A Mother's Influence
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A Mother's Influence
A Mother's Influence
Proverbs 31:10-30
Proverbs 31:10-30
10 Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, So that he shall have no need of spoil.
12 She will do him good and not evil All the days of her life.
13 She seeketh wool, and flax, And worketh willingly with her hands.
14 She is like the merchants’ ships; She bringeth her food from afar.
15 She riseth also while it is yet night, And giveth meat to her household, And a portion to her maidens.
16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: With the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
17 She girdeth her loins with strength, And strengtheneth her arms.
18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: Her candle goeth not out by night.
19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, And her hands hold the distaff.
20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; Yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: For all her household are clothed with scarlet.
22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; Her clothing is silk and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates, When he sitteth among the elders of the land.
24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; And delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
25 Strength and honour are her clothing; And she shall rejoice in time to come.
26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; And in her tongue is the law of kindness.
27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, And eateth not the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; Her husband also, and he praiseth her.
29 Many daughters have done virtuously, But thou excellest them all.
30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: But a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.
In 1928, pastor W.L. Caldwell preached a message to a mother's day audience.
In 1928, pastor W.L. Caldwell preached a message to a mother's day audience.
This is what he said, "Well may we pause to pay honor to her who after Jesus Christ is God's best gift to men, mother.
This is what he said, "Well may we pause to pay honor to her who after Jesus Christ is God's best gift to men, mother.
It was she who shared her life with us when as yet our members were yet unformed.
It was she who shared her life with us when as yet our members were yet unformed.
Into the valley of the shadow of death she walked that we might have the light of life.
Into the valley of the shadow of death she walked that we might have the light of life.
In her arms was the garner of our food and a soft couch for our repose.
In her arms was the garner of our food and a soft couch for our repose.
There we nestled in the hour of pain, there was the playground of our infant glee.
There we nestled in the hour of pain, there was the playground of our infant glee.
Those same arms later became our refuge and stronghold.
Those same arms later became our refuge and stronghold.
It was she who taught our baby feet to go and lifted us up over the rough places.
It was she who taught our baby feet to go and lifted us up over the rough places.
Her blessed hands plied the needle by day and by night to make our infant clothes.
Her blessed hands plied the needle by day and by night to make our infant clothes.
She put the book under our arms and started us off to school.
She put the book under our arms and started us off to school.
But best of all she taught our baby lips to lisp the name of Jesus and told us first the wondrous story of the savior's love.
But best of all she taught our baby lips to lisp the name of Jesus and told us first the wondrous story of the savior's love.
The pride of Australia is its mothers.
The pride of Australia is its mothers.
There are wicked mothers like Jezebel of old, there are unnatural mothers who sell their children into sin.
There are wicked mothers like Jezebel of old, there are unnatural mothers who sell their children into sin.
There are sin cursed, rum soaked, and abandoned mothers to who their motherhood is the exposure of their shame.
There are sin cursed, rum soaked, and abandoned mothers to who their motherhood is the exposure of their shame.
But I am glad to believe that there are comparatively few in this class."
But I am glad to believe that there are comparatively few in this class."
Few maybe in 1928, but in 1998, not so few.
Few maybe in 1928, but in 1998, not so few.
Are mothers still the pride of Australia?
Are mothers still the pride of Australia?
In the self-centered society in which we live, the sentiments that Caldwell expressed are almost funny.
In the self-centered society in which we live, the sentiments that Caldwell expressed are almost funny.
What has happened to motherhood?
What has happened to motherhood?
There are one and a half million legal abortions a year in this country.
There are one and a half million legal abortions a year in this country.
The divorce rate today is astronomical. The number of illegitimate births continues to rise.
The divorce rate today is astronomical. The number of illegitimate births continues to rise.
The rate of battered children in the United States grows every year.
The rate of battered children in the United States grows every year.
Sexually molested children are almost the norm.
Sexually molested children are almost the norm.
This is particularly scary in light of Caldwell's words that, "no nation is ever greater than its mothers.
This is particularly scary in light of Caldwell's words that, "no nation is ever greater than its mothers.
For they are the makers of its men."
For they are the makers of its men."
Mothers, please understand this, please let this grasp your soul, "no nation is ever greater than its mothers.
Mothers, please understand this, please let this grasp your soul, "no nation is ever greater than its mothers.
For they are the makers of its men." Mothers, your influence is great!
For they are the makers of its men." Mothers, your influence is great!
Our mission statement puts our mission this way: To influence friends who are living in spiritual darkness that they also may know the joy of loving the Lord Jesus Christ.
Our mission statement puts our mission this way: To influence friends who are living in spiritual darkness that they also may know the joy of loving the Lord Jesus Christ.
