Christian Biblical Counsel: SELF-CONTROL, SELF-DISCIPLINE
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Christian Biblical Counsel: SELF-CONTROL, SELF-DISCIPLINE
Christian Biblical Counsel: SELF-CONTROL, SELF-DISCIPLINE
1. Lack of self-control brings misery.
Prov. 25:28.
1. Lack of self-control brings misery.
Prov. 25:28.
28 He that hath no rule over his own spirit Is like a city that is broken down, and without walls.
2. One who gives full vent to his anger acts like a fool; one who keeps himself under control is wise.
Prov. 29:11.
2. One who gives full vent to his anger acts like a fool; one who keeps himself under control is wise.
Prov. 29:11.
11 A fool uttereth all his mind: But a wise man keepeth it in till afterwards.
3. Every Christian can be self-controlled; it’s a fruit of the Spirit.
Gal. 5:22–23.
3. Every Christian can be self-controlled; it’s a fruit of the Spirit.
Gal. 5:22–23.
22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,
23 Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.
4. Self-discipline is a gift of God.
2 Tim. 1:7.
4. Self-discipline is a gift of God.
2 Tim. 1:7.
7 For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.
5. We are commanded to be self-controlled.
1 Peter 1:13.
5. We are commanded to be self-controlled.
1 Peter 1:13.
13 Wherefore gird up the loins of your mind, be sober, and hope to the end for the grace that is to be brought unto you at the revelation of Jesus Christ;
6. One can and must develop self-control—put a lot of effort into it.
2 Peter 1:5–6.
6. One can and must develop self-control—put a lot of effort into it.
2 Peter 1:5–6.
5 And beside this, giving all diligence, add to your faith virtue; and to virtue knowledge;
6 And to knowledge temperance; and to temperance patience; and to patience godliness;
7. Both old and young alike must learn self-control.
Titus 2:2–6.
7. Both old and young alike must learn self-control.
Titus 2:2–6.
2 That the aged men be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience.
3 The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;
4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,
5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
6 Young men likewise exhort to be sober minded.
8. There is a time for everything. To be self-controlled is to do everything in its time.
Eccles. 3:1–8.
8. There is a time for everything. To be self-controlled is to do everything in its time.
Eccles. 3:1–8.
1 To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:
2 A time to be born, and a time to die; A time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;
3 A time to kill, and a time to heal; A time to break down, and a time to build up;
4 A time to weep, and a time to laugh; A time to mourn, and a time to dance;
5 A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; A time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
6 A time to get, and a time to lose; A time to keep, and a time to cast away;
7 A time to rend, and a time to sew; A time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
8 A time to love, and a time to hate; A time of war, and a time of peace.
9. We can control our thinking.
2 Cor. 10:5.
9. We can control our thinking.
2 Cor. 10:5.
5 Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;
10. Exercising self-control is walking in the light.
1 Thess. 5:4–8.
10. Exercising self-control is walking in the light.
1 Thess. 5:4–8.
4 But ye, brethren, are not in darkness, that that day should overtake you as a thief.
5 Ye are all the children of light, and the children of the day: we are not of the night, nor of darkness.
6 Therefore let us not sleep, as do others; but let us watch and be sober.
7 For they that sleep sleep in the night; and they that be drunken are drunken in the night.
8 But let us, who are of the day, be sober, putting on the breastplate of faith and love; and for an helmet, the hope of salvation.
11. Be self-controlled in your talking; control your tongue.
Prov. 20:19.
11. Be self-controlled in your talking; control your tongue.
Prov. 20:19.
19 He that goeth about as a talebearer revealeth secrets: Therefore meddle not with him that flattereth with his lips.
12. Exercise self-control and say no to all ungodliness.
Titus 2:11–12.
12. Exercise self-control and say no to all ungodliness.
Titus 2:11–12.
11 For the grace of God that bringeth salvation hath appeared to all men,
12 Teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly, in this present world;
13. Be motivated by Christ’s redeeming love.
Titus 2:13–14 …
13. Be motivated by Christ’s redeeming love.
Titus 2:13–14 …
13 Looking for that blessed hope, and the glorious appearing of the great God and our Saviour Jesus Christ;
14 Who gave himself for us, that he might redeem us from all iniquity, and purify unto himself a peculiar people, zealous of good works.
14. Be neither wishy-washy, nor easily moved by others.
1 Cor. 15:58.
14. Be neither wishy-washy, nor easily moved by others.
1 Cor. 15:58.
58 Therefore, my beloved brethren, be ye stedfast, unmoveable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, forasmuch as ye know that your labour is not in vain in the Lord.
4 Ways to Grow in Self-Control
4 Ways to Grow in Self-Control
Porn addiction. Greed. Verbal abuse. Gluttony. Drunkenness.
Porn addiction. Greed. Verbal abuse. Gluttony. Drunkenness.
All different kinds of sins, but they all stem from the same problem:
All different kinds of sins, but they all stem from the same problem:
a lack of self-control.
a lack of self-control.
May i suggest that self-control is one of the biggest indicators of Christian character.
May i suggest that self-control is one of the biggest indicators of Christian character.
Without it, you’ll eventually ruin your life and legacy.
Without it, you’ll eventually ruin your life and legacy.
With it, you can thrive and be a blessing to others around you.
With it, you can thrive and be a blessing to others around you.
You’re probably convinced of the need for self-control.
You’re probably convinced of the need for self-control.
But how do you get it?
But how do you get it?
Here are four ways to grow in self-control.
Here are four ways to grow in self-control.
1. Understand your identity in Christ
1. Understand your identity in Christ
Your identity affects your activity.
Your identity affects your activity.
We often fail because we don’t remember who we are and, more importantly, whose we are.
We often fail because we don’t remember who we are and, more importantly, whose we are.
Writes Paul, “And those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires” ( Gal 5:24 ).
Writes Paul, “And those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires” ( Gal 5:24 ).
24 And they that are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts.
It is significant that “crucified” is in the past tense.
It is significant that “crucified” is in the past tense.
Paul is saying, “Hey, your old life of giving in to sin regularly is gone.
Paul is saying, “Hey, your old life of giving in to sin regularly is gone.
That’s not who you are anymore. You’re now in Christ.”
That’s not who you are anymore. You’re now in Christ.”
