What does the Bible say about Sex

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Introduction

Welcome to the most awkward and giggly evening of the year. This week we are going to be talking about Sex

Everybody repeat after me 1…2…3… SEX

Alright now that we have all of the giggles out, I want to talk about what tonight is not meant to do. Tonight is not meant to shame anyone for what they may have done in their past.

Romans 8:1–2 NIV

Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, because through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit who gives life has set you free from the law of sin and death.

We can see this in the story of the woman that was caught in adultery and brought before Jesus when the religious leaders tried to get Jesus to stone her. There is a lot we could unpack in that story but it ends with Jesus telling her Neither do I condemn you, get up and sin no more.

So the goal of tonight is not to make anyone feel terrible for any decisions that they may have made, or mistakes they may have done in the past, but the goal of today is to talk about what the purpose of sex is, and what does the Bible actually say about it, so that we can all make better choices moving forward.

Quiz

As we get started go ahead if you have your phones do me a favor and pull them out. Point them up to the screen and scan the QR code for me, we will use this a couple of times tonight.

As of 2021 what percentage of teenager say they have ever had sex?

30%

So before we jump in about what the Bible says I want you to know you do not have to feel like you are in the minority if you are not having sex. You dont have to feel like you are weird or that there is anything wrong with you if you are not having sex, because in reality you are in the majority.

What does God say about human sexuality?

When we look at the idea of sex, and the purpose behind it, I think one of the best places to start is back at the beginning.

Genesis 2:21–25 NIV

So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.

So there are a few things in this passage that I want to look at. First we see that God made Women special because as Adam was given the command to name all the animals there was no animal suitable for Adam to be his helper.

Now this does not mean that women are just made to assist men, but that God understood that it was not good for us to do life alone, and God created Eve just for Adam, to be his partner, and so that they could help each other, and thats what we see here in this passage.

Secondly where it says “united to his wife, and they become one flesh” is referring to sex. So we can see here that God created Adam and Eve, Man and woman, and designed them specifically for each other, and part of that design was the ability to have sex.

Third this passage ends with they were both naked and they felt no shame. Guess what guys sex is a good thing. It was created by God and God dont make no junk. It is something that was created for us to enjoy. Theres a whole lot of science behind it that we arent going to go into, but God made us to enjoy sex, so when you do things in the right order, you dont have to be ashamed by it.

However within that design there are guidelines that we should follow with all things that were created just like we spoke about last week how different things are designed for specific purposes, sex was also designed for a specific purpose. And that purpose is for a man who is married to a woman to enjoy each other and to join together. It was never designed for 2 men, or 2 women, and certainly not for a human and an animal.

In Matthew 19:4-6 Jesus actually quotes this passage out of Genesis so even He reiterated this fact.

Also there are multiple passages in the Bible that describe same - sex sexual activity as sin.

Leviticus 18:22 NIV

“ ‘Do not have sexual relations with a man as one does with a woman; that is detestable.

Romans 1:26–27 NIV

Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural sexual relations for unnatural ones. In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed shameful acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their error.

1 Corinthians 6:9–10 NIV

Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.

So through these passages we can see that in both the Old Testament and New Testament that the Bible never mentions same sex relationships in a positive way. And marriage is always mentioned between a man and a woman.

Now as we talk about sex, and everything around it, I understand that some of you in here may not have been able to choose some of the things that have happened to you, and I want you to hear me when I say, I am so sorry those things happened to you and it wasnt right. You do not have to be ashamed about what someone else did to you without your consent and permission. Please if that is you talk to someone about it, preferably a licensed counselor. There is no shame in talking to someone to help yourself heal.

So these are just a few of the things that the Bible says about sex. However it doesnt stop there.

What about Porn?

Quiz 2

What percent of teens admit to viewing pornography online?

73%

However this is not just a guys problem

What percent of Girls admit to intentionally looking at porn?

36%

When were you first exposed to pornography?

One of the excuses many people use to justify looking at pornography is to learn more about sex. And I get it, its a very awkward subject. However Porn is probably the worst possible place that you can go to try to learn about sex, because there is absolutely nothing about it that is real. Most porn is produced no different than a movie, and choreographed as well. There is nothing real about it.

Matthew 5:28 NIV

But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

So not only is it not real, but it also goes against what the Bible teaches, because ive never met someone who has watched porn and afterwards could say that they had completely wholesome thoughts about what they just saw.

We talk about these things again not so that you would be embarrassed, not because we want to take away your fun but the opposite. I hope that in 3, 5, 10 years you get to have the most amazing relationship with your husband or your wife. And yes you can still have amazing relationships if you have already made mistakes here. However it can make it more difficult.

Small Group

Favorite Cartoon character?

Was there anything about the lesson that stuck out to you?

We have to lead our families, and relationships

With your girl friends we are the ones that should be setting the standards, and responsible for how far things go.

What are some ways that we can protect our relationships from going too far?

How can we make sure we are following God’s design for sex?

Porn is something that is so easy to get caught in, What safeguards can we put in place to protect ourselves?