We put the word "friends" in there because we believe that we have a much greater influence over our friends than we do over our acquittances.
We put the word "friends" in there because we believe that we have a much greater influence over our friends than we do over our acquittances.
But how much greater influence do we have over our own children?
But how much greater influence do we have over our own children?
And who has the greatest influence in the home?
And who has the greatest influence in the home?
I think we would all agree that it is the mother.
I think we would all agree that it is the mother.
Moms, your influence is great!
Moms, your influence is great!
We see the power of a mother's influence over and over in the Scriptures.
We see the power of a mother's influence over and over in the Scriptures.
Particularly in the books of 1 & 2 Kings where the mother's influence over the kings is stressed.
Particularly in the books of 1 & 2 Kings where the mother's influence over the kings is stressed.
1 Kings 22:42-43
1 Kings 22:42-43
42 Jehoshaphat was thirty and five years old when he began to reign; and he reigned twenty and five years in Jerusalem. And his mother’s name was Azubah the daughter of Shilhi.
43 And he walked in all the ways of Asa his father; he turned not aside from it, doing that which was right in the eyes of the Lord: nevertheless the high places were not taken away; for the people offered and burnt incense yet in the high places.
Why does God give us the name of the king's mother? I think it is because she is the greatest influence in her children's lives.
Why does God give us the name of the king's mother? I think it is because she is the greatest influence in her children's lives.
2 Kings 15:1-3
2 Kings 15:1-3
1 In the twenty and seventh year of Jeroboam king of Israel began Azariah son of Amaziah king of Judah to reign.
2 Sixteen years old was he when he began to reign, and he reigned two and fifty years in Jerusalem. And his mother’s name was Jecholiah of Jerusalem.
3 And he did that which was right in the sight of the Lord, according to all that his father Amaziah had done;
2 Kings 15:32-33
2 Kings 15:32-33
32 In the second year of Pekah the son of Remaliah king of Israel began Jotham the son of Uzziah king of Judah to reign.
33 Five and twenty years old was he when he began to reign, and he reigned sixteen years in Jerusalem. And his mother’s name was Jerusha, the daughter of Zadok.
This phrase, "His mother's name was," is found 23 times in Scripture and in 22 of them the verse also says, "And he did that which was evil in the sight of the LORD," or "And he did that which was right in the eyes of the LORD."
This phrase, "His mother's name was," is found 23 times in Scripture and in 22 of them the verse also says, "And he did that which was evil in the sight of the LORD," or "And he did that which was right in the eyes of the LORD."
Now, I don't know about you, but that strikes me as interesting.
Now, I don't know about you, but that strikes me as interesting.
The Scripture tells us who his mother was, and then it tells us they either did evil or good in the sight of the Lord.
The Scripture tells us who his mother was, and then it tells us they either did evil or good in the sight of the Lord.
I think that the Scripture is trying to emphasis the influence of the mother.
I think that the Scripture is trying to emphasis the influence of the mother.
Now, I'm not saying that how children turn out is totally dependant upon the Mother.
Now, I'm not saying that how children turn out is totally dependant upon the Mother.
Some good mothers raise bad children and some bad mothers raise good children.
Some good mothers raise bad children and some bad mothers raise good children.
But what I want you to see here is that the mother has a tremendous influence on her children.
But what I want you to see here is that the mother has a tremendous influence on her children.
2 Timothy 3:15-17
2 Timothy 3:15-17
15 And that from a child thou hast known the holy scriptures, which are able to make thee wise unto salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus.
16 All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness:
17 That the man of God may be perfect, throughly furnished unto all good works.
Paul says that Timothy knew the scriptures from childhood. Now, who do you suppose taught him those scriptures?
Paul says that Timothy knew the scriptures from childhood. Now, who do you suppose taught him those scriptures?
2 Timothy 1:5
2 Timothy 1:5
5 When I call to remembrance the unfeigned faith that is in thee, which dwelt first in thy grandmother Lois, and thy mother Eunice; and I am persuaded that in thee also.
Paul says here that the sincere faith that dwelt in Timothy was first in his grandmother and mother. I don't think there is any doubt that Timothy was taught the Christian faith by his mother. How could a mother not influence her children with all the time they spend with them?
Paul says here that the sincere faith that dwelt in Timothy was first in his grandmother and mother. I don't think there is any doubt that Timothy was taught the Christian faith by his mother. How could a mother not influence her children with all the time they spend with them?
Look with me at a very interesting verse in:
Look with me at a very interesting verse in:
1 Timothy 2:15
1 Timothy 2:15
15 Notwithstanding she shall be saved in childbearing, if they continue in faith and charity and holiness with sobriety.
It says that the woman is saved in childbearing. What does that mean?