And even though “crucified” is in the past tense, it has present implications.
And even though “crucified” is in the past tense, it has present implications.
While our old-self is gone, we must continually be putting indwelling sin to death.
While our old-self is gone, we must continually be putting indwelling sin to death.
Remembering your identity in Christ is the fuel that will help you to kill sin.
Remembering your identity in Christ is the fuel that will help you to kill sin.
2. Keep in step with the Spirit
2. Keep in step with the Spirit
I’m more convinced than ever of the need for the power of the Holy Spirit in the Christian life.
I’m more convinced than ever of the need for the power of the Holy Spirit in the Christian life.
This is especially true when it comes to self-control.
This is especially true when it comes to self-control.
Again we turn to the Apostle Paul, who says, “If we live by the Spirit, let us also walk by the Spirit” Gal 5:25 ).
Again we turn to the Apostle Paul, who says, “If we live by the Spirit, let us also walk by the Spirit” Gal 5:25 ).
25 If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit.
Part of growing in self-control is walking in step with the Spirit.
Part of growing in self-control is walking in step with the Spirit.
In the Greek, this expression literally means to “walk in line behind a leader” ().
In the Greek, this expression literally means to “walk in line behind a leader” ().
It’s a cooperative effort. You cannot expect to grow in self-control by doing nothing, but growing in self-control takes more than mere human effort.
It’s a cooperative effort. You cannot expect to grow in self-control by doing nothing, but growing in self-control takes more than mere human effort.
As you appropriate the Spirit’s help in prayer and seek to obey God’s commands as revealed in his Word, the Spirit will empower you to obey him.
As you appropriate the Spirit’s help in prayer and seek to obey God’s commands as revealed in his Word, the Spirit will empower you to obey him.
Cry out to the Holy Spirit for help.
Cry out to the Holy Spirit for help.
3. Remember the right things
3. Remember the right things
Years ago someone tweeted something like this: “When tempted to sin, remember: obedience is joy.”
Years ago someone tweeted something like this: “When tempted to sin, remember: obedience is joy.”
Yes, when temptation comes, we must remember that obedience is joy.
Yes, when temptation comes, we must remember that obedience is joy.
But we also must remember the other side of things, that sin brings misery, and potentially can ruin our lives.
But we also must remember the other side of things, that sin brings misery, and potentially can ruin our lives.
D. Martyn Lloyd-Jones writes, “This is the very essence of wisdom in this matter. Have you realized that most of your unhappiness in life is due to the fact that you are listening to yourself instead of talking to yourself?”
D. Martyn Lloyd-Jones writes, “This is the very essence of wisdom in this matter. Have you realized that most of your unhappiness in life is due to the fact that you are listening to yourself instead of talking to yourself?”
The context here is defeating spiritual depression.
The context here is defeating spiritual depression.
But I think this concept can apply in self-control.
But I think this concept can apply in self-control.
When you’re tempted to sin, talk to yourself.
When you’re tempted to sin, talk to yourself.
Preach the gospel to yourself.
Preach the gospel to yourself.
Remind yourself of the negative effects of sin, how it can distort your walk with God, and how it affects others around you.
Remind yourself of the negative effects of sin, how it can distort your walk with God, and how it affects others around you.
Don’t listen to those urges and impulses alone.
Don’t listen to those urges and impulses alone.
Give yourself truth.
Give yourself truth.
Willpower matters.
Willpower matters.
Of course, you can obey for the wrong reasons.
Of course, you can obey for the wrong reasons.
Some people like to obey God’s law not because they love God, but because they want to seem superior to everyone else.
Some people like to obey God’s law not because they love God, but because they want to seem superior to everyone else.
But gospel-driven willpower and the sheer mustering of personal strength to obey God even when you don’t feel like it is to be commended, not rejected.
But gospel-driven willpower and the sheer mustering of personal strength to obey God even when you don’t feel like it is to be commended, not rejected.
4. Get satisfied in Jesus
4. Get satisfied in Jesus
“I know of no other way to triumph over sin long-term than to gain a distaste for it because of a superior satisfaction in God,”says John Piper.
“I know of no other way to triumph over sin long-term than to gain a distaste for it because of a superior satisfaction in God,”says John Piper.
Are accountability groups helpful?
Are accountability groups helpful?
Maybe.
Maybe.
Should you get protective internet software?
Should you get protective internet software?
You could.
You could.
Should you go to a small group?
Should you go to a small group?
Yes.
Yes.
All of these things have their place.
All of these things have their place.
But they’re not enough.
But they’re not enough.
You can lie to your accountability group, cancel the software, and skip small group.
You can lie to your accountability group, cancel the software, and skip small group.
If your heart is not satisfied in Jesus, all systems that you set up to kill sin will eventually fail.
If your heart is not satisfied in Jesus, all systems that you set up to kill sin will eventually fail.
Addicts always find a way to get their fix.
Addicts always find a way to get their fix.
Imagine you go on a date with your spouse (forgive me if you’re not married).
Imagine you go on a date with your spouse (forgive me if you’re not married).
You enjoy your favorite meal together.
You enjoy your favorite meal together.
While you’re full already, you make room for dessert.
While you’re full already, you make room for dessert.
Now you’re stuffed!
Now you’re stuffed!
You’re enjoying time with your beloved.
You’re enjoying time with your beloved.
Your heart is full and so is your stomach.
Your heart is full and so is your stomach.
After a while, you make it home to relieve the babysitter.
After a while, you make it home to relieve the babysitter.
When you get home, do you reach for the saltine crackers in the cabinet?
When you get home, do you reach for the saltine crackers in the cabinet?
No. Why?
No. Why?
You’re already full.
You’re already full.
The same is true with fighting sin and growing in self-control.
The same is true with fighting sin and growing in self-control.
If your heart is full of Jesus, you’ll be less apt to reach for sins like porn or greed or gluttony.
If your heart is full of Jesus, you’ll be less apt to reach for sins like porn or greed or gluttony.
Self-control is crucial.
Self-control is crucial.
Do whatever you can to grow in it.
Do whatever you can to grow in it.
You (and everyone else around you) will be glad you did.
You (and everyone else around you) will be glad you did.
5 Ways to Model Self-Control –
5 Ways to Model Self-Control –
Samson’s life proves that he didn’t have a good handle on his emotions.
