Foolish Talk

This has made a huge difference in my life

I hope this will do the same in your.

lets get started with our foundation scripture

(Proverbs 4:7) Wisdom is supreme; therefore get wisdom. Though it cost all you have, get understanding.

1st week We learned about the foundation of wisdom - is found in the fear of the Lord

there was some declarations that we needed to make

That God is awesome , God is Holy and God is right

2nd week - How to live a contented life is found in

Enjoying what we have (be where you are at 100%)

and God needs to be our resource

3rd week how to be a generous person and that benefits from it.

(Proverbs 11:24 MSG) The world of the generous gets larger and larger; the world of the stingy gets smaller and smaller.

Generous people are happy.

Generous people are compassionate.

Generous people are blessed.

Today we are launching in an area that we all want to improve on -

If you are a mom/dad - you want to become a better mom or dad ( you will do whatever it takes to get there)

If you are a Dr I hope you would sharpen your skills to become a Dr. ( Laugh) ( fun facts around WW1 or earlier if you a Dr you would measure the success of his career by the amount of blood stains and bodily fluid that were on your Dr gown ) please get better lol

If you are a mechanic you want to become better at your craft

your computer made up of upgrades you can't get stuck and say i am only using windows 95

Today I want to dive in the area of teachability (stretchability)

Merriam Webster teachability : The ability to learn by instruction

We can all grow in this area.

It doesn't matter what stage of life we can all grow.

Most of the things that I struggled with it all boils down to teachability

Do I take advice and use their wisdom or find out by myself

Remember, the greatest enemy of learning is knowing.

26 of the 31 chapters talk about this topic

10 of them start with this topic

Its hard to be a listen and learn when are talking

“Coachable people seek out those who speak truth to them, even if it is a painful truth, because it protects them and it makes them a better person and leader.” ― Gary Rohrmayer

Teachability is not so much about competence and mental capacity as it is about attitude. It is the desire to listen, learn, and apply. It is the hunger to discover and grow. It is the willingness to learn, unlearn, and relearn. - John Maxwell

old saying goes, “There’s a reason you have one mouth and two ears.”

lets look at what the word of God has to say about this.

(Proverbs 10:8 NLT) The wise are glad to be instructed, but babbling fools fall flat on their faces.

I dont want to be the babbling fool

I want to grow

Types of people we all encounter - this one we find it all the time

1 The know it all

You could be having a conversation about ancient civilizations and their architectural accomplishments

they know it all and they will tell you what they think. (You don’t have to share all the time )

(Proverbs 28:26 NLT) Those who trust their own insight are foolish, but anyone who walks in wisdom is safe.

Proverbs 21:23 Watch your tongue and keep your mouth shut, and you will stay out of trouble

I rather be safe walking than foolish

anybody knows this type of person ?

How to deal with them :

Using Christian values to deal with challenging people

Ask the Holy Spirit to intercede. ...

Pray for self-control and discernment. ...

Diffuse the situation by depersonalizing it. ...

Pray for them.

Know-it-alls may have a cluster of personality characteristics, including

impulsivity

poor listening skills

an inability to read social cues.

> These could be symptomatic of certain mental disorders, such as attention

deficit hyperactivity disorder or narcissistic personality disorder

2. The been there, done that.

I naturally had a fear of heights and i remember that I started to learn to fly para gliders and finely overcame my fear of heights ( this is me picture )

I was so excited to tell this person - Dude I finely overcame my fear of heights I flew a paraglider

His answer was i done that 5 times but it wasn't that scary - no big deal ( they dismiss what yo have done )

(Proverbs 18:2 NLT) “Fools have no interest in understanding; they only want to air their own opinions.”

“Been there, done that.”

Even if you done the same thing - ask how they enjoyed it

Empathize

Remember that it’s their story

How to grow in this area ( become an active listener )

Be attentive :

Reflect

Summarize

Share

Avoid judgement

Clarify

Non Verbal Communication

1. Nods

2. Smile

3. Avoid distracting Movements ( get off your phone )

4. Maintain eye contact

Benefits of Active listening

Relationships

trust is built

God will give you the words to say when you are not talking but listening.

3. The one upper.

I climbed mount Everest - Thats cool I climbed it also without oxygen on my flip flops - you can’t win

there is no story higher or better than theirs

(Proverbs 12:15 NLT) “Fools think their own way is right, but the wise listen to others.”

Proverbs 15:23 “Everyone enjoys a fitting reply; it is wonderful to say the right thing at the right time!”

Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. Ephesians 4:29

The teachable heart

(Proverbs 1:5 NLT) Let the wise listen to these proverbs and become even wiser. Let those with understanding receive guidance

I remember when I was working at CenterPointe a great church in Palm bay Fl

during that time we had 4 services back to back and it was my turn to preach I got out there and preach my heart out and in my heart it connected as soon as we finished I went down and talked to people usually after 1st service team huddle and discuss what work what didn't work in the service including the sermon ( it hurt at times )

Is humble.

(Proverbs 11:2 NLT) Pride leads to disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom.

This verse contains an interesting combination of words. ( only used in these two verses )

Micah 6:8, “No, O people, the Lord has told you what is good, and this is what he requires of you: to do what is right, to love mercy, and to walk humbly with your God.”

The word pride : the meaning is a cooking term ( its boiling over )

but the humble stops the boiling over , turns down the heat and covers it

Has a desire to grow.

(Proverbs 27:17 NLT) “As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.”

I wanted through this stage that I wanted a knife that would be good for all around working knife and I started digging into what it takes to make a good knife and I found out that

Pure iron is very workable but soft

In order to work with they have to add carbon

it produces a very strong but brittle product

they have to apply heat until is red

then the forging begins ( the hammering on the anvil)

the blacksmith uses something called double tapping the hammer ( one hit to the metal and one to the anvil )

there are micro movements or a tone within the metal that after it hits the anvil

there is a tone in the hammer when it hits the red hot metal that transmits a rhythm and tone to the metal

that rhythm make the metal moldable ( lie singing to the metal )

The reason if the hammering is (keep the atoms or crystals far apart by consistently heating the metal while bashing with a hammer)

one of the last processes is called

“Recarburizing” ( we heard decarburizing )

The knife is heated again to the point before the melting point

its placed under hot coals

and rapidly cool down in oil and water

It causes the knife to have a harden shell that hold its sharpness for longer

until the edge bends

and you need a honing rod ( its not filing but straightening the edge )

There is the term :

As iron sharpens iron so as mene sharpens men

its not talking about shaping one another or molding one another

that happens in the hand of the blacksmith

it happens in the fire over and over again

also in those cooling resting times

and in the rhythm and tone of the anvil and hammer ( the words penetrated in the heart of man )

its in those times that we get to the rhythm of God in our heart

He is saying I know it hurts and its hard - but i got you

We only help each other sharp

The honing rod

its harden metal cover with a diamond covering

you cannot sharpen a metal that has the same hardness

you have to have something that has been harden and have been thought he flames and the hammer

those people that their life is full of wisdom

we are keeping each other sharp

What part of the process are you at right now