How to be a Goldy Mother in an ungodly world.

How to Be a Godly Mother in an Ungodly World

Summary: Paul gave Titus some principles for older women to teach the younger women. These make great guidelines for young mothers today.

Moms today are under so much pressure. It is really hard to be a mom in a fast paced world that is changing quickly. My goal today is to offer you some encouragement. I want you to know .....

How to be a Godly Mother in an Ungodly World

Titus 2:3–5

“In the same way, older women are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not slaves to excessive drinking. They are to teach what is good, so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands and to love their children, to be self-controlled, pure, workers at home, kind, and in submission to their husbands, so that God’s word will