Samson’s life proves that he didn’t have a good handle on his emotions.
He could have benefitted from the wise words of the apostle Paul, who talked about laying aside the “old self” and putting on a “new self” in Jesus (Ephesians 4).
He could have benefitted from the wise words of the apostle Paul, who talked about laying aside the “old self” and putting on a “new self” in Jesus (Ephesians 4).
1 I therefore, the prisoner of the Lord, beseech you that ye walk worthy of the vocation wherewith ye are called,
2 With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love;
3 Endeavouring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.
4 There is one body, and one Spirit, even as ye are called in one hope of your calling;
5 One Lord, one faith, one baptism,
6 One God and Father of all, who is above all, and through all, and in you all.
7 But unto every one of us is given grace according to the measure of the gift of Christ.
8 Wherefore he saith, When he ascended up on high, he led captivity captive, and gave gifts unto men.
9 (Now that he ascended, what is it but that he also descended first into the lower parts of the earth?
10 He that descended is the same also that ascended up far above all heavens, that he might fill all things.)
11 And he gave some, apostles; and some, prophets; and some, evangelists; and some, pastors and teachers;
12 For the perfecting of the saints, for the work of the ministry, for the edifying of the body of Christ:
13 Till we all come in the unity of the faith, and of the knowledge of the Son of God, unto a perfect man, unto the measure of the stature of the fulness of Christ:
14 That we henceforth be no more children, tossed to and fro, and carried about with every wind of doctrine, by the sleight of men, and cunning craftiness, whereby they lie in wait to deceive;
15 But speaking the truth in love, may grow up into him in all things, which is the head, even Christ:
16 From whom the whole body fitly joined together and compacted by that which every joint supplieth, according to the effectual working in the measure of every part, maketh increase of the body unto the edifying of itself in love.
17 This I say therefore, and testify in the Lord, that ye henceforth walk not as other Gentiles walk, in the vanity of their mind,
18 Having the understanding darkened, being alienated from the life of God through the ignorance that is in them, because of the blindness of their heart:
19 Who being past feeling have given themselves over unto lasciviousness, to work all uncleanness with greediness.
20 But ye have not so learned Christ;
21 If so be that ye have heard him, and have been taught by him, as the truth is in Jesus:
22 That ye put off concerning the former conversation the old man, which is corrupt according to the deceitful lusts;
23 And be renewed in the spirit of your mind;
24 And that ye put on the new man, which after God is created in righteousness and true holiness.
25 Wherefore putting away lying, speak every man truth with his neighbour: for we are members one of another.
26 Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:
27 Neither give place to the devil.
28 Let him that stole steal no more: but rather let him labour, working with his hands the thing which is good, that he may have to give to him that needeth.
29 Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.
30 And grieve not the holy Spirit of God, whereby ye are sealed unto the day of redemption.
31 Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice:
32 And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.
While it’s too late for Samson, it’s not too late for us to model godly self-control in the face of difficult times and circumstances.
While it’s too late for Samson, it’s not too late for us to model godly self-control in the face of difficult times and circumstances.
Paul’s insight into overcoming anger is priceless for those of us who struggle in this area.
Paul’s insight into overcoming anger is priceless for those of us who struggle in this area.
Let’s be honest: We all do at some point.
Let’s be honest: We all do at some point.
1. Refuse to Stew.
1. Refuse to Stew.
The Bible tells us that anger is not only OK, it’s expected. But we are to have control of our tempers, to get mad when anger is warranted: “Be angry and do not sin. Don’t let the sun go down on your anger … ” (Ephesians 4:26).
The Bible tells us that anger is not only OK, it’s expected. But we are to have control of our tempers, to get mad when anger is warranted: “Be angry and do not sin. Don’t let the sun go down on your anger … ” (Ephesians 4:26).
26 Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:
Paul recognized that we all experience situations that spark the emotion of anger.
Paul recognized that we all experience situations that spark the emotion of anger.
Believers who became incensed or irritated with other Christians were to resolve the conflict before the sun set.
Believers who became incensed or irritated with other Christians were to resolve the conflict before the sun set.
That is, they were to deal with the issue squarely and quickly rather than let it simmer and become divisive.
That is, they were to deal with the issue squarely and quickly rather than let it simmer and become divisive.
Unresolved differences destroy relationships.
Unresolved differences destroy relationships.
We mustn’t wait to settle a dispute with another Christian.
We mustn’t wait to settle a dispute with another Christian.
A lot of times anger grows in the absence of information.
A lot of times anger grows in the absence of information.
You aren’t communicating with the people you are at odds with, so you start making up the story in your mind.
You aren’t communicating with the people you are at odds with, so you start making up the story in your mind.
Don’t do that.
Don’t do that.
Go talk to the person you’re angry with and ask for clarification.
Go talk to the person you’re angry with and ask for clarification.
Refuse to stew. Have a conversation with God, with yourself, and with others.
Refuse to stew. Have a conversation with God, with yourself, and with others.
2. Recognize Anger as a Spiritual Attack.
2. Recognize Anger as a Spiritual Attack.
Anger is a spiritual attack.
Anger is a spiritual attack.
When we allow anger to enter our hearts and minds, we no longer have complete control.
When we allow anger to enter our hearts and minds, we no longer have complete control.
The Devil can get a foothold in our lives and in our relationships. “ … and don’t give the Devil an opportunity” (Ephesians 4:27).
The Devil can get a foothold in our lives and in our relationships. “ … and don’t give the Devil an opportunity” (Ephesians 4:27).
27 Neither give place to the devil.
When the Devil gets a foothold, he will cause a root of bitterness to grow up, poisoning your whole life.
When the Devil gets a foothold, he will cause a root of bitterness to grow up, poisoning your whole life.
He wants to sabotage your actions and purpose, your efforts to live obediently and wholeheartedly to God.
He wants to sabotage your actions and purpose, your efforts to live obediently and wholeheartedly to God.
But what about the flip side — righteous wrath?
But what about the flip side — righteous wrath?
All believers should be opposed to evil but it’s problematic when we assume justification for our response to that evil.
All believers should be opposed to evil but it’s problematic when we assume justification for our response to that evil.
Righteous wrath can degenerate into resentment or frustration to the point that it becomes sin.
