Advice #27
ADVICE DAD NEVER GAVE YOU
Ralph Sorter
It’s near the end of the school term and the kids will be bringing home the final report card. I remember some years as a child when I opened the report card with fear and trepidation. Will I advance to the next grade? I didn’t get straight “A’s” until I was in Bible College.
Ever thought of giving your children a report card at home? Here’s a way to boost their ego by giving them 5 A’s. James Dobson suggests a five A’s when it comes to resolving conflict among siblings. It’s not so much a performance report card as it is way to teach them how to resolve conflict.
Admit what you did wrong. Children need to be taught to take responsibility for what they did wrong. We can assist them when we coach them concerning their wrong desires and bad choices.
Apologize for how your choice affected the other person. When they begin to see how they said things or handled things, they will begin to see why it hurt the other person. The other person needs to hear you express your sorrow for what you now realize was wrong.
Accept the consequences for your wrongdoing without argument or excuses. Excuses for wrong behavior is not owning up to what they did wrong. A simple admittance that they deserve the consequences shows a big step towards maturity.
Ask forgiveness. This step shows they have accepted the responsibility for the behavior and they are now making things right with the other person.
Alter your choice in the future. If we do not learn from our mistakes, we are doomed to repeat them. Help them think over what happened and guide them to a plan on how they are going to act differently next time.
A Message from HOPE’S
Marriage & Family Ministry
ADVICE DAD NEVER GAVE YOU
Ralph Sorter
It’s near the end of the school term and the kids will be bringing home the final report card. I remember some years as a child when I opened the report card with fear and trepidation. Will I advance to the next grade? I didn’t get straight “A’s” until I was in Bible College.
Ever thought of giving your children a report card at home? Here’s a way to boost their ego by giving them 5 A’s. James Dobson suggests a five A’s when it comes to resolving conflict among siblings. It’s not so much a performance report card as it is way to teach them how to resolve conflict.
Admit what you did wrong. Children need to be taught to take responsibility for what they did wrong. We can assist them when we coach them concerning their wrong desires and bad choices.
Apologize for how your choice affected the other person. When they begin to see how they said things or handled things, they will begin to see why it hurt the other person. The other person needs to hear you express your sorrow for what you now realize was wrong.
Accept the consequences for your wrongdoing without argument or excuses. Excuses for wrong behavior is not owning up to what they did wrong. A simple admittance that they deserve the consequences shows a big step towards maturity.
Ask forgiveness. This step shows they have accepted the responsibility for the behavior and they are now making things right with the other person.
Alter your choice in the future. If we do not learn from our mistakes, we are doomed to repeat them. Help them think over what happened and guide them to a plan on how they are going to act differently next time.
A Message from HOPE’S
Marriage & Family Ministry
ADVICE DAD NEVER GAVE YOU
Ralph Sorter
It’s near the end of the school term and the kids will be bringing home the final report card. I remember some years as a child when I opened the report card with fear and trepidation. Will I advance to the next grade? I didn’t get straight “A’s” until I was in Bible College.
Ever thought of giving your children a report card at home? Here’s a way to boost their ego by giving them 5 A’s. James Dobson suggests a five A’s when it comes to resolving conflict among siblings. It’s not so much a performance report card as it is way to teach them how to resolve conflict.
Admit what you did wrong. Children need to be taught to take responsibility for what they did wrong. We can assist them when we coach them concerning their wrong desires and bad choices.
Apologize for how your choice affected the other person. When they begin to see how they said things or handled things, they will begin to see why it hurt the other person. The other person needs to hear you express your sorrow for what you now realize was wrong.
Accept the consequences for your wrongdoing without argument or excuses. Excuses for wrong behavior is not owning up to what they did wrong. A simple admittance that they deserve the consequences shows a big step towards maturity.
Ask forgiveness. This step shows they have accepted the responsibility for the behavior and they are now making things right with the other person.
Alter your choice in the future. If we do not learn from our mistakes, we are doomed to repeat them. Help them think over what happened and guide them to a plan on how they are going to act differently next time.