Coping with Conflicting Personalities
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Romans 12:10–21 “10 Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other. 11 Never be lazy, but work hard and serve the Lord enthusiastically. 12 Rejoice in our confident hope. Be patient in trouble, and keep on praying. 13 When God’s people are in need, be ready to help them. Always be eager to practice hospitality. 14 Bless those who persecute you. Don’t curse them; pray that God will bless them. 15 Be happy with those who are happy, and weep with those who weep. 16 Live in harmony with each other. Don’t be too proud to enjoy the company of ordinary people. And don’t think you know it all! 17 Never pay back evil with more evil. Do things in such a way that everyone can see you are honorable. 18 Do all that you can to live in peace with everyone. 19 Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God. For the Scriptures say, “I will take revenge; I will pay them back,” says the Lord. 20 Instead, “If your enemies are hungry, feed them. If they are thirsty, give them something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals of shame on their heads.” 21 Don’t let evil conquer you, but conquer evil by doing good.”
Romans 12:10–21 “10 Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other. 11 Never be lazy, but work hard and serve the Lord enthusiastically. 12 Rejoice in our confident hope. Be patient in trouble, and keep on praying. 13 When God’s people are in need, be ready to help them. Always be eager to practice hospitality. 14 Bless those who persecute you. Don’t curse them; pray that God will bless them. 15 Be happy with those who are happy, and weep with those who weep. 16 Live in harmony with each other. Don’t be too proud to enjoy the company of ordinary people. And don’t think you know it all! 17 Never pay back evil with more evil. Do things in such a way that everyone can see you are honorable. 18 Do all that you can to live in peace with everyone. 19 Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God. For the Scriptures say, “I will take revenge; I will pay them back,” says the Lord. 20 Instead, “If your enemies are hungry, feed them. If they are thirsty, give them something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals of shame on their heads.” 21 Don’t let evil conquer you, but conquer evil by doing good.”
I. Be Composed
I. Be Composed
A. Many are easily irritated. A lack of composure makes them vulnerable to the attacks of conflicting personalities.
A. Many are easily irritated. A lack of composure makes them vulnerable to the attacks of conflicting personalities.
We read in the book of:
We read in the book of:
Isaiah 26:3–5 “3 You will keep in perfect peace all who trust in you, all whose thoughts are fixed on you! 4 Trust in the Lord always, for the Lord God is the eternal Rock. 5 He humbles the proud and brings down the arrogant city. He brings it down to the dust.
Isaiah 26:3–5 “3 You will keep in perfect peace all who trust in you, all whose thoughts are fixed on you! 4 Trust in the Lord always, for the Lord God is the eternal Rock. 5 He humbles the proud and brings down the arrogant city. He brings it down to the dust.
B. We should remain free from agitation as much as possible. Self-discipline is an aid in handling personality clashes. Confidence in God brings calmness and control.
B. We should remain free from agitation as much as possible. Self-discipline is an aid in handling personality clashes. Confidence in God brings calmness and control.
Paul writes to the church in Philipi.....
Paul writes to the church in Philipi.....
Philippians 4:5–7 “5 Let everyone see that you are considerate in all you do. Remember, the Lord is coming soon. 6 Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. 7 Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.
Philippians 4:5–7 “5 Let everyone see that you are considerate in all you do. Remember, the Lord is coming soon. 6 Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. 7 Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.
II. Be Considerate
II. Be Considerate
Hebrews 10:23–24 “23 Let us hold tightly without wavering to the hope we affirm, for God can be trusted to keep his promise. 24 Let us think of ways to motivate one another to acts of love and good works.”
Hebrews 10:23–24 “23 Let us hold tightly without wavering to the hope we affirm, for God can be trusted to keep his promise. 24 Let us think of ways to motivate one another to acts of love and good works.”
A. Some are inconsiderate. They try to force their ideas on others. Pressure adds to personality conflicts.
A. Some are inconsiderate. They try to force their ideas on others. Pressure adds to personality conflicts.
B. We must have regard for the rights and feelings of others.
B. We must have regard for the rights and feelings of others.
Ephesians 4:30–32 “30 And do not bring sorrow to God’s Holy Spirit by the way you live. Remember, he has identified you as his own, guaranteeing that you will be saved on the day of redemption. 31 Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. 32 Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.”