Righteous wrath can degenerate into resentment or frustration to the point that it becomes sin.
If we don’t control wrath, it can take the form of flashes of temper toward others.
If we don’t control wrath, it can take the form of flashes of temper toward others.
What should be constructive anger can easily flame out of control.
What should be constructive anger can easily flame out of control.
When that happens, believers give the Devil an opportunity, and evil gains a foothold in individual believers and in the Christian community.
When that happens, believers give the Devil an opportunity, and evil gains a foothold in individual believers and in the Christian community.
3. Rely on the Holy Spirit.
3. Rely on the Holy Spirit.
Paul strongly urged believers not to grieve the Holy Spirit. His injunction reminded Christians of God’s presence: “And don’t grieve God’s Holy Spirit.
Paul strongly urged believers not to grieve the Holy Spirit. His injunction reminded Christians of God’s presence: “And don’t grieve God’s Holy Spirit.
You were sealed by Him for the day of redemption” (Ephesians 4:30).
You were sealed by Him for the day of redemption” (Ephesians 4:30).
30 And grieve not the holy Spirit of God, whereby ye are sealed unto the day of redemption.
You have a secret weapon: prayer!
You have a secret weapon: prayer!
When you’re struggling to control your anger — or any emotional or physical response for that matter — ask the Spirit to help you and to rule you.
When you’re struggling to control your anger — or any emotional or physical response for that matter — ask the Spirit to help you and to rule you.
When you see a bad situation coming or feel stressed, call on the Holy Spirit to help.
When you see a bad situation coming or feel stressed, call on the Holy Spirit to help.
Draw near to God and Satan has to flee (see James 4:7-8).
Draw near to God and Satan has to flee (see James 4:7-8).
7 Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.
8 Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands, ye sinners; and purify your hearts, ye double minded.
4. Remember the Costs of Your Actions.
4. Remember the Costs of Your Actions.
The most common way we harm others as a result of our anger is through the poor use of our speech: “No foul language is to come from your mouth, but only what is good for building up someone in need, so that it gives grace to those who hear” (Ephesians 4:29).
The most common way we harm others as a result of our anger is through the poor use of our speech: “No foul language is to come from your mouth, but only what is good for building up someone in need, so that it gives grace to those who hear” (Ephesians 4:29).
29 Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.
Take time to calm down before you choose how to respond. Seek to be compassionate, patient, and gentle with others.
Take time to calm down before you choose how to respond. Seek to be compassionate, patient, and gentle with others.
We all mess up and anger others.
We all mess up and anger others.
React to those who make you mad in the way you want those you make mad to react to you.
React to those who make you mad in the way you want those you make mad to react to you.
Rotten words are destructive, hurtful, and they cannot be taken back.
Rotten words are destructive, hurtful, and they cannot be taken back.
Life and death are found in the power of your tongue, so set a guard over your mouth.
Life and death are found in the power of your tongue, so set a guard over your mouth.
5. Realign Your Heart to God.
5. Realign Your Heart to God.
We’re called to be kind in our interactions with others.
We’re called to be kind in our interactions with others.
To be kind is to consider others’ good as important as our own.
To be kind is to consider others’ good as important as our own.
We’re to be compassionate — to extend heart-felt empathy concerning others’ needs.
We’re to be compassionate — to extend heart-felt empathy concerning others’ needs.
We’re to feel with others in their distress and help if possible.
We’re to feel with others in their distress and help if possible.
Even Christians sometimes wrong one another, but as God graciously provided forgiveness through Christ’s atoning death, we are to keep on forgiving one another.
Even Christians sometimes wrong one another, but as God graciously provided forgiveness through Christ’s atoning death, we are to keep on forgiving one another.
“All bitterness, anger and wrath, shouting and slander must be removed from you, along with all malice.
“All bitterness, anger and wrath, shouting and slander must be removed from you, along with all malice.
And be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving one another, just as God also forgave you in Christ” (Ephesians 4:31-32).
And be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving one another, just as God also forgave you in Christ” (Ephesians 4:31-32).
31 Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice:
32 And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.
The Greek word behind forgiving is not the usual word for forgive.
The Greek word behind forgiving is not the usual word for forgive.
It has the idea of graciousness toward others and includes pardoning wrongs.
It has the idea of graciousness toward others and includes pardoning wrongs.
God’s gracious forgiveness is to be the model and motive for believers’ extending forgiveness.
God’s gracious forgiveness is to be the model and motive for believers’ extending forgiveness.
Because God has forgiven us, we must forgive others.
Because God has forgiven us, we must forgive others.
The revenge cycle can only be halted by forgiveness.
The revenge cycle can only be halted by forgiveness.
When just one believer lives by Paul’s commands in these verses, that person has a positive impact on the church’s life and can move others to live by these principles.
When just one believer lives by Paul’s commands in these verses, that person has a positive impact on the church’s life and can move others to live by these principles.
Will you be that person?
Will you be that person?
The world is watching your reaction to frustrations and inconveniences.
The world is watching your reaction to frustrations and inconveniences.
How will you respond?
How will you respond?
CONFRONTING LACK OF SELF-- DISCIPLINE AND SELF--CONTROL
CONFRONTING LACK OF SELF-- DISCIPLINE AND SELF--CONTROL
INTRODUCTION
INTRODUCTION
Self-control and self-discipline are crucial to living a God-honoring, Spirit-led life
Self-control and self-discipline are crucial to living a God-honoring, Spirit-led life
Both are essential to not only godly living but also to accomplishing much of anything in life as this virtue (or vice) spills over into many other areas of life…we cannot pick and choose the areas of life in which we will exercise self-control
Both are essential to not only godly living but also to accomplishing much of anything in life as this virtue (or vice) spills over into many other areas of life…we cannot pick and choose the areas of life in which we will exercise self-control
In fact, a lack of self-control/self-discipline opens the door to a variety of other sins….when we seldom say “no” to our desires and emotions, we become more vulnerable to associated sins
In fact, a lack of self-control/self-discipline opens the door to a variety of other sins….when we seldom say “no” to our desires and emotions, we become more vulnerable to associated sins
Thus, a lack of self-control may be one of the more “secret sins” believers struggle with What is self-control?
Thus, a lack of self-control may be one of the more “secret sins” believers struggle with What is self-control?