It says that the woman is saved in childbearing. What does that mean?
To really understand its meaning, we need to examine its context.
To really understand its meaning, we need to examine its context.
The word "nevertheless" means, "despite all this."
The word "nevertheless" means, "despite all this."
Despite all what?
Despite all what?
In Chapter 2 of 1 Timothy, Paul is talking to Timothy about the roles of men and women in the church.
In Chapter 2 of 1 Timothy, Paul is talking to Timothy about the roles of men and women in the church.
Notice what he says in:
Notice what he says in:
1 Timothy 2:11-14
1 Timothy 2:11-14
11 Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection.
12 But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.
13 For Adam was first formed, then Eve.
14 And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression.
Despite how anyone feels about this, Paul is saying through the inspiration of the Holy Spirit that the women are not to lead in the church.
Despite how anyone feels about this, Paul is saying through the inspiration of the Holy Spirit that the women are not to lead in the church.
They are not to be preachers or teachers of the church.
They are not to be preachers or teachers of the church.
Then just to make sure no one tries to make this cultural, he ties it back to creation.
Then just to make sure no one tries to make this cultural, he ties it back to creation.
Now, Paul tells us later in this letter that the church is to influence its world with the truth:
Now, Paul tells us later in this letter that the church is to influence its world with the truth:
1 Timothy 3:14-15
1 Timothy 3:14-15
14 These things write I unto thee, hoping to come unto thee shortly:
15 But if I tarry long, that thou mayest know how thou oughtest to behave thyself in the house of God, which is the church of the living God, the pillar and ground of the truth.
The church is to display the truth of God to a lost world.
The church is to display the truth of God to a lost world.
Now, if the women can't preach or teach in the church, how are they to influence their world?
Now, if the women can't preach or teach in the church, how are they to influence their world?
The answer comes in verse 15, "she will be saved in childbearing."
The answer comes in verse 15, "she will be saved in childbearing."
What does this mean? Is she saved in the sense of getting eternal life by having babies?
What does this mean? Is she saved in the sense of getting eternal life by having babies?
No, of course not. Some say it means that she will be physically delivered from death in childbirth. We know that is not true. Many women have died in childbirth. What does it mean?
No, of course not. Some say it means that she will be physically delivered from death in childbirth. We know that is not true. Many women have died in childbirth. What does it mean?
The Greek word used for "saved" can mean "deliverance." I think what this verse is saying is that a woman is delivered from spiritual uselessness, from longing for purpose, delivered from feeling she makes no significant contribution in life.
The Greek word used for "saved" can mean "deliverance." I think what this verse is saying is that a woman is delivered from spiritual uselessness, from longing for purpose, delivered from feeling she makes no significant contribution in life.
It is God's purpose that a woman influence society through her children. Woman's contribution to influencing the world is through her children. Women have the responsibility of raising a godly seed.
It is God's purpose that a woman influence society through her children. Woman's contribution to influencing the world is through her children. Women have the responsibility of raising a godly seed.
The word "childbearing" means parentage, the performance of maternal duties. It is not just having babies, but raising them in a godly manner.
The word "childbearing" means parentage, the performance of maternal duties. It is not just having babies, but raising them in a godly manner.
Our society depreciates motherhood, a woman is often looked down upon if she is simply a mother. But God says that women find their fulfillment and purpose in raising children. Now who are you going to believe, God or our society?
Our society depreciates motherhood, a woman is often looked down upon if she is simply a mother. But God says that women find their fulfillment and purpose in raising children. Now who are you going to believe, God or our society?
Mothers, you must not assume that secular employment is a greater challenge or a better use of your life than the countless opportunities of service and witness in the home, the neighborhood, the community, the church, and the world.
Mothers, you must not assume that secular employment is a greater challenge or a better use of your life than the countless opportunities of service and witness in the home, the neighborhood, the community, the church, and the world.
Moms, you should not only pose the question: Career vs. full time mom?
Moms, you should not only pose the question: Career vs. full time mom?
But you should also ask as seriously: Full time career vs. freedom for ministry?
But you should also ask as seriously: Full time career vs. freedom for ministry?
You should ask: Which would be greater for the Kingdom -- to be in the employ of someone telling you what to do to make his business prosper, or to be God's free agent dreaming your own dream about how your time and your home and your creativity could make God's kingdom prosper?
You should ask: Which would be greater for the Kingdom -- to be in the employ of someone telling you what to do to make his business prosper, or to be God's free agent dreaming your own dream about how your time and your home and your creativity could make God's kingdom prosper?
And that in all this, you make your choices not on the basis of secular trends or yuppie lifestyle expectations, but on the basis of what will strengthen the family and advance the cause of Christ.
