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A Bride’s Role in Marriage
Sunday, November 9, 2003
Haven Reformed Church
Hamilton, Michigan
A Bride’s Role in Marriage
Preacher: Paul Van Maaren
/Be subject to one another out of reverence for Christ./
/Be subject to one another out of reverence for Christ./
Usually, we expect to hear God’s words about marriage when we go to a wedding.
And then however, the pastor is speaking to the couple at the center of the ceremony.
The last wedding that I attended the pastor spoke so directly to the couple that he even stood at arms length or less to them.
And yet, as all who have been to a wedding know, though the words are for the bride and groom, they also ring in our ears and stir in our hearts as we sit as witnesses to the their marriage.
Perhaps at sometime, in all the weddings you have been too, you’ve heard these words.
/Be subject to one another out of reverence for Christ./
And its easier for us to hear God’s words about marriage at a wedding because there is a bride and a groom to which the words are specifically spoken.
But when we gather on Sunday its harder.
Its harder because there is no bride or groom and so many of us have felt the pain that marriage can bring.
That pain may be of a marriage that has ended in divorce, or the pain of a spouse leaving you for another.
Your dearly loved husband or wife may have passed away.
Your pain may not be heartache but headache.
You may be suffering the pain of physical abuse in your marriage.
So, this morning, whether we are married or not, for general or very specific reasons, we may want to tune out and say, “Hey this doesn’t apply to me, why should I listen?”
Go ahead, listen.
For God has given us humans marriage.
And through marriage we have something concrete that helps us.
It helps us understand how all believers, including us stand in relationship with Christ.
We are his body and we are his bride.
As we have gathered here this morning, God’s words about marriage are not just for married people but for all of us who are the body and the bride of Christ.
Consider this:
Our church ministry will only be as strong as our family ministry.
And our family ministry will only be as strong as our marriages.
We can walk in very dangerous territory if we read any Bible passage out of its context.
And unfortunately our passage this morning has been severely read and out of its context for some time.
Verse 21 becomes the lenses, by which we read the portions that follow.
Verse 21 reads,
/Be subject to one another out of reverence for Christ./
However, before we go there let just make some very general observations.
The first is to notice what this passage does not say.
It does not say, “Husbands, make sure that your wives are being subject to you.”
It just does not say it.
My grandma can’t stand this text.
Because for, dare we say centuries, it has been understood and misapplied.
The!
Wives have responsibilities.
Husbands have responsibilities.
And neither spouse has the responsibility of making sure the other is carrying out each ones responsibilities.
Second, we should count words.
In the Greek NT text, from which we have our English translation, there are 144 words to husbands and 47 to wives.
That is over 3 times more to husbands than wives.
Perhaps you grew up in a place and time like me, where all that we heard was “Wives, be subject to your husbands.”
What happened to all the words spoken to men? They’ve been ignored for the sake of making sure our wives are subject to us men.
Finally, this text is often used as part of the argument against women in ministry.
But it simply is not.
When we look at the whole of the text from verse 21 to verse 33.
It plainly is not about women in ministry but about marriage.
This passage contains instructions for Christian wives and Christian husbands on being subject to one another in marriage.
Together, lets take a walk through the text from beginning to end.
As we have seen already in verse 21, it is the lenses by which we need to see through to understand the rest.
Let’s go back and read verses 22 through 24.
When we read and hear the words “be subject,” all kinds of meanings conger up in our minds.
Submission, obedience, duty, compliance, and being restricted, because we’ve been formed understanding it this way.
The title of the message today may have evoked similar feelings.
At the core of these instructions for marriage is the example of Christ and the church, his bride.
When wives instructed to be subject to their husbands, it is modeled after our own surrendering to Christ as the head, which is us.
Do we find it hard to submit ourselves to Christ?
Our first answer is no.
Our surrender to Christ is better described as voluntarily yielding in love to his headship.
/Just as Christ is subject to Christ, so also wives ought to be, in everything, to their husbands./
/Be subject to one another out of reverence to Christ./
This brings another question for all of us.
Are you, am I, living life subjected to Christ in everything?
Much of difficulty in this passage comes as a result of our own resistance to live in submission to Christ.
Let’s continue on with verses 25-32.
/Husbands love your wives.
Husbands, should love their wives as they do their own bodies./
Let’s take a break here for a second.
I like to ask all the men gathered here with us a few questions.
You don’t have to raise you hand or anything.
Just answer the question for yourself.
1.
Did you take a shower this morning before coming to worship?
2. Did you in the last two days comb your hair?
3. Did you at any time in the last day look at yourself in the mirror?
Now the point in all of that is not to check up on your personal hygiene.
It is to show that we love and take care of our bodies.
/For know one ever hates his own body, but he nourishes and tenderly cares for it, just as Christ does for the church, because we are members of his body./
Gentlemen, you’ve got a responsibility to your wife!
As Christ loves and cares for us, who are his body, so we should also love and care for our wives.
Care for her body!
Submit yourself to her and see to that that she is being loved by you.
She is giving away headship to you and you have a new responsibility for that.
/For this reason, a man will leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two will be one flesh./
Just under your submission to Christ is your submission to your wife.
You are joined to her as one flesh.
Husbands and wives are like one body, one flesh.
So take care of your body!
Love her,
/just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, in order to make her holy by cleansing her with the washing of water by the word./
Present her like
/the church to /yourself and to the world /in splendor, without a spot or wrinkle or anything of the kind, yes so that she may be holy and without blemish./
Tell her she is beautiful.
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