MAN'S BIBLICAL LEADERSHIP IN THE HOME

Ephesians 5:22–28 (KJV 1900)

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 

23  For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 

24  Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. 

25  Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 

26  That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 

27  That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. 

28  So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 

With the guidance of the Holy Ghost

this sermon will help us to

understand what Biblical male

leadership should look like within

the family unit.

MAN'S BIBLICAL LEADERSHIP IN THE HOME

Let me share this story with you. A

man one day was on an airplane next

to a fellow traveler. The fellow

traveler began a conversation with

the man. The man happened to have

his wedding ring on his right hand

instead of his left hand. The fellow

traveler noticed the wedding ring

and asked if he was married. The

man said yes. So the fellow traveler

asked why he wore his wedding ring

on the wrong hand. And the man

answered, “Because I married the

wrong woman.”

A lot of men may feel like they have

married the wrong woman, just like

Adam who blamed God for the wife

He had given him. Adam said, in

essence, The woman You gave me

has gotten us into all this mess

(Genesis 3:12). But that’s where the

kingdom concept of what it means to

be a man and what it means to be a

husband comes in. Remember, when

God came looking for the couple He

had created, God didn’t call for Eve or

the couple as a whole, He called for

Adam. Why? Because at the heart of

God’s kingdom agenda for the

husband is bearing responsibility for

the family regardless of who is at

fault. Taking ownership as a husband

is critical if a man wants to be who

God created him to be. God created

Adam and instructed him to live life

under divine rule and to lead his

family to do the same.

1. MEN, RECOGNIZE THAT GOD HAS A PURPOSE FOR YOU. (EXODUS 34:23) Three times a year all your men are to appear before the Sovereign LORD, the God of Israel. 

• God called all the men of Israel to

present themselves before the Lord

three times each year.

• God told the men in Israel that if

they would submit to His rule, He

would protect their land from

invaders. *

• Our culture is in the middle of a

crisis of manhood and we’re

experiencing God’s curse as a result. *

MEN, RECOGNIZE THAT GOD HAS A PURPOSE FOR YOU.

2. HUSBANDS, LEAD YOUR FAMILIES IN SUBMISSION TO GOD’S RULE. (1 CORINTHIANS 11:3) But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God. 

• God’s covenant order places God

the Father as the head of Christ,

Christ as the head of man, and man

as the head of woman.

• Throughout the Old Testament,

God referred to Himself as the God of

Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob, not as

the God of Sarah, Rebekah, and

Rachel.

• God always starts with the man

because man bears the

responsibility of preserving His image

and passing on His blessing to the

family.

• To be kingdom men, husbands

must lead their families and operate

in submission to God’s rule. *

HUSBANDS, LEAD YOUR FAMILIES IN SUBMISSION TO GOD’S RULE

3. WIVES, REMEMBER THAT GOD HAS ESTABLISHED YOUR HUSBAND AS THE HEAD OF YOUR FAMILY. (EPHESIANS 5:23) For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 

• Biblical headship can be defined as

governing authority.

• Husbands have been authorized by

their authority, Jesus Christ, who

was authorized by His authority, God

the Father, to bear the responsibility

for their families. *

• Headship DOES mean that the

kingdom husband maximizes the

gifts God has given His wife and that

he accepts the responsibility for the

wellbeing of his marriage and family. *

WIVES, REMEMBER THAT GOD HAS ESTABLISHED YOUR HUSBAND AS THE HEAD OF YOUR FAMILY.

4. HUSBANDS, SACRIFICIALLY LOVE YOUR WIVES AND FAMILIES

• Just as Jesus Christ sacrificed His

life on the cross to save people, the

husband should sacrifice his selfish

desires for the good of his wife and

family.

(Ephesians 5:25) Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 

• God commanded Adam to protect

the garden.

• Likewise, husbands must protect

their families from the schemes of

Satan.

• Husband as Sanctifier: Husbands

must set their wives apart and make

them feel unique, special, and one-

of-a-kind (Ephesians 5:26). That he

might sanctify and cleanse it with the

washing of water by the word, 

• Husband as Satisfier: Husbands

must love their wives as much as

they love themselves (Ephesians 5:28). So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 

• When kingdom husbands love their

wives as Christ loved the church, the

family becomes a transforming

environment for the wife.

• When men don’t live as kingdom

husbands, their prayers are hindered

(1 Peter 3:7). Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

HUSBANDS, SACRIFICIALLY LOVE YOUR WIVES AND FAMILIES

A HUSBAND’S RESPONSIBILITY:

Why do football team owners fire

coaches when their team isn’t doing

well? The coach isn’t the one who

fumbles the ball, makes bad passes,

or misses games. But they fire

coaches because coaches bear the

responsibility for their teams.

Likewise, when a family gets out of

spiritual alignment, God will hold the

husband accountable because God

has given him responsibility over the

family.

“Taking ownership and responsibility as a man is critical to you being the man you were created to be.”

MEN, RECOGNIZE THAT GOD HAS A PURPOSE FOR YOU.

HUSBANDS, LEAD YOUR FAMILIES IN SUBMISSION TO GOD’S RULE

WIVES, REMEMBER THAT GOD HAS ESTABLISHED YOUR HUSBAND AS THE HEAD OF YOUR FAMILY.

HUSBANDS, SACRIFICIALLY LOVE YOUR WIVES AND FAMILIES