And that in all this, you make your choices not on the basis of secular trends or yuppie lifestyle expectations, but on the basis of what will strengthen the family and advance the cause of Christ.
Women will be delivered in child rearing if, "they continue in faith, love, and holiness, with self-control."
Women will be delivered in child rearing if, "they continue in faith, love, and holiness, with self-control."
Women will find their fulfillment in child rearing when they live a godly life, thus being a godly influence to their children.
Women will find their fulfillment in child rearing when they live a godly life, thus being a godly influence to their children.
If you think a woman is stifled in her God-ordained role, you've totally missed the point. We see an amazing woman in Proverbs 31 who is not stifled at all.
If you think a woman is stifled in her God-ordained role, you've totally missed the point. We see an amazing woman in Proverbs 31 who is not stifled at all.
1 The words of king Lemuel, the prophecy that his mother taught him.
2 What, my son? and what, the son of my womb? And what, the son of my vows?
3 Give not thy strength unto women, Nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings.
4 It is not for kings, O Lemuel, it is not for kings to drink wine; Nor for princes strong drink:
5 Lest they drink, and forget the law, And pervert the judgment of any of the afflicted.
6 Give strong drink unto him that is ready to perish, And wine unto those that be of heavy hearts.
7 Let him drink, and forget his poverty, And remember his misery no more.
8 Open thy mouth for the dumb In the cause of all such as are appointed to destruction.
9 Open thy mouth, judge righteously, And plead the cause of the poor and needy.
10 Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, So that he shall have no need of spoil.
12 She will do him good and not evil All the days of her life.
13 She seeketh wool, and flax, And worketh willingly with her hands.
14 She is like the merchants’ ships; She bringeth her food from afar.
15 She riseth also while it is yet night, And giveth meat to her household, And a portion to her maidens.
16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: With the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
17 She girdeth her loins with strength, And strengtheneth her arms.
18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: Her candle goeth not out by night.
19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, And her hands hold the distaff.
20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; Yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: For all her household are clothed with scarlet.
22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; Her clothing is silk and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates, When he sitteth among the elders of the land.
24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; And delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
25 Strength and honour are her clothing; And she shall rejoice in time to come.
26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; And in her tongue is the law of kindness.
27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, And eateth not the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; Her husband also, and he praiseth her.
29 Many daughters have done virtuously, But thou excellest them all.
30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: But a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; And let her own works praise her in the gates.
Each year we witness the coronation of another Miss Australia.
Each year we witness the coronation of another Miss Australia.
For millions of little girls and young ladies Miss Australia is a model woman. For many, then, the ideal woman is young, single, sexy, and sophisticated.
For millions of little girls and young ladies Miss Australia is a model woman. For many, then, the ideal woman is young, single, sexy, and sophisticated.
The ideal woman of Proverbs 31 is quite different.
The ideal woman of Proverbs 31 is quite different.
1 The words of king Lemuel, the prophecy that his mother taught him.
2 What, my son? and what, the son of my womb? And what, the son of my vows?
3 Give not thy strength unto women, Nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings.
4 It is not for kings, O Lemuel, it is not for kings to drink wine; Nor for princes strong drink:
5 Lest they drink, and forget the law, And pervert the judgment of any of the afflicted.
6 Give strong drink unto him that is ready to perish, And wine unto those that be of heavy hearts.
7 Let him drink, and forget his poverty, And remember his misery no more.
8 Open thy mouth for the dumb In the cause of all such as are appointed to destruction.
9 Open thy mouth, judge righteously, And plead the cause of the poor and needy.
10 Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, So that he shall have no need of spoil.
12 She will do him good and not evil All the days of her life.
13 She seeketh wool, and flax, And worketh willingly with her hands.
14 She is like the merchants’ ships; She bringeth her food from afar.
15 She riseth also while it is yet night, And giveth meat to her household, And a portion to her maidens.
16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: With the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
17 She girdeth her loins with strength, And strengtheneth her arms.
18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: Her candle goeth not out by night.
19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, And her hands hold the distaff.
20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; Yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: For all her household are clothed with scarlet.
22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; Her clothing is silk and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates, When he sitteth among the elders of the land.
24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; And delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
25 Strength and honour are her clothing; And she shall rejoice in time to come.
26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; And in her tongue is the law of kindness.
27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, And eateth not the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; Her husband also, and he praiseth her.
29 Many daughters have done virtuously, But thou excellest them all.
30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: But a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; And let her own works praise her in the gates.
She is married and she has children.
She is married and she has children.
We are not told her age or whether she is pretty.
We are not told her age or whether she is pretty.
The most important quality of the ideal woman is that she is godly.
The most important quality of the ideal woman is that she is godly.