Ephesians 4:30–32 “30 And do not bring sorrow to God’s Holy Spirit by the way you live. Remember, he has identified you as his own, guaranteeing that you will be saved on the day of redemption. 31 Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. 32 Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.”
Kindness and respect go a long way in coping with conflict doesn't it? Remember, tone, listen, don’t interrupt while in a conversation, listen completely.
Kindness and respect go a long way in coping with conflict doesn't it? Remember, tone, listen, don’t interrupt while in a conversation, listen completely.
III. Be Courageous
III. Be Courageous
Again I will read in Hebrews 10:23 “Let us hold fast the profession of our faith without wavering”
Again I will read in Hebrews 10:23 “Let us hold fast the profession of our faith without wavering”
We have to maintain the values and instruction of Christ don’t we? Remember, we are not to be consumed with this world, do as Jesus did.
We have to maintain the values and instruction of Christ don’t we? Remember, we are not to be consumed with this world, do as Jesus did.
A. Some of us lack courage at times, we give in to pressure and jeopardize our Christian values. They compromise or give up their convictions. We end up failing God and ourselves don’t we?
A. Some of us lack courage at times, we give in to pressure and jeopardize our Christian values. They compromise or give up their convictions. We end up failing God and ourselves don’t we?
B. We must be brave and bold while holding to principles that are based on God’s Word.
B. We must be brave and bold while holding to principles that are based on God’s Word.
Joshua 1:8–9 “8 Study this Book of Instruction continually. Meditate on it day and night so you will be sure to obey everything written in it. Only then will you prosper and succeed in all you do. 9 This is my command—be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”
Joshua 1:8–9 “8 Study this Book of Instruction continually. Meditate on it day and night so you will be sure to obey everything written in it. Only then will you prosper and succeed in all you do. 9 This is my command—be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”
Firmness is often necessary when dealing with conflicting personalities.
Firmness is often necessary when dealing with conflicting personalities.
IV. Be Christ-like
IV. Be Christ-like
Ephesians 5:1–3 “1 Imitate God, therefore, in everything you do, because you are his dear children. 2 Live a life filled with love, following the example of Christ. He loved us and offered himself as a sacrifice for us, a pleasing aroma to God. 3 Let there be no sexual immorality, impurity, or greed among you. Such sins have no place among God’s people.”
Ephesians 5:1–3 “1 Imitate God, therefore, in everything you do, because you are his dear children. 2 Live a life filled with love, following the example of Christ. He loved us and offered himself as a sacrifice for us, a pleasing aroma to God. 3 Let there be no sexual immorality, impurity, or greed among you. Such sins have no place among God’s people.”
A. Christ loved us and gave Himself for us. But He never compromised with sin and wrong.
A. Christ loved us and gave Himself for us. But He never compromised with sin and wrong.
How do we love others when we don’t like who they are, we dont like what they say, we don’t like their opinions or ideas just because, really for no reason. WHY??????
How do we love others when we don’t like who they are, we dont like what they say, we don’t like their opinions or ideas just because, really for no reason. WHY??????
Because we are instructed to that’s why. We must always be in a respectful mindset, remember our TONE I preach about? Tone can solve many disputes can’t it?
Because we are instructed to that’s why. We must always be in a respectful mindset, remember our TONE I preach about? Tone can solve many disputes can’t it?
B. We must also love others, holding no resentments. Although we must be firm in our convictions to Christ, there is no defense against love, I am talking here church about true sincere love, not fake love. Love enables us to cope with conflicting personalities .
B. We must also love others, holding no resentments. Although we must be firm in our convictions to Christ, there is no defense against love, I am talking here church about true sincere love, not fake love. Love enables us to cope with conflicting personalities .
In closing this morning, in the book of :
In closing this morning, in the book of :
1 Peter 4:7–10 “7 The end of the world is coming soon. Therefore, be earnest and disciplined in your prayers. 8 Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love covers a multitude of sins. 9 Cheerfully share your home with those who need a meal or a place to stay. 10 God has given each of you a gift from his great variety of spiritual gifts. Use them well to serve one another.”
1 Peter 4:7–10 “7 The end of the world is coming soon. Therefore, be earnest and disciplined in your prayers. 8 Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love covers a multitude of sins. 9 Cheerfully share your home with those who need a meal or a place to stay. 10 God has given each of you a gift from his great variety of spiritual gifts. Use them well to serve one another.”