The Love Languages
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The Love Languages
Words Of Affirmation
This is one of my love languages. You will notice that people thrive in a work environment that can correspond with their love language. As a pastor, I make a living from the words I speak. Affirming words, encouraging words, kind words and yes even convicting words can fill a love tank .
Pleasant words are a honeycomb:
sweet to the taste and health to the body.
As I said, This is one of my love languages and I will say when I hear… Pastor, you stepped on my toes today! Great message. Or when Mrs. Mary comes with her tissue and she says oH pastor…and that is all she can get out. Now do I need to hear this to do my job. No! Does it drive me to be an even better pastor for you yes.
It is the same at some of your jobs. Just hearing that you are valued and your works is important can drive you to be better.
Now in the home…or should I say in my home…my beautiful and amazing wife is not an encourager or one to go out of the way to say great job or give affirming words. It is not in her nature. She is not a delicate chisel, she is a blunt hammer at times.
Give an example of when I feel like I did a great message.
A gentle answer turns away anger,
but a harsh word stirs up wrath.
Having someone in the home that their love tank gets filled with words of affirmation can be difficult because they can take criticism as a failure. They can lash out and use words to try and hurt their spouse or go into a depressive state and close themselves off.
No foul language should come from your mouth, but only what is good for building up someone in need, so that it gives grace to those who hear.
If you live with someone who’s love language is words of affirmation, try to say a few more thank yous, Honey I love you, you did a great job with that. A Pleasant word is as sweet as honey especially to them.
The Love Languages
2. Quality Time
While he was reclining at the table in the house, many tax collectors and sinners came to eat with Jesus and his disciples.
Then he left the crowds and went into the house. His disciples approached him and said, “Explain to us the parable of the weeds in the field.”
The Love Languages
3. Receiving Gifts
Have you ever meet someone who loves giving gifts? It is like they are more gitty than the one opening the gift. They take these verses to heart.
In every way I’ve shown you that it is necessary to help the weak by laboring like this and to remember the words of the Lord Jesus, because he said, ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive.’ ”
Give, and it will be given to you; a good measure—pressed down, shaken together, and running over—will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured back to you.”
Or have you meet someone that when they get a gift, it could be a hair bow from the Dollar Store, they get all shakey and happy.
This is one of the love languages of my wife and my youngest. They both love giving gifts. Dani will go to several stores just to find the perfect gift to give someone. She will spend hours in a card isle just to find the right card for the occasion. Karleigh will spend hours making gifts for people. Dani will be over the moon when I go get her a half price sonic drink without her knowing I went to get it for her. Or I get her a new glitter I find. Or the clearance Isle find of the week for her or her business. KarKar is down right spastic when I bring her to get Billy’s boudin balls. Or surprise her with $10 to spend at her favorite store that day. Or get her a new hair color for her to use.
When you live with someone who loves to give and receive gifts, it can be hard at times to keep their love tank full…cause sometimes we get into a routine of life and not think about getting them something…or worst yet, not acknowledging what we may see as a simple gift but it was something they took the time to get.
The Love Languages
4. Acts of Service
Now Peter and John were going up to the temple for the time of prayer at three in the afternoon. A man who was lame from birth was being carried there. He was placed each day at the temple gate called Beautiful, so that he could beg from those entering the temple. When he saw Peter and John about to enter the temple, he asked for money. Peter, along with John, looked straight at him and said, “Look at us.” So he turned to them, expecting to get something from them. But Peter said, “I don’t have silver or gold, but what I do have, I give you: In the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth, get up and walk!” Then, taking him by the right hand he raised him up, and at once his feet and ankles became strong. So he jumped up and started to walk, and he entered the temple with them—walking, leaping, and praising God. All the people saw him walking and praising God, and they recognized that he was the one who used to sit and beg at the Beautiful Gate of the temple. So they were filled with awe and astonishment at what had happened to him.
The Love Languages
5. Personal Touch
This is my primary love language. I am a hugger. You come in here, I will hug you. It is never to invade your personal space, this is just how I show that you are family and you mean so much to me.
So he got up and went to his father. But while the son was still a long way off, his father saw him and was filled with compassion. He ran, threw his arms around his neck, and kissed him.
Again, my wife does not have this love language. She has to make a conscious effort to reach over when I am driving to hold my hand or touch my shoulder. Or when I am doing the dishes, she has to think about coming and placing her hand on my back.
But she knows, that is my love language, and she tries very hard to do these things.
Now don’t mistake this as a sexualized touch, this is not what we are talking about here. This is a connection through touch that is a bond between them.
Christ understood this type of connection when He washed His disciples feet
Next, he poured water into a basin and began to wash his disciples’ feet and to dry them with the towel tied around him.
The one who does not love does not know God, because God is love.