Let's look at Proverbs 31 and see the character traits of a godly woman.
Let's look at Proverbs 31 and see the character traits of a godly woman.
1 The words of king Lemuel, the prophecy that his mother taught him.
2 What, my son? and what, the son of my womb? And what, the son of my vows?
3 Give not thy strength unto women, Nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings.
4 It is not for kings, O Lemuel, it is not for kings to drink wine; Nor for princes strong drink:
5 Lest they drink, and forget the law, And pervert the judgment of any of the afflicted.
6 Give strong drink unto him that is ready to perish, And wine unto those that be of heavy hearts.
7 Let him drink, and forget his poverty, And remember his misery no more.
8 Open thy mouth for the dumb In the cause of all such as are appointed to destruction.
9 Open thy mouth, judge righteously, And plead the cause of the poor and needy.
10 Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, So that he shall have no need of spoil.
12 She will do him good and not evil All the days of her life.
13 She seeketh wool, and flax, And worketh willingly with her hands.
14 She is like the merchants’ ships; She bringeth her food from afar.
15 She riseth also while it is yet night, And giveth meat to her household, And a portion to her maidens.
16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: With the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
17 She girdeth her loins with strength, And strengtheneth her arms.
18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: Her candle goeth not out by night.
19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, And her hands hold the distaff.
20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; Yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: For all her household are clothed with scarlet.
22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; Her clothing is silk and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates, When he sitteth among the elders of the land.
24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; And delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
25 Strength and honour are her clothing; And she shall rejoice in time to come.
26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; And in her tongue is the law of kindness.
27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, And eateth not the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; Her husband also, and he praiseth her.
29 Many daughters have done virtuously, But thou excellest them all.
30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: But a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; And let her own works praise her in the gates.
First, this description of the woman in Proverbs 31 is one that is carefully composed.
First, this description of the woman in Proverbs 31 is one that is carefully composed.
1 The words of king Lemuel, the prophecy that his mother taught him.
2 What, my son? and what, the son of my womb? And what, the son of my vows?
3 Give not thy strength unto women, Nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings.
4 It is not for kings, O Lemuel, it is not for kings to drink wine; Nor for princes strong drink:
5 Lest they drink, and forget the law, And pervert the judgment of any of the afflicted.
6 Give strong drink unto him that is ready to perish, And wine unto those that be of heavy hearts.
7 Let him drink, and forget his poverty, And remember his misery no more.
8 Open thy mouth for the dumb In the cause of all such as are appointed to destruction.
9 Open thy mouth, judge righteously, And plead the cause of the poor and needy.
10 Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, So that he shall have no need of spoil.
12 She will do him good and not evil All the days of her life.
13 She seeketh wool, and flax, And worketh willingly with her hands.
14 She is like the merchants’ ships; She bringeth her food from afar.
15 She riseth also while it is yet night, And giveth meat to her household, And a portion to her maidens.
16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: With the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
17 She girdeth her loins with strength, And strengtheneth her arms.
18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: Her candle goeth not out by night.
19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, And her hands hold the distaff.
20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; Yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: For all her household are clothed with scarlet.
22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; Her clothing is silk and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates, When he sitteth among the elders of the land.
24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; And delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
25 Strength and honour are her clothing; And she shall rejoice in time to come.
26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; And in her tongue is the law of kindness.
27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, And eateth not the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; Her husband also, and he praiseth her.
29 Many daughters have done virtuously, But thou excellest them all.
30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: But a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; And let her own works praise her in the gates.
It was not written by a husband who had forgotten it was Mother's Day, and hastily penned a few words of praise after picking up a dozen roses on a street corner.
It was not written by a husband who had forgotten it was Mother's Day, and hastily penned a few words of praise after picking up a dozen roses on a street corner.
This piece of Hebrew poetry is an acrostic, a poem in which the first letter of each verse begins with the next letter of the Hebrew alphabet.
This piece of Hebrew poetry is an acrostic, a poem in which the first letter of each verse begins with the next letter of the Hebrew alphabet.
The passage is a literary masterpiece, very carefully constructed.
The passage is a literary masterpiece, very carefully constructed.
Second, the woman described is to be a model not an ideal.
Second, the woman described is to be a model not an ideal.
A model is to be imitated, but an ideal will never be reached.
A model is to be imitated, but an ideal will never be reached.
She is a woman of godly character, and in this both men and women should seek to follow her example.
She is a woman of godly character, and in this both men and women should seek to follow her example.
But beyond this, she is a woman of great ability.
But beyond this, she is a woman of great ability.
The distinguishing marks of a godly woman are:
The distinguishing marks of a godly woman are:
Her Value:
Her Value:
Proverbs 31:10
Proverbs 31:10
10 Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies.
