1 Samuel 20:1-42 - The Blessing of Friendship
Loyalty is an absolute essential in life. No matter the relationship, loyalty is a must. Without loyalty, a relationship crumbles:
Þ If a husband and wife are not loyal, they face divorce and painful suffering for their children, other family members, friends, and themselves.
Þ If a worker is not loyal to his employer, the company suffers and the employer loses his job.
Þ If a company is not loyal to its worker, the worker loses his employment, income, and often retirement.
Þ If a friend is not loyal, the friendship is severed and all the benefits gained from the friendship are lost.
Þ If a teacher is not loyal to the student, the student fails to learn and to gain the knowledge he or she should gain.
Þ If a student is not loyal to the teacher, a sense of alienation and division exists and both the teacher and student suffer.
Þ If a politician is not loyal to the people he represents, the people suffer weak representation and often corruption in their government.
Þ If the people are not loyal to their government, the government is weakened and either collapses or is unable to adequately carry out its functions.
A. Jonathans Loyalty Demanded a Willingness to Help in Times of need (v.1-13)
1. Honest communication (v.1-11).
a) David wants to know, “What have I done” (v.1-2)?
(1) David is now testing Jonathan’s loyalty. In asking, “What have I done?” David wants to know if Jonathan has come to a place of agreement with his father Saul.
(2) Jonathan assures him in (v.2) that he is still a loyal friend and he will protect David by warning him of Saul’s purposes.
(3) In (v.3) David reveals his discouragement. He knows that Saul has attempted to kill him many times, and it seems that Saul will not quit until David is dead. David feels that his death is inevitable.
(4) Causes of discouragement: Defeat (Joshua 7:7-9); Apparent Failure (1 Kings 19:2-4); Hope deferred (Prov.13:12).
(5) Remedy for discouragement: The Word of the Lord (1 Kings 19:9-18); Cast your burden on the Lord (Ps.55:22); Spending time with the Lord (Mark 6:31).
(6) Some people don’t want to hear encouragement: The writer of Proverbs says "Being happy-go-lucky around a person whose heart is heavy is as bad as stealing his jacket in cold weather or rubbing salt in his wounds.” (Proverbs 25:20, The Living Bible)
(7) Divine encouragement (Isaiah 41:13; Matthew 9:2; 14:27; 17:7; Acts 23:11; 2Cor.7:6)
b) Whatever you yourself desire, I will do it for you (v.4).
(1) Jonathan approach is to encourage David and to offer him help. He didn’t say, “Where is your faith man, why don’t you trust in God?”
(2) Jonathan knew the effect that kind words can have.
The writer of proverbs says that "A godly man gives good advice." (Proverbs 10:21, The Living Bible)
He goes on to say that "Anxious hearts are very heavy, but a word of encouragement does wonders!" (Proverbs 12:25, The Living Bible)
Have you ever said the wrong thing at the wrong time? "Everyone enjoys giving good advice, and how wonderful it is to be able to say the right thing at the right time!" (Proverbs 15:23, The Living Bible)
Our words should taste good, because "Kind words are like honey—enjoyable and healthful." (Proverbs 16:24, The Living Bible)