Husbands and Wives

Ephesians 5:22–33 ESV

Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

The Head of the House

Ephesians 5:22–24 ESV

Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.

Adam was first then eve

when they sinned Adam recieved greater punishment

Genesis 3:16–19 ESV

To the woman he said, “I will surely multiply your pain in childbearing; in pain you shall bring forth children. Your desire shall be contrary to your husband, but he shall rule over you.” And to Adam he said, “Because you have listened to the voice of your wife and have eaten of the tree of which I commanded you, ‘You shall not eat of it,’ cursed is the ground because of you; in pain you shall eat of it all the days of your life; thorns and thistles it shall bring forth for you; and you shall eat the plants of the field. By the sweat of your face you shall eat bread, till you return to the ground, for out of it you were taken; for you are dust, and to dust you shall return.”

Responsibility with the husband

men -font be lax

women don’t usurp his authority

disagree in private not in front of children

Submission does not mean he is always right but rather it honors his God-appointed leadership and through honoring his leadership you bring honor to God.

Therefore when his leadership is contrary to God or brings shame upon God then it should not be followed.

The Bible never teaches man right to rule but rather God’s right to rule and he has given responsibilities to the man as is his prerogative.

Love the Glue of the Family

Ephesians 5:25–30 ESV

Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body.

husbands way to show love

Studies show the top three needs of a woman in a relationship are spiritual leadership affection/appreciation, and security/stability

Nourish and cherish

gave himself up for her

sanctify her

Respect - woman’s way to show love

Studies show the top three needs of a man are respect trust and acceptance

submittance - displays trust and acceptance

Final say - God

Oneness the Prize before Us

Ephesians 5:31–32 ESV

“Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church.

child our love and affection was to parents

fulfillment from them

Once married that should cease become our spouse

then he compares that to christ and the church

in the same way a Christian gets pleasure from worshiping Christ we should find pleasure in our spouse

Again as we love and serve Christ we should love and serve our spouse

You want to know how you are doing in marriage compare to christ and the church