She is described in verse 10 as an "excellent" (NASB) wife.
She is described in verse 10 as an "excellent" (NASB) wife.
In another translation she is said to be a "wife of noble character."
In another translation she is said to be a "wife of noble character."
The implication of verse 10 is that a woman of her quality is rare and very valuable.
The implication of verse 10 is that a woman of her quality is rare and very valuable.
Her Trustworthiness:
Her Trustworthiness:
Proverbs 31:11
Proverbs 31:11
11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, So that he shall have no need of spoil.
The first thing about a virtuous woman is that she is a faithful and supportive wife to her husband.
The first thing about a virtuous woman is that she is a faithful and supportive wife to her husband.
"The heart of her husband trusts her.... She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life."
"The heart of her husband trusts her.... She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life."
That's where the tribute begins, and obviously that is her first priority.
That's where the tribute begins, and obviously that is her first priority.
Evidently she knows that a stable and loving marriage is basic to success and happiness of all other areas.
Evidently she knows that a stable and loving marriage is basic to success and happiness of all other areas.
She knows that marriage fulfills her as a person and that the first essential of motherhood is to create for the children the environment of a loyal and loving home.
She knows that marriage fulfills her as a person and that the first essential of motherhood is to create for the children the environment of a loyal and loving home.
Her Supportiveness:
Her Supportiveness:
Proverbs 31:12
Proverbs 31:12
12 She will do him good and not evil All the days of her life.
Rather than being a detriment to her husband, she is his helper, bringing him nothing but good. She supports her husband.
Rather than being a detriment to her husband, she is his helper, bringing him nothing but good. She supports her husband.
A man who has married a godly wife has a wife who will bring honor to him.
A man who has married a godly wife has a wife who will bring honor to him.
She is truly a helper to her husband.
She is truly a helper to her husband.
An ungodly wife humiliates and harasses her husband.
An ungodly wife humiliates and harasses her husband.
She is not a helper but a hindrance to her mate.
She is not a helper but a hindrance to her mate.
She is "as rottenness in his bones" (Prov 12:4).
She is "as rottenness in his bones" (Prov 12:4).
4 A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: But she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones.
By her haranguing, she makes him miserable.
By her haranguing, she makes him miserable.
The ungodly woman is spoken of in very unbecoming terms.
The ungodly woman is spoken of in very unbecoming terms.
She is vexing, due to her contentious nature:
She is vexing, due to her contentious nature:
Proverbs 21:9
Proverbs 21:9
9 It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, Than with a brawling woman in a wide house.
Proverbs 21:19
Proverbs 21:19
19 It is better to dwell in the wilderness, Than with a contentious and an angry woman.
Her Productiveness:
Her Productiveness:
Proverbs 31:13-14
Proverbs 31:13-14
13 She seeketh wool, and flax, And worketh willingly with her hands.
14 She is like the merchants’ ships; She bringeth her food from afar.
This lady goes a long way to get a good deal on wool and flax, and according to verse 19, when she gets it, she puts it on the spindle and the distaff and makes thread.
This lady goes a long way to get a good deal on wool and flax, and according to verse 19, when she gets it, she puts it on the spindle and the distaff and makes thread.
And with the thread she begins to make things.
And with the thread she begins to make things.
She is a hard worker.
She is a hard worker.
Her Sacrifice:
Her Sacrifice:
Proverbs 31:15
Proverbs 31:15
15 She riseth also while it is yet night, And giveth meat to her household, And a portion to her maidens.
She cares more about her family than her own comfort.
She cares more about her family than her own comfort.
Her primary concern is to live for her family. In our society she would not sit around the house watching soap operas, for she has no idle time.
Her primary concern is to live for her family. In our society she would not sit around the house watching soap operas, for she has no idle time.
Her Enterprise:
Her Enterprise:
Proverbs 31:16-19
Proverbs 31:16-19
16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: With the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
17 She girdeth her loins with strength, And strengtheneth her arms.
18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: Her candle goeth not out by night.
19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, And her hands hold the distaff.
Some women seem to think that the world of the wife is exceedingly small, restricted largely to dirty dishes and diapers.
Some women seem to think that the world of the wife is exceedingly small, restricted largely to dirty dishes and diapers.
Is their ministry confined only to doing the housework?
Is their ministry confined only to doing the housework?
Is their world defined by the walls of their home?
Is their world defined by the walls of their home?
No, She is a purchasing agent for the family.
No, She is a purchasing agent for the family.
We all know how much a family consumes.
We all know how much a family consumes.
The ideal wife contributes to the family by purchasing the necessities of the family.
The ideal wife contributes to the family by purchasing the necessities of the family.
