Household Code Part 2: Children and Parents

Raising your children in the Lord should be diffrent from raising your children in the world.

The ways of the world can all go back to the ways of the house hold.

From husbands not Biblically Leading their wives

Wives not being properly lead and forced to find their own way

children not being trained leading to children that become worse off than they had it and repeating the cycle. From the boys being emasculated and feminized to the girls not feeling aprechied and loved properly to turning to not understand how to be loved by a husband.

1. The Command for Children

OBEY

Just as when a wife is Submiting to the lead of the Husband the CHildren are to Obey when the command is in alignment with Gods Commands

If the Command is unethical, illegal, or immoral or harm may be done to another in any way You must OBEY God and NOt MAN.

Has an end Marriage

HONOR

Is a continual respect

In The Lord

They are obeying the Lord when they obey their parents.

Honor your parents has gone by the wayside when now we see elder partens become a burden to the children instead of a joy-

Part of this is due to the inconvienace that our society has made it but also part of it has to do with the way in which the children we raised

The Fifth Commandment

Deuteronomy 5:16 “16 Honor your father and your mother, as the Lord your God has commanded you, so that you may live long and so that you may prosper in the land the Lord your God is giving you.”

IT is a general promise not an absolutes

Obediance to the Lord will result in a more productive life with less general hardships and tradgities that so often our sin brings.

THe second command with a promis - In order of Importance

Exodus 20:6 “6 but showing faithful love to a thousand generations of those who love me and keep my commands.”

2. The Command for Parents

The word for Fathers is also used in: Hebrews 11:23 and is translated parents-

Hebrews 11:23 “23 By faith Moses, after he was born, was hidden by his parents for three months, because they saw that the child was beautiful, and they didn’t fear the king’s edict.”

It is the job of the parents to raise the children

Not the job of the school

not the job of the nanny or grandparents or other institutions

It is the job of the parents the Father and the Mother.

10.6M one-parent households

(7.9M mother only and 2.7M father only)

compared to 1.5M one-parent households in 1950.

331.9 million People Live in the US - 2021

15 Million + families in the US are single-mother households

7+ Million Fathers are absent from there children's lives

71% of high school dropouts are from fatherless homes

85% of youth in prison grew up in fatherless homes

The Outcome- father absent children are more likely to divorce or dissolve their cohabiting unions and are more likely to have children outside marriage or outside any partnership

Fathers in the household are a necessity

Spending time being a man with your sons and spending time showing your daughters how they should be treated

Building something - Herping

Daddy Daughter dates - Dinner, Conversation, Dancing , and a little show or fun movie.

But all of these activities are driven around who God is and what he reqires from us.

Deuteronomy 6:4-7 4 “Listen, Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. 5 Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength. 6 These words that I am giving you today are to be in your heart. 7 Repeat them to your children. Talk about them when you sit in your house and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.”

300 Sermon Illustrations from Charles Spurgeon Do Not Neglect Your Family for Church Work (Deuteronomy 6:6–7; Psalm 119:1–8; Proverbs 20:7; Ephesians 6:4; 1 Timothy 3:5)

I once knew a man well. He used to go out into the villages with all the local preachers. He was a constant attendant at prayer meetings—in fact, you never went to a public service connected with the church without seeing him—and he was out at tract society and missionary anniversaries, and every gathering of the sort. The only place where you never found him was at home with his boys. I had the misery to teach one of his boys. That boy died in drunkenness before he had reached the age of manhood. Others of his sons were the pests of the town in which he lived. That man was eminently good in certain respects, doing a great deal for other people’s families, but nothing for his own.

V. 4

Ephesians 6:4 CSB

4 Fathers, don’t stir up anger in your children, but bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.

Exasperation

Colossians 3:20–21 “20 Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord. 21 Fathers, do not exasperate your children, so that they won’t become discouraged.”

Embitter them

Protecting children

Neglecting Them

Inconsistency in the Fathers life

Failure to let children Grow up

In the Teen Yeas to develop their own convictions

Trying to relive His Own Childhood through His Children

Train the Children

Do not say that it is too early or you want them to find their own way or you dont want to push religion on your children.

The world has no issues with pushing their interests on the children.

Train the children by telling them how to live and showing them how to live.

How to study

How to Pray

how to work

how to love

how to be forgivng

how to ask for forgiveness how to repent

how to be humble

how to be a Christian

Proverbs 1:8 “8 Listen, my son, to your father’s instruction, and don’t reject your mother’s teaching,”

Proverbs 6:20 “20 My son, keep your father’s command, and don’t reject your mother’s teaching.”

Proverbs 13:24 “24 The one who will not use the rod hates his son, but the one who loves him disciplines him diligently.”

Proverbs 19:18 “18 Discipline your son while there is hope; don’t set your heart on being the cause of his death.”

Proverbs 22:6 “6 Start a youth out on his way; even when he grows old he will not depart from it.”

Proverbs 23:22 “22 Listen to your father who gave you life, and don’t despise your mother when she is old.”

Proverbs 29:17 “17 Discipline your child, and it will bring you peace of mind and give you delight.”

Psalm 78:4 “4 We will not hide them from their children, but will tell a future generation the praiseworthy acts of the Lord, his might, and the wondrous works he has performed.”

Dad Jokes

What do you call a fake noodle?

An impasta!

Why did the ghost buy a box of bandages?

Because he had so many BOO BOOs.

Did you hear about the restaurant they're building on the moon?

The food is supposed to be great, but there's no atmosphere.

What’s the difference between a hippo and a zippo?

One is real heavy and the other is a little lighter.

The Father that we all have and must honor and obey who is always gracious and merciful who provides all our needs and never will leave us and forsake us.

We can feel insufficient - WE are

We need God’s help

What mesures sucess?

If we are rasing our children in the Lord the sucess is diffretn than rasing them in the World.

SO we dont mesure it by the about of Money, a good job, privlage or prestige or power We don mesure it by keeping them out of prison?

Titus 2:12 “12 instructing us to deny godlessness and worldly lusts and to live in a sensible, righteous, and godly way in the present age,”

Psalm 127:1 “1 Unless the Lord builds a house, its builders labor over it in vain; unless the Lord watches over a city, the watchman stays alert in vain.”