Marriage

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What is Biblical Marriage?

Genesis 2:18-24

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1. God’s idea

When God created everything.. he said it was good each day and when he created man he said it was very good

But the first thing that was not good was that man was alone on the earth

So God’s idea was a partner for Adam to do life with, so he created a woman from man Eve

I do want to note that God is a God of order, he is not a chaotic God

Genesis 2:18 (ESV)

The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper fit (suitable) for him.”

Genesis 2:20 (ESV)

20 The man gave names to all livestock and to the birds of the heavens and to every beast of the field. But for Adam[a] there was not found a helper fit for him.

Here the word helper is a noun ..not a verb ..

It was not the intention of God for Adams partner to just help hand him with things but it meant that this is someone that would come along side adam and cooperate with him. Make him better and someone he would make better. God decided that should be a woman.

So this was God’s idea and since it is God gets to define biblical marriage.

Genesis 2: 22-24 (ESV)

22 And the rib that the Lord God had taken from the man he made[a] into a woman and brought her to the man. 23 Then the man said,

“This at last is bone of my bones     and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman,     because she was taken out of Man.”

24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

One flesh is the same bond that God has with His people.. God maed a covenant with them

do not use much in our language and that is covenant. This is a binding relationship not only with your spouse but with God.

How many of us would not want God to take away his covenant with us?

Deuteronomy 31:8 (ESV)

8 It is the Lord who goes before you. He will be with you; he will not leave you or forsake you. Do not fear or be dismayed.”

Dennis Rainey a well known Christian family life speaker writes that "For the past two years I have had a growing concern that the Christian community has passively watched the "dumbing down" of the marriage covenant. Marriage has become little more than an upgraded social contract between two people—not a holy covenant between a man and a woman and their God for a lifetime... tattoo pic

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2. Gods Purpose

Procreation

Genesis 1:28 (ESV)

And God blessed them. And God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it, and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth.”

After the flood noah sons where commanded to be fruituful and multiply genesis 9:1 and verse 7

Psalm 127:3-5 (ESV)

Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord,     the fruit of the womb a reward. 4 Like arrows in the hand of a warrior     are the children of one's youth. 5 Blessed is the man     who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame     when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.[b

Ephesians 6:4 (ESV)

Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

Now I do want to encourage those who are married and are praying for children or those who are single or widowed.. its ok if you are not physically fruitful because the most important command we have is from Christ and that is to be spiritually fruitful Go and making and doing like him

Love

Ephesians 5:25-30 (ESV)

25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. 28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church,30 because we are members of his body.

Marriage should demonstrate love

1 Corinthians 13:4-8a

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant 5 or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; 6 it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. 7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

8 Love never ends.

So let me ask you are you doing all ove these in your marriage?

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Ephesians 5:31-33 (ESV)

31 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. 33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

The mystery paul says

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3. God’s Gift

John 17 Unity

Sex

Dr. Joseph Shrand is an instructor in psychiatry at Harvard Medical School.

oxytocin, which has been called “the cuddle hormone." Oxytocin creates a feeling of warmth, security, bonding and trust. “It’s a much deeper, more powerful and more modern part of love,”

Oxytocin is not only released during birth and breastfeeding but also during orgasm,”

This is why sometimes someone who has had sex with someone and all the friends are like girl he is no good for you and they have blinders on..because they have been bonded together.

This is why sex with multiple partners becomes complicated. it messes this up for us our brains where not meant to deal with multiple partners, God did not design us this way Also Since God said be fruitful and multiply ..this helps us understand who sex is for

A covenant married man woman

That means no sex before married.

1 Corinthians 7:2 (ESV)

But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband.

No sex with anyone other than your spouse

Hebrews 13:4 (ESV)

Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.

and no sex with someone of the same sex.

Romans 1:26-27 (ESV)

For this reason God gave them up to dishonorable passions. For their women exchanged natural relations for those that are contrary to nature; 27 and the men likewise gave up natural relations with women and were consumed with passion for one another, men committing shameless acts with men and receiving in themselves the due penalty for their error.

As a believer when I do what I want instead of being obedient to God, I stop worshipping God and worship myself.

1 peter 3:15 (ESV)

but in your hearts honor Christ the Lord as holy, always being prepared to make a defense to anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope that is in you; yet do it with gentleness and respect,

To those who are married

1 Corinthians 7:2-5 (ESV)

2 But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. 3 The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. 5 Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

Serve each

Gods image

Genesis 1:26 (ESV)

26 Then God said, “Let us make man in our image, after our likeness. And let them have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over the livestock and over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.”

Some people ask is what I am doing a sin?

What if we ask the question a different way…

Is what you are doing holy and pleasing to the Lord and does it point others to his definition of marriage?

Now before we go through all this I know I am painting this picture of the perfect marriage and most of us are like yeah does not exist..that is right..

We Just went through Joseph story his dad Isaiah was a hot mess I mean he had kids with 4 different woman it cause all this chaos.. but God can redeem this he can restores this why because he Is he God who saves.

The gift of salvation

Hosea story

The Book of Hosea assures us of God’s unconditional love for His people. But it is also a picture of how Jesus is dishonored and angered by the actions of His bride. How can a wife who is given an abundance of love, mercy, and grace treat a husband with so much disrespect? Yet, we have done just that. We read over and over how the isrealites turned their backs on God, we need to look no further than the mirror in front of us to see a reflection of those same Israelites.

Jesus never left us

1 Cor. 7:12-13 (ESV)

To the rest I say (I, not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. 13 If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him.

Philipians 1:6 (ESV)

And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ.

Galatians 2:20 (ESV)

I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.

Jesus endured the cross for us

2 Corinthians 6:4 (ESV)

but as servants of God we commend ourselves in every way: by great endurance, in afflictions, hardships, calamities,

John piper said, “Jesus so desires your ultimate comfort that he will make you very uncomfortable in order to give it to you.”

Philippians 2:3-4 (ESV)

Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. 4 Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.

Jesus shows us his love

1 Peter 3:1-2 (ESV)

3 Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, 2 when they see your respectful and pure conduct.

1 John 4:7-12 (ESV)

7 Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. 8 Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love. 9 In this the love of God was made manifest among us, that God sent his only Son into the world, so that we might live through him. 10 In this is love, not that we have loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins. 11 Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. 12 No one has ever seen God; if we love one another, God abides in us and his love is perfected in us.

Jesus is our Saviour

Triangle..

Marriage counseling Matt and Erin Gunderson

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