Men Becoming Whole & Becoming Fit For Collaboration

Man 2 Man

1 Kings 19:9 KJV

9 And he came thither unto a cave, and lodged there; and, behold, the word of the LORD came to him, and he said unto him, What doest thou here, Elijah?

Genesis 3:8–9 KJV

8 And they heard the voice of the LORD God walking in the garden in the cool of the day: and Adam and his wife hid themselves from the presence of the LORD God amongst the trees of the garden. 9 And the LORD God called unto Adam, and said unto him, Where art thou?

Jonah 4:1–3 AMP

1 BUT IT displeased Jonah exceedingly and he was very angry. 2 And he prayed to the Lord and said, I pray You, O Lord, is not this just what I said when I was still in my country? That is why I fled to Tarshish, for I knew that You are a gracious God and merciful, slow to anger and of great kindness, and [when sinners turn to You and meet Your conditions] You revoke the [sentence of] evil against them. 3 Therefore now, O Lord, I beseech You, take my life from me, for it is better for me to die than to live.

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What do I need to be whole?

Building Strong Families (The Needs of Men)

THE NEEDS OF MEN: After many years of listening to men talk, as I worked toward an understanding of my own needs, I want to review some common needs of most men.

Building Strong Families The Needs of Men

First, men need a safe place to go where they know someone understands them, where they don’t feel alone. If men feel welcome and understood, they will let their guard down and interact with other men over issues that may have been stuffed in their soul for years.

Building Strong Families The Needs of Men

Second, men need a compelling vision of biblical masculinity that they can grasp. Men want to know what God intends for them. This vision will inspire and lift them during moments of challenge in the workplace and community, or when they are facing discouragement. The vision will recharge them. But it must be “user friendly”; the content must make sense in the context of their own lives.

Building Strong Families The Needs of Men

Third, men need time to effectively deal with issues relating to their manhood. That is why a men’s ministry should be more than a periodic rally. Seminars and rallies are excellent for motivating men, but they do not provide enough time for processing all the issues relating to their masculinity. Men are often cautious and do not move quickly toward a deeper perspective of who they are. Effective ministry must allow men to involve themselves with other men through ongoing interaction and rubbing shoulders with one another.

Building Strong Families The Needs of Men

Fourth, men need practical how-tos they can use and taste success with. What they learn regarding things such as marriage, family, and career must connect with their day-to-day experience. Can they go out immediately and implement ideas at least at a rudimentary level? If the teaching does not work in real life, men will start ignoring what you tell them.

Building Strong Families The Needs of Men

Fifth, men need male cheerleaders. These can be special peers or older mentors who come alongside to listen and offer encouragement. “You can do it!” said by an older man has a profound impact on a younger man.

Building Strong Families The Needs of Men

Sixth, men need a sacred moment where they know they have become not just a man but a biblical man. Men need a reference point where they know they have crossed over into the promised land of responsible manhood and will stay there and grow. This need can be met through special ceremonies included in men’s ministry.

Building Strong Families The Needs of Men

Finally, men need the church. If the church and its pastors don’t lead men to reclaim biblical manhood, most men will not pursue it with consistency, camaraderie, celebration, and courage.

Eventually We all come to place in God where he will ask us what are we doing here.... The longer we remain in the cave, the easier it is to become a caveman..

Setbacks Are really Set Ups: Romans 8.28

Romans 8:28 KJV

28 And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.

Our Coming out of that dark place gives us authority to help make others whole..

There are young men we are called to inspire, there are husbands that need us as mentors. There are son’s that look to us to be the compass to help navigate our family

it was the intention of the enemy for us to die in the cave.

But God kept us in the dark to protect us from exposure. (tell someone when you come out whole your going to be able to collaborate with your Elisha....