It is a governance or prudent control of one’s desires, cravings, impulses, emotions, and passions.
It is a governance or prudent control of one’s desires, cravings, impulses, emotions, and passions.
It is saying no when we should say no.
It is saying no when we should say no.
It is moderation in legitimate desires and activities, and absolute restraint in areas that are clearly sinful.
It is moderation in legitimate desires and activities, and absolute restraint in areas that are clearly sinful.
Biblical self-control…covers every area of life and requires an unceasing conflict with the passions of the flesh that wage war against our souls (see 1 Peter 2:11).
Biblical self-control…covers every area of life and requires an unceasing conflict with the passions of the flesh that wage war against our souls (see 1 Peter 2:11).
11 Dearly beloved, I beseech you as strangers and pilgrims, abstain from fleshly lusts, which war against the soul;
This self-control is dependent on the influence and enablement of the Holy Spirit.
This self-control is dependent on the influence and enablement of the Holy Spirit.
It requires continual exposure of our mind to the words of God and continual prayer for the Holy Spirit to give us both the desire and power to exercise self-control.
It requires continual exposure of our mind to the words of God and continual prayer for the Holy Spirit to give us both the desire and power to exercise self-control.
We might say that self-control is not control by oneself through one’s own willpower but rather control of oneself through the power of the Holy Spirit.
We might say that self-control is not control by oneself through one’s own willpower but rather control of oneself through the power of the Holy Spirit.
Typically, self-discipline and self-control carry with it a negative connotation…something we rely on to complete our most difficult or least favorite tasks
Typically, self-discipline and self-control carry with it a negative connotation…something we rely on to complete our most difficult or least favorite tasks
But, self-discipline and self-control should be seen positively…as something that promotes joy…in much the same way as a train is only free when it is confined to the railroad tracks In general, we discipline ourselves to avoid the negative consequences of a lack of discipline.
But, self-discipline and self-control should be seen positively…as something that promotes joy…in much the same way as a train is only free when it is confined to the railroad tracks In general, we discipline ourselves to avoid the negative consequences of a lack of discipline.
We know that we will suffer if we don’t exercise, if we don’t manage our finances, if we never crawl out of bed.
We know that we will suffer if we don’t exercise, if we don’t manage our finances, if we never crawl out of bed.
If these things were pleasant, they wouldn’t require so much effort, right?
If these things were pleasant, they wouldn’t require so much effort, right?
We don’t need discipline to eat chocolate but to not eat chocolate.
We don’t need discipline to eat chocolate but to not eat chocolate.
Discipline is associated with self-denial and it is not surprising, then, that it tends to have negative connotations.
Discipline is associated with self-denial and it is not surprising, then, that it tends to have negative connotations.
But sometimes it really just comes down to how we frame it, because discipline is equally important when it comes to life’s pleasant tasks.
But sometimes it really just comes down to how we frame it, because discipline is equally important when it comes to life’s pleasant tasks.
We don’t just need to discipline ourselves away from unpleasantness but toward joy.
We don’t just need to discipline ourselves away from unpleasantness but toward joy.
Discipline allows us to picture desirable outcomes, to form a plan to get there, to take the necessary steps, and to experience the joys we long for.
Discipline allows us to picture desirable outcomes, to form a plan to get there, to take the necessary steps, and to experience the joys we long for.
Discipline is good because discipline delivers joy…When we associate discipline only with avoidance of negative outcomes we rob ourselves of a means God uses to promote our joy and ultimately our joy in him.
Discipline is good because discipline delivers joy…When we associate discipline only with avoidance of negative outcomes we rob ourselves of a means God uses to promote our joy and ultimately our joy in him.
BIBLICAL SUPPORT
BIBLICAL SUPPORT
Proverbs 16:32 ~ He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty, And he who rules his spirit, than he who captures a city.
Proverbs 16:32 ~ He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty, And he who rules his spirit, than he who captures a city.
32 He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; And he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city.
Being able to “rule your spirit” brings great blessings! Proverbs 25:28 ~ Like a city that is broken into and without walls Is a man who has no control over his spirit.
Being able to “rule your spirit” brings great blessings! Proverbs 25:28 ~ Like a city that is broken into and without walls Is a man who has no control over his spirit.
28 He that hath no rule over his own spirit Is like a city that is broken down, and without walls.
In biblical times, a city defended itself primarily by its walls – if its walls were breached the enemies would pour into the city and conquer it
In biblical times, a city defended itself primarily by its walls – if its walls were breached the enemies would pour into the city and conquer it
Solomon likens the person without self-control to the city without walls – they are vulnerable to various temptations
Solomon likens the person without self-control to the city without walls – they are vulnerable to various temptations
Unfortunately, Solomon himself became one of the greatest examples of this – he let his passions run out of control in gathering 700 wives and 300 concubines…a poor choice that ultimately led his heart away from God and resulted in the kingdom being divided under his son Rehoboam 1 Corinthians 9:24-27 ~
Unfortunately, Solomon himself became one of the greatest examples of this – he let his passions run out of control in gathering 700 wives and 300 concubines…a poor choice that ultimately led his heart away from God and resulted in the kingdom being divided under his son Rehoboam 1 Corinthians 9:24-27 ~
24 Know ye not that they which run in a race run all, but one receiveth the prize? So run, that ye may obtain.
25 And every man that striveth for the mastery is temperate in all things. Now they do it to obtain a corruptible crown; but we an incorruptible.
26 I therefore so run, not as uncertainly; so fight I, not as one that beateth the air:
27 But I keep under my body, and bring it into subjection: lest that by any means, when I have preached to others, I myself should be a castaway.
Do you not know that those who run in a race all run, but only one receives the prize?
Do you not know that those who run in a race all run, but only one receives the prize?
Run in such a way that you may win.
Run in such a way that you may win.
Everyone who competes in the games exercises self-control in all things.
Everyone who competes in the games exercises self-control in all things.
They then do it to receive a perishable wreath, but we an imperishable.
They then do it to receive a perishable wreath, but we an imperishable.
Therefore I run in such a way, as not without aim; I box in such a way, as not beating the air; but I discipline my body and make it my slave, so that, after I have preached to others, I myself will not be disqualified.
