God, Guys & Girls (Part 3)
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Intro:
We’ve been in this series, God, Guys & Girls
The first week, we talked about relationships
And last week, we talked about the difference between love and lust
All of this leads us to the place where we have to tackle a difficult subject: sex
Different responses:
Giggle like a little Kid
Really uncomfortable
Why it’s important to talk about sex:
God has a lot to say about sex
You are surrounded by a lot of sex
You are likely thinking about sex… a lot
You are likely talking about sex… a lot
If all of this is true, why wouldn’t we talk about it?
Not an education course; a theology course
What God has to say & what we should do
The Big Idea: Sex is a big deal to God.
Handling sex God’s way should be a big deal to us.
Sex is a big deal to God
How do we know?
God created it
Adam and Eve
Specific purposes
Dennis Hollinger: The Meaning of Sex
God’s Purposes for Sex
Procreation
AKA having kids
First command to Adam and Eve:
28 Then God blessed them and said, “Be fruitful and multiply. Fill the earth and govern it. Reign over the fish in the sea, the birds in the sky, and all the animals that scurry along the ground.”
Obviously, sex is a big part of this
Procreation
Consummation of Marriage
Consumation = Making something official
Verse from first week
24 This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.
Wedding ceremony: Commitment to marriage
Wedding night: Confirmation of marriage
Sex is the exclamation point at the end of the wedding sentence.
Procreation
Consummation of Marriage
Foster Love and Intimacy
Vulnerability
Physical, emotional, and spiritual connection
Brings couple closer together
Chemicals released in brain > psychological bond
Procreation
Consummation of Marriage
Foster Love and Intimacy
Pleasure
We’ve bought into the lie that...
God is against sex, OR
He is at least against enjoyable sex
Important to understand that God views sex as good.
If you buy into that, you will be frustrated with God.
Never buy into the lie that says being a Christian means that you need to view sex as bad.
Back to first sentence of big idea:
Sex is a big deal to God
You see this in the four purposes, right?
Key to human race continuing
“Seal the deal” moment to marriage
Fosters love and intimacy
He made it pleasurable
But not just God’s purposes that show its a big deal
“God’s parameters.”
Sex is a big deal to God
Handling sex God’s way should be a big deal to us.
Sex is so powerful and sin is so real that we have to be aware how Satan and our own desires apart from God (which the Bible calls “the flesh”), will really try to mess us up in our sexuality.
Clear, Scriptural guidelines
God’s parameters for sex:
The time and place is marriage
Set in motion with Adam and Eve
24 This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.
Key word: “Wife”
4 Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.
Clear picture: Sex is meant to be between a man and a woman who are married
See phrase: “immoral?:
“Sexual immorality” comes up a lot
All-encompassing phrase for sexual activity outside of the marriage covenant.
Which leads to part 2 on God’s parameters
God’s parameters for sex:
The time and place is marriage
Flee from sexual immorality
Asking “how far is too far?”
What can we do before we cross that line?
Two other verses
3 But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people.
Focus: “not even a hint”
18 Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body.
Focus: “run from sexual sin”
Back to question “how far is too far?”
Q. What’s the flaw in this question based on these two verses?
“How far is too far” = how close can we get to the edge without going over
But if goal is to not even have a hint and flee sexual sin, we shouldn’t be asking this.
Better question: “How far away is too far away?
But some of you still want to know
Some guidleines:
If the activity has “sex” or a word for sex in it, don’t do it.
Don’t touch or rub any body part that cannot legally be shown in public.
Generally, if you have to move an article of clothing to get to what you want to get to, it’s not wise.
Don’t send pics of those body parts you shouldn’t be rubbing.
Don’t ask or send
If someone asks, run away
Don’t need to see and don’t need to send
Watch what you talk or tease about.
Guard where your conversations go
So what is okay?
Pass on simple advice: “You can hold hands. You can kiss. Anything else… you’re playing with fire.”
Not trying to make life misreable
Awesome payoff
Sex is a big deal to God, and handling sex God’s way should be a big deal to us
So let’s get to it
Different situations in the room:
First, “I messed up.”
Some of you have went further than you had planned
Or maybe you didn’t know God’s standards
God loves you
Forgiveness and restoration
Can’t outrun God’s love or out-sin God’s grace
Starts with confession
We would love to help you see and experience this reality
Second, outside of your control
It is not your fault.
I am so sorry.
God’s heart hurts
You are loved
This does not need to be the end of the story for you.
PRAY