Relationship week 3
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Family and friends
Family and friends
Relationships with these two can be some of the most difficult relationships in our lives we are going to dive into what it means to have friends s
Friends:
Friends:
Who has a friend here,
77% of awake time with friends
88% of awake time communicating with our friends for those 13-18 years old on social media or face to face
lets put it í this way if you are awake from 7-10 you are getting roughly 1.8 hours of alone time every day which is not including family commun’cications
friends have a massive influence on our lives and this isn't a new thing for our generation
Jesus had friends
Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art, like the universe itself (for God did not need to create). It has no survival value; rather it is one of those things which give value to survival.”- CS Lewis
God gave us friendship as a gift!
we dont need it but we have been blessed by it!
Bad ideas of Friendship
Bad ideas of Friendship
24 A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
best friends
wildly over used term that we dont often mean.
people use it for some one they just met
friends
anther word we use so often is friends
people say that everyone they meet is a friend
it isn't wrong to be friendly with everyone but it is important to distinguish
Acquaintances
honestly what most people mean when they say friend
Godly friendship:
Godly friendship:
12 disciples 3 close friend and one whom he loved
theres nothing wrong with showing partiality
John 11 talks about his friendship with Mary Martha and Lazarus
Jesus loves all his friends but he had a special love for a select few of them
Best friend story: friendship is born when we say oh i thought i was the only one, talk about Sam
What do we look for in a friend
Loving:
8 Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.
dealing with our friends with Sin
Encouraging:
11 Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing.
Serving
26 It shall not be so among you. But whoever would be great among you must be your servant, 27 and whoever would be first among you must be your slave, 28 even as the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.”
JJesus was the perfect example of a friend but he was greater then everyone yet chose to serve
we must be quick to serve the ones we love and espiexally ones we dont
1 Peter
Forgiving:
13 bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.
we need to be forgiving and be willing to be humble in being forgiving
quick to forgive and allow forgiving ness
Kind
14 “He who withholds kindness from a friend forsakes the fear of the Almighty.
Non- Christians:
friends influence us in every aspect of life so how do we approach friendship with those who dont share the faith
14 Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?
33 Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.”
As christians we are called to love one anther person despite what they believe. this is so counter to the world we live in where we cancel, hate, black list, and hate is the common language we are called to love and love richly.
we are called to be equally yoked. we are so heavily influenced by who we spend time with there is a quote that i think is very accurate where we are the sum of our 5 closest friends meaning we get so influenced by the people whom we are close with
use the yoke illustration: we get pulled one way or the other, we need to be careful
pulling up illustration: please have un christian friends that they may know God, but when we stand together we can pull people up.
38 “You have heard that it was said, ‘An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth.’ 39 But I say to you, Do not resist the one who is evil. But if anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also.
Family relationships
Family relationships