Therefore I run in such a way, as not without aim; I box in such a way, as not beating the air; but I discipline my body and make it my slave, so that, after I have preached to others, I myself will not be disqualified.
Paul illustrates through athletic imagery the importance of training and disciplining himself through selfcontrol to keep himself from becoming disqualified from the work of the ministry Galatians 5:22-23
Paul illustrates through athletic imagery the importance of training and disciplining himself through selfcontrol to keep himself from becoming disqualified from the work of the ministry Galatians 5:22-23
22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,
23 Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.
~ But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control ; against such things there is no law. Self-control is one of the fruits of the Spirit; thus, it gives evidence in a believer’s life that they are walking in the Spirit rather than by the flesh Philippians 3:12-14 ~
~ But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control ; against such things there is no law. Self-control is one of the fruits of the Spirit; thus, it gives evidence in a believer’s life that they are walking in the Spirit rather than by the flesh Philippians 3:12-14 ~
12 Not as though I had already attained, either were already perfect: but I follow after, if that I may apprehend that for which also I am apprehended of Christ Jesus.
13 Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before,
14 I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.
Not that I have already obtained it or have already become perfect, but I press on so that I may lay hold of that for which also I was laid hold of by Christ Jesus. Brethren, I do not regard myself as having laid hold of it yet; but one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and reaching forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.
Not that I have already obtained it or have already become perfect, but I press on so that I may lay hold of that for which also I was laid hold of by Christ Jesus. Brethren, I do not regard myself as having laid hold of it yet; but one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and reaching forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.
Paul uses the analogy of a sprinter with his muscles straining and his sights set on the finish line to illustrate the self-discipline necessary for living the Christian life
Paul uses the analogy of a sprinter with his muscles straining and his sights set on the finish line to illustrate the self-discipline necessary for living the Christian life
He is describing the aggressive, energetic action necessary for reaching the goal of Christlikeness , brutal, haters of good… 2 Timothy 3:1-3 ~
He is describing the aggressive, energetic action necessary for reaching the goal of Christlikeness , brutal, haters of good… 2 Timothy 3:1-3 ~
1 This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come.
2 For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,
3 Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good,
But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come. For men will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, revilers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy, unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without selfcontrol
But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come. For men will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, revilers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy, unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without selfcontrol
A lack of self-control is a characteristic of those in the last days Titus 2:2, 5, 6 ~
A lack of self-control is a characteristic of those in the last days Titus 2:2, 5, 6 ~
2 That the aged men be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience.
5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
6 Young men likewise exhort to be sober minded.
Older men are to be temperate, dignified, sensible , sound in faith, in love, in perseverance…[younger women are] to besensible , pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored…Likewise urge the young men to be sensible
Older men are to be temperate, dignified, sensible , sound in faith, in love, in perseverance…[younger women are] to besensible , pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored…Likewise urge the young men to be sensible
Being “sensible” or “self-controlled” should be the mark of godly men and women in the church Titus 2:11-12 ~
Being “sensible” or “self-controlled” should be the mark of godly men and women in the church Titus 2:11-12 ~
11 For the grace of God that bringeth salvation hath appeared to all men,
12 Teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly, in this present world;
For the grace of God has appeared, bringing salvation to all men, instructing us to deny ungodliness and worldly desires and to live sensibly , righteously and godly in the present age.
For the grace of God has appeared, bringing salvation to all men, instructing us to deny ungodliness and worldly desires and to live sensibly , righteously and godly in the present age.
The same grace that brings salvation also trains us to live self-controlled lives 3 Hebrews 12:1-2 ~
The same grace that brings salvation also trains us to live self-controlled lives 3 Hebrews 12:1-2 ~
1 Wherefore seeing we also are compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us,
2 Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God.
Therefore, since we have so great a cloud of witnesses surrounding us, let us also lay aside every encumbrance and the sin which so easily entangles us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, fixing our eyes on Jesus…
Therefore, since we have so great a cloud of witnesses surrounding us, let us also lay aside every encumbrance and the sin which so easily entangles us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, fixing our eyes on Jesus…
The writer of Hebrews uses the imagery of a runner running the race as an illustration of self-discipline 1 Peter 1:13 ~
The writer of Hebrews uses the imagery of a runner running the race as an illustration of self-discipline 1 Peter 1:13 ~
13 Wherefore gird up the loins of your mind, be sober, and hope to the end for the grace that is to be brought unto you at the revelation of Jesus Christ;
Therefore, prepare your minds for action, keep sober in spirit, fix your hope completely on the grace to be brought to you at the revelation of Jesus Christ
Therefore, prepare your minds for action, keep sober in spirit, fix your hope completely on the grace to be brought to you at the revelation of Jesus Christ
Sober mindedness in the Bible has to do with understanding priorities and thinking about things you ought to think about
Sober mindedness in the Bible has to do with understanding priorities and thinking about things you ought to think about
A disciplined mind is a mind that avoids the intoxicating elements and allurements of the world
A disciplined mind is a mind that avoids the intoxicating elements and allurements of the world
The self-controlled, self-disciplined, sober-minded person is somebody whose mind is clear, whose priorities are fixed, who has a spiritual steadfastness, who exercises self-control in their thinking, and who has balanced priorities 1 Peter 5:8
The self-controlled, self-disciplined, sober-minded person is somebody whose mind is clear, whose priorities are fixed, who has a spiritual steadfastness, who exercises self-control in their thinking, and who has balanced priorities 1 Peter 5:8
8 Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour:
~ Be of sober spirit, be on the alert. Your adversary, the devil, prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.
~ Be of sober spirit, be on the alert. Your adversary, the devil, prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.