She looks, I assume, for the highest quality at the lowest price.
She looks, I assume, for the highest quality at the lowest price.
She does not buy her groceries on the spur of the moment at the Seven-Eleven store on the corner, but she searches out the finest of goods, going some distance, if necessary, to get both quality and economy.
She does not buy her groceries on the spur of the moment at the Seven-Eleven store on the corner, but she searches out the finest of goods, going some distance, if necessary, to get both quality and economy.
She has a very practical wisdom, for she is able to make wise investments.
She has a very practical wisdom, for she is able to make wise investments.
In verse 17 we see that she is not frail, self-indulgent, and fixing herself to be beautiful all the time.
In verse 17 we see that she is not frail, self-indulgent, and fixing herself to be beautiful all the time.
She's out there working with her arms to provide a little extra because she is planing for the future.
She's out there working with her arms to provide a little extra because she is planing for the future.
The traditional stereotype is that the "pretty little woman" has no brains for business.
The traditional stereotype is that the "pretty little woman" has no brains for business.
How could she possibly understand the stock market, or have a grasp of the pros and cons of buying gold or real estate?
How could she possibly understand the stock market, or have a grasp of the pros and cons of buying gold or real estate?
But this woman did make investments, and it is obvious that she did well at it.
But this woman did make investments, and it is obvious that she did well at it.
Her Priorities:
Her Priorities:
Proverbs 31:20-24
Proverbs 31:20-24
20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; Yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: For all her household are clothed with scarlet.
22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; Her clothing is silk and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates, When he sitteth among the elders of the land.
24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; And delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
She's enterprising, first of all, so she can give to those who don't have anything (vs 20).
She's enterprising, first of all, so she can give to those who don't have anything (vs 20).
This woman has concern for the poor and the needy, giving of her income to minister to their needs.
This woman has concern for the poor and the needy, giving of her income to minister to their needs.
Since she had something left over from what she gave to the needy, she clothed her household in scarlet so they would have something a little nicer (vs 21).
Since she had something left over from what she gave to the needy, she clothed her household in scarlet so they would have something a little nicer (vs 21).
After the needs of the needy were met, and the family had some nice clothes, she made herself something nice-- a lined overcoat out of tapestry, and clothes of white linen and purple (vs 22).
After the needs of the needy were met, and the family had some nice clothes, she made herself something nice-- a lined overcoat out of tapestry, and clothes of white linen and purple (vs 22).
After she met the needs of the poor, the needs of her family, and her own needs, she started a little business out of the home, making fine linen, selling it, and delivering belts to the merchant.
After she met the needs of the poor, the needs of her family, and her own needs, she started a little business out of the home, making fine linen, selling it, and delivering belts to the merchant.
And notice that it is all in the right sequence of priority.
And notice that it is all in the right sequence of priority.
Her Kindness:
Her Kindness:
Proverbs 31:25-27
Proverbs 31:25-27
25 Strength and honour are her clothing; And she shall rejoice in time to come.
26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; And in her tongue is the law of kindness.
27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, And eateth not the bread of idleness.
Notice in verse 26, that the teaching of this woman is called the "teaching of kindness."
Notice in verse 26, that the teaching of this woman is called the "teaching of kindness."
I understand this to mean that she instructs in a gentle way, and that her teaching is encouraging and edifying.
I understand this to mean that she instructs in a gentle way, and that her teaching is encouraging and edifying.
The godly woman is a woman of wisdom, a woman who fears God and who manifests godliness in her doings.
The godly woman is a woman of wisdom, a woman who fears God and who manifests godliness in her doings.
Much, perhaps most, of the teaching of this godly woman would be directed to her children.
Much, perhaps most, of the teaching of this godly woman would be directed to her children.
An example of this kind of teaching is found in the first 9 verses of chapter 31.
An example of this kind of teaching is found in the first 9 verses of chapter 31.
Here the godly mother of King Lemuel (v. 1) instructs her son concerning those things which would hinder a godly reign.
Here the godly mother of King Lemuel (v. 1) instructs her son concerning those things which would hinder a godly reign.
But the teaching of this woman may very well have extended beyond her household, especially to other women in the community who could gain from her wisdom.
But the teaching of this woman may very well have extended beyond her household, especially to other women in the community who could gain from her wisdom.
She is a capable leader and administrator (vs 27).
She is a capable leader and administrator (vs 27).
Her Reward:
Her Reward:
Proverbs 31:27-28
Proverbs 31:27-28
That is her reward, she is blessed by her husband and children.
That is her reward, she is blessed by her husband and children.
Proverbs 31:31
Proverbs 31:31
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; And let her own works praise her in the gates.
