to you.

Salowa, please repeat after me: With this ring,... I pledge my life... and my love to you.

Unity Candle [[[if so, then insert here]]]

Nic and Salowa have chosen to express the unity of their marriage through the traditional symbol of the unity candle.

Prayer of Blessing

Please pray with me:

O God, our Heavenly Father, who created love and is defined by love, thank you for establishing the institution of marriage for the welfare and happiness of humankind. You have said, "it is not good for man to be alone. I will make a helpmate for him." Now our joys are doubled since the happiness of one is now shared with another. Now our burdens are now halved since the troubles of one is now shared with another. Bless Nic as he becomes Salowa’s husband. May his strength be Salowa’s protection; his character be her boast and pride. May Salowa find in Nic her haven and security so that her heart may continue to grow toward Christ.

Bless Salowa as she becomes Nic’s wife. May her tenderness be Nic’s honor; her love be his boast and pride. May Nic find in Salowa his respect and care so that his heart may continue to grow toward Christ.

May you teach them humility and a softness of heart and mind toward one another. Lord, unite their hands to serve You. Grant them a great purpose in life. May they seek your kingdom and righteousness, and all other things shall be added unto them. May they come to know that perfection alone belongs to you. May you grant them wisdom to minimize each other’s weaknesses, boldness to praise each other’s points of strength, and clarity to see each other through your kind and patient eyes. Lord, give them enough tears to keep them tender, enough hurts to keep them compassionate, enough failures to keep their hands clenched in Yours, and enough success to keep them confident in your provision. May they never take one another for granted, but always experience that breathless wonder that exclaims, "out of all this world you chose me." And Lord, when life is done and the sun is setting, may they be found as now, hand in hand, still thanking you for each other, until at last one shall lay the other into your arms. This we ask through Jesus Christ, the great Lover of our souls, Amen.

Pronouncement:

Nic and Salowa, today before one another, your community, and God, you made a sacred covenant together, pledging and committing your lives to one other and committing your joint relationship to God. As your community, we witnessed the two of you exchange your solemn vows, give rings, and join hands.

By the privilege vested upon me by God, I now pronounce you, husband and wife.

Kiss :

Nic, you may know kiss your bride.

Benediction:

As we depart, I would like to invite all of us to stand and join hands together as we pray a final ancient blessing over Nic and Salowa.

May the Lord bless you and keep you, Nic and Salowa.

May the Lord make His face shine upon you, And be gracious to you;

May the Lord lift up His countenance upon you, And give you peace. Amen

Presentation:

Ladies and Gentlemen, may I present to you for the first time,

Mr. and Mrs. Nicolas Harimenshi.