Peter exhorts us to essentially pull in all the loose ends in our thinking so that we are spiritually watchful and living by principles and priorities 2 Peter 1:5-6 ~
Peter exhorts us to essentially pull in all the loose ends in our thinking so that we are spiritually watchful and living by principles and priorities 2 Peter 1:5-6 ~
5 And beside this, giving all diligence, add to your faith virtue; and to virtue knowledge;
6 And to knowledge temperance; and to temperance patience; and to patience godliness;
Now for this very reason also, applying all diligence, in your faith supply moral excellence, and in your moral excellence, knowledge, and in your knowledge, self-control , and in yourself-control , perseverance, and in your perseverance, godliness
Now for this very reason also, applying all diligence, in your faith supply moral excellence, and in your moral excellence, knowledge, and in your knowledge, self-control , and in yourself-control , perseverance, and in your perseverance, godliness
Peter exhorts believers to a life of “self-control”…to literally “hold oneself in”
Peter exhorts believers to a life of “self-control”…to literally “hold oneself in”
Just like an athlete who disciplines their body and puts it through the rigors of training in order to be most competitive, so too a Christian is to control the flesh, the passions, and the bodily desires rather than allowing themselves to be controlled by them
Just like an athlete who disciplines their body and puts it through the rigors of training in order to be most competitive, so too a Christian is to control the flesh, the passions, and the bodily desires rather than allowing themselves to be controlled by them
SOME AREAS TO CULTIVATE SELF DISCIPLINE
SOME AREAS TO CULTIVATE SELF DISCIPLINE
Though self-control needs to be exercised in every area of life, the following are some ways that believers might fail to demonstrate it:
Though self-control needs to be exercised in every area of life, the following are some ways that believers might fail to demonstrate it:
Eating and Drinking
Eating and Drinking
The issue here is not how much a person weighs as there are some people who don’t gain weight but do fail to exercise self-control in their eating and drinking
The issue here is not how much a person weighs as there are some people who don’t gain weight but do fail to exercise self-control in their eating and drinking
Certainly, God has given us all good things to enjoy: 1 Timothy 4:3 ~ men who forbid marriage and advocate abstaining from foods which God has created to be gratefully shared in by those who believe and know the truth
Certainly, God has given us all good things to enjoy: 1 Timothy 4:3 ~ men who forbid marriage and advocate abstaining from foods which God has created to be gratefully shared in by those who believe and know the truth
3 Forbidding to marry, and commanding to abstain from meats, which God hath created to be received with thanksgiving of them which believe and know the truth.
The important issue here is making sure that we avoid the tendency to indulge our desires so that they control us, instead of us controlling those desires
The important issue here is making sure that we avoid the tendency to indulge our desires so that they control us, instead of us controlling those desires
Anger and Temper 4 Proverbs 14:17 ~ A quick-tempered man acts foolishly, And a man of evil devices is hated. Proverbs 15:18 ~ A hot-tempered man stirs up strife, But the slow to anger calms a dispute. Proverbs 29:22
Anger and Temper 4 Proverbs 14:17 ~ A quick-tempered man acts foolishly, And a man of evil devices is hated. Proverbs 15:18 ~ A hot-tempered man stirs up strife, But the slow to anger calms a dispute. Proverbs 29:22
17 He that is soon angry dealeth foolishly: And a man of wicked devices is hated.
18 A wrathful man stirreth up strife: But he that is slow to anger appeaseth strife.
22 An angry man stirreth up strife, And a furious man aboundeth in transgression.
~ An angry man stirs up strife, And a hot-tempered man abounds in transgression James 1:19-20 ~
~ An angry man stirs up strife, And a hot-tempered man abounds in transgression James 1:19-20 ~
19 Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:
20 For the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God.
This you know, my beloved brethren.
This you know, my beloved brethren.
But everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger;for the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God Believers who are known to be hot-tempered or to have a short fuse demonstrate that they not only have an anger problem, but they commit the added sin of a lack of self-control
But everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger;for the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God Believers who are known to be hot-tempered or to have a short fuse demonstrate that they not only have an anger problem, but they commit the added sin of a lack of self-control
A person who easily flies off the handle in anger or tends to become easily irritable is one who exercises little or no control over their emotions
A person who easily flies off the handle in anger or tends to become easily irritable is one who exercises little or no control over their emotions
Such displays of anger should not characterize the believer who is to be self-controlled and sober-minded Finances
Such displays of anger should not characterize the believer who is to be self-controlled and sober-minded Finances
Average American Household Debt: $5,700. Average for balance-carrying households: $16,048 Total Outstanding U.S. Consumer Debt: $3.4 trillion.
Average American Household Debt: $5,700. Average for balance-carrying households: $16,048 Total Outstanding U.S. Consumer Debt: $3.4 trillion.
Total revolving debt: $929 billion 38.1% of all households carry some sort of credit card debt.
Total revolving debt: $929 billion 38.1% of all households carry some sort of credit card debt.
Households with the lowest net worth (zero or negative) hold an average of $10,308 in credit card debt.
Households with the lowest net worth (zero or negative) hold an average of $10,308 in credit card debt.
The Northeast and West Coast hold the highest average credit card debt – both averaging over $8,000. http://www.valuepenguin.com/average-credit-card-debt
The Northeast and West Coast hold the highest average credit card debt – both averaging over $8,000. http://www.valuepenguin.com/average-credit-card-debt
These statistics show that Americans are spending beyond their means
These statistics show that Americans are spending beyond their means
The fact that there are several Christians ministries dedicated to the purpose of helping Christians get out of debt indicates that this is not just a secular problem
The fact that there are several Christians ministries dedicated to the purpose of helping Christians get out of debt indicates that this is not just a secular problem
Many people, including Christians, are indulging in whatever their heart desires, whether they can afford it or not
Many people, including Christians, are indulging in whatever their heart desires, whether they can afford it or not
Believers must live within their God-ordained means and commit to investing in eternity Matthew 6:19-20 ~
Believers must live within their God-ordained means and commit to investing in eternity Matthew 6:19-20 ~
19 Lay not up for yourselves treasures upon earth, where moth and rust doth corrupt, and where thieves break through and steal:
20 But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust doth corrupt, and where thieves do not break through nor steal:
Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal.
Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal.
But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys, and where thieves do not break in or steal; for where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.
But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys, and where thieves do not break in or steal; for where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.
A Radical Mortifying of Sin in General Matthew 5:29-30 ~
A Radical Mortifying of Sin in General Matthew 5:29-30 ~
29 And if thy right eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell.
30 And if thy right hand offend thee, cut it off, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell.
If your right eye makes you stumble, tear it out and throw it from you; for it is better for you to lose one of the parts of your body, than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.
If your right eye makes you stumble, tear it out and throw it from you; for it is better for you to lose one of the parts of your body, than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.
If your right hand makes you stumble, cut it off and throw it from you; for it is better for you to lose one of the parts of your body, than for your whole body to go into hell.
