Husbands and Wives

“needs a mother” comment

Is the Bible saying men are better than women?

Image of God

Helper fit for him.

1 Corinthians 11:11 ESV

11 Nevertheless, in the Lord woman is not independent of man nor man of woman;

Is the Bible saying you must be married to be in the image of God?

1 Corinthians 7:32–34 ESV

32 I want you to be free from anxieties. The unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord. 33 But the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife, 34 and his interests are divided. And the unmarried or betrothed woman is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to be holy in body and spirit. But the married woman is anxious about worldly things, how to please her husband.

Galatians 3:28 ESV

28 There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.

Can’t we get rid of all distinctions if we’re in Christ?

viewing people as equal doesn’t negate seeing distinctions especially when people need protected. we have responsibilities

Honor= Integrity + Responsibility

everyone is not equally strong

1 Peter 3:7 ESV

7 Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.

Is the Bible saying women must submit to any man?

Jael - Judges 4&5

Is the Bible saying women must submit without limit?

The Bible never says that men should make their wives submit.

context

Acts 5:29 ESV

29 But Peter and the apostles answered, “We must obey God rather than men.

Is the Bible saying if you do these things you will have the best marriage possible?

Define best

Does Jesus ask us to do hard things at times?

Submit to your husband

Support and strengthen

Rank yourself under

Honor = Integrity + Responsibility

Protect your husband’s weaknesses, esp. as it relates to Christ

1 Peter 3:1–6 ESV

1 Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, 2 when they see your respectful and pure conduct. 3 Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— 4 but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. 5 For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, 6 as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening.

Knights at the round table

Lord and Lady = ruling together

“This is what I need to rule well”

Do you know what your husband is trying to create? Where and how can you support him?

Philippians 4:8 ESV

8 Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.

For the purpose of representing Christ better & helping your husband see Jesus

Love your wife

Doesn’t mean always doing what they want

Don’t embitter them

When I don’t listen, When I don’t seek out what she needs, When I blame her problems on her

When I act like a private

When you don’t protect them

The protection of praise - Proverbs 31

Being on the same team

Do you know what your wife values?

Do you know what would bless your wife? Esp as it relates to Christ

Honor = Integrity + Responsibility

Finding solutions that bless through wisdom

For the purpose of representing Christ & helping your wife see Jesus

Romans 15:5–6 ESV

5 May the God of endurance and encouragement grant you to live in such harmony with one another, in accord with Christ Jesus, 6 that together you may with one voice glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.

child who is loved response

Communion

Community Group questions

What questions do you have about wives submitting to husbands that weren’t answered? (Let me know)

As you have lived life, where have you seen the consequences of spouses not doing it the way God designed?

What are some ways you have seen wives submit to husbands that you have admired? Why?

What are some ways you have seen husbands love their wives that you have admired? Why?

What are some ways you can encourage each other to see and walk with Christ through your own actions?