Husbands, listen up: Verse 31 instructs the husband to give his wife the praise she deserves.
Husbands, listen up: Verse 31 instructs the husband to give his wife the praise she deserves.
Her works are to praise her in the gates.
Her works are to praise her in the gates.
Now who, I would ask, is at the city gates?
Now who, I would ask, is at the city gates?
It is, of course, her husband (v. 23).
It is, of course, her husband (v. 23).
The godly husband is at the gates of the city, in large part, because of the godly wife who is behind him.
The godly husband is at the gates of the city, in large part, because of the godly wife who is behind him.
It is there, in the gates of the city, in public, that the godly husband should praise his wife.
It is there, in the gates of the city, in public, that the godly husband should praise his wife.
Her Godliness:
Her Godliness:
Proverbs 31:30
Proverbs 31:30
30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: But a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.
This woman is praised, not for her charm or her beauty, but for her fear of God.
This woman is praised, not for her charm or her beauty, but for her fear of God.
Mothers, you are an influence. It is so important for your children's sake that you be a godly one.
Mothers, you are an influence. It is so important for your children's sake that you be a godly one.
Let me share with you an example of a godly woman who greatly influenced her children.
Let me share with you an example of a godly woman who greatly influenced her children.
Susanna Wesley was the wife of a pastor and mother of 19 children.
Susanna Wesley was the wife of a pastor and mother of 19 children.
She was an attractive woman who taught her children six hours a day.
She was an attractive woman who taught her children six hours a day.
She was well read and valued book learning.
She was well read and valued book learning.
Her main concern was to raise her children to act strictly and honestly.
Her main concern was to raise her children to act strictly and honestly.
The children were taught to fear the rod, and cry softly by which means they escaped abundance of correction.
The children were taught to fear the rod, and cry softly by which means they escaped abundance of correction.
Mrs. Wesley sincerely believed that by her method she was training her children to obey God.
Mrs. Wesley sincerely believed that by her method she was training her children to obey God.
Even if in the first instance, they were obeying her.
Even if in the first instance, they were obeying her.
The code of conduct she taught never left them; the picture of God which she gave them in childhood shaped their conceptions through life.
The code of conduct she taught never left them; the picture of God which she gave them in childhood shaped their conceptions through life.
John Wesley said he owed to her the discipline of his mind.
John Wesley said he owed to her the discipline of his mind.
Her goal was to instill into his mind the principles of true religion and virtue.
Her goal was to instill into his mind the principles of true religion and virtue.
She prayed, "Lord give me the grace to do it sincerely and prudently and bless my attempts with good success."
She prayed, "Lord give me the grace to do it sincerely and prudently and bless my attempts with good success."
Some of her rules were: no child was to be given a thing because he cried for it.
Some of her rules were: no child was to be given a thing because he cried for it.
If a child wanted to cry , cry softly.
If a child wanted to cry , cry softly.
In her house was rarely heard loud cries.
In her house was rarely heard loud cries.
Each child must eat and drink everything before them.
Each child must eat and drink everything before them.
No eating or drinking between meals unless sick.
No eating or drinking between meals unless sick.
She spent one hour every day shut up in her room praying for her children.
She spent one hour every day shut up in her room praying for her children.
Two of her sons, Charles and John, through God brought revival to England.
Two of her sons, Charles and John, through God brought revival to England.
The person who had the most influence on John and Charles was their mother.
The person who had the most influence on John and Charles was their mother.
Parents, Let us continually seek to establish the qualities of the godly woman as the goal toward which our girls should strive.
Parents, Let us continually seek to establish the qualities of the godly woman as the goal toward which our girls should strive.
And let us teach our sons that this is the kind of woman who makes married life such a blessing.
And let us teach our sons that this is the kind of woman who makes married life such a blessing.
The fact that Mother's Day has become an international institution proves that "time cannot wither nor custom stale" the veneration in which we hold our mothers and their great wisdom in bringing us into the world.
The fact that Mother's Day has become an international institution proves that "time cannot wither nor custom stale" the veneration in which we hold our mothers and their great wisdom in bringing us into the world.
Mothers you are an influence in the lives of your children, that is without question.
Mothers you are an influence in the lives of your children, that is without question.
The question is are you being a godly one?
The question is are you being a godly one?
If you are looking for meaning and purpose in your life, God's word says it is found in motherhood.
If you are looking for meaning and purpose in your life, God's word says it is found in motherhood.
Nobody influences society more that its mothers.
Nobody influences society more that its mothers.
Mom's, please remember the words of pastor Caldwell, "No nation is ever greater than its mothers.
Mom's, please remember the words of pastor Caldwell, "No nation is ever greater than its mothers.
For they are the makers of its men."
For they are the makers of its men."