Working with Men in Difficult Marriages

1 Peter 2:20–25 ESV

20 For what credit is it if, when you sin and are beaten for it, you endure? But if when you do good and suffer for it you endure, this is a gracious thing in the sight of God. 21 For to this you have been called, because Christ also suffered for you, leaving you an example, so that you might follow in his steps. 22 He committed no sin, neither was deceit found in his mouth. 23 When he was reviled, he did not revile in return; when he suffered, he did not threaten, but continued entrusting himself to him who judges justly. 24 He himself bore our sins in his body on the tree, that we might die to sin and live to righteousness. By his wounds you have been healed. 25 For you were straying like sheep, but have now returned to the Shepherd and Overseer of your souls.

1 Peter 3:7 ESV

7 Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.

How - entrusting to Father

Why - for the good of the other person.

Identity

Respond differently when confronted with hard situations. (actively and consistently respond right)

be honest

Remember God’s purpose.

Influence a hard marriage for good.

If I am obedient of

Thermostat in the home; set the tempature.

Live with wife in a understanding way.

“live with - to know - intimate knowledge - not roommate

commitment to the covanent of companionship.

‘understanding way’ - interested, leanign into , pursuing them.

being vulneralbe - leading in that intimacy.

Leading (1-5) - Ice Cream Sundae (IDENTITY)

Invest in those categories.

What do you already know? (untapped resource - we know what they want but don’t do it). - Go with what you know)

What do you want to know? (that vulnerable - that open that intimate - afraid to ask)

What do we need to know? (Please help me understand this. not reaction)