If your right hand makes you stumble, cut it off and throw it from you; for it is better for you to lose one of the parts of your body, than for your whole body to go into hell.
Rather than going soft on sin and catering to it, believers must do war with sin, mortifying the flesh which wages war against us (1 Pet 2:11) and considering themselves dead to sin (Col 3:5) Other Areas
Rather than going soft on sin and catering to it, believers must do war with sin, mortifying the flesh which wages war against us (1 Pet 2:11) and considering themselves dead to sin (Col 3:5) Other Areas
11 Dearly beloved, I beseech you as strangers and pilgrims, abstain from fleshly lusts, which war against the soul;
5 Mortify therefore your members which are upon the earth; fornication, uncleanness, inordinate affection, evil concupiscence, and covetousness, which is idolatry:
Inordinate time surfing the Internet?
Inordinate time surfing the Internet?
Excessive TV/movie watching, video game playing?
Excessive TV/movie watching, video game playing?
Engaging in hobbies?
Engaging in hobbies?
Playing/watching sports?
Playing/watching sports?
Impulse buying?
Impulse buying?
PRACTICAL STEPS TO DEVELOPING SELF-DISCIPLINE
PRACTICAL STEPS TO DEVELOPING SELF-DISCIPLINE
1. Start Small – Learn to discipline yourself in the little things of life because it is the little things of life that make for the big successes.
1. Start Small – Learn to discipline yourself in the little things of life because it is the little things of life that make for the big successes.
2. Clean your environment – Get rid of all that stuff…clean your desk, your room, your house, your garage.
2. Clean your environment – Get rid of all that stuff…clean your desk, your room, your house, your garage.
Just become discontent with a mess in general.
Just become discontent with a mess in general.
Get yourself to the place where orderliness matters.
Get yourself to the place where orderliness matters.
Learn how to get rid of the excess, learn how to trim down, learn how to keep your environment clean and clear so that you can function without a myriad of distractions and so that you've made decisions and selections about what matters and what doesn’t matter.
Learn how to get rid of the excess, learn how to trim down, learn how to keep your environment clean and clear so that you can function without a myriad of distractions and so that you've made decisions and selections about what matters and what doesn’t matter.
3. Organize your life - Plan the use of your time; don't just react to circumstances.
3. Organize your life - Plan the use of your time; don't just react to circumstances.
Use a calendar and make a daily list of things you need to accomplish.
Use a calendar and make a daily list of things you need to accomplish.
Establish time frames in which they need to be done and learn to train yourself to keep that schedule.
Establish time frames in which they need to be done and learn to train yourself to keep that schedule.
If you don't control your time, everything else will.
If you don't control your time, everything else will.
4. Be on time - That may not seem very spiritual, but it's important.
4. Be on time - That may not seem very spiritual, but it's important.
If you're supposed to be somewhere at a specific time, be there on time.
If you're supposed to be somewhere at a specific time, be there on time.
Develop the ability to discipline your desires, activities, and demands so that you can arrive on time, even in the small, seemingly insignificant things, because it says a lot about how your life is ordered.
Develop the ability to discipline your desires, activities, and demands so that you can arrive on time, even in the small, seemingly insignificant things, because it says a lot about how your life is ordered.
Being able to order yourself such that you can get where you need to be on time speaks volumes to people you are supposed to meet with about how important it is for you to be with them.
Being able to order yourself such that you can get where you need to be on time speaks volumes to people you are supposed to meet with about how important it is for you to be with them.
And remember, on time is early!
And remember, on time is early!
5. Keep your word - If you say you're going to do it, then do it and do it when you're going to do it and do it the way you said you'd do it because your word is so important.
5. Keep your word - If you say you're going to do it, then do it and do it when you're going to do it and do it the way you said you'd do it because your word is so important.
Don't make promises you can't keep.
Don't make promises you can't keep.
Make commitments and see them through.
Make commitments and see them through.
If you learn to keep your word in the small things, then you'll begin to keep your word in the big things.
If you learn to keep your word in the small things, then you'll begin to keep your word in the big things.
6. Do the hardest job first - When you do that, you will find it easier to do the simpler tasks.
6. Do the hardest job first - When you do that, you will find it easier to do the simpler tasks.
Most people work on the reverse…and when they run out of time and energy, then they have an excuse not to do what they should have done first because it was most difficult and probably most important.
Most people work on the reverse…and when they run out of time and energy, then they have an excuse not to do what they should have done first because it was most difficult and probably most important.
So save the easiest thing for last.
So save the easiest thing for last.
7. Finish what you start – Commit to completing one task in its entirety before moving on to another task.
7. Finish what you start – Commit to completing one task in its entirety before moving on to another task.
8. Practice self-denial - Learn to say no to your feelings. Learn to do what you know to be right even if you don't feel like doing it.
8. Practice self-denial - Learn to say no to your feelings. Learn to do what you know to be right even if you don't feel like doing it.
Sometimes it's even beneficial to deny yourself things that are acceptable to have, like a doughnut in the morning or dessert after dinner.
Sometimes it's even beneficial to deny yourself things that are acceptable to have, like a doughnut in the morning or dessert after dinner.
Exercising such self-restraint helps you develop the habit of keeping other things under control.
Exercising such self-restraint helps you develop the habit of keeping other things under control.
Cultivating discipline in the physical realm will help you become disciplined in your spiritual life.
Cultivating discipline in the physical realm will help you become disciplined in your spiritual life.
9. Welcome responsibility - When you have an opportunity to do something that needs to be done, volunteer for it if you have talent in that area.
9. Welcome responsibility - When you have an opportunity to do something that needs to be done, volunteer for it if you have talent in that area.
Accepting responsibility can force you to organize yourself.
Accepting responsibility can force you to organize yourself.
10. Wean yourself off entertainment – This teaches you to view entertainment as something arbitrary...something you can take or leave.
10. Wean yourself off entertainment – This teaches you to view entertainment as something arbitrary...something you can take or leave.
Get yourself to the place where you if you have excess time do things that are productive rather than sit and be entertained.
Get yourself to the place where you if you have excess time do things that are productive rather than sit and be entertained.
Entertainment makes a very, very small contribution to your well-being and to your success.
Entertainment makes a very, very small contribution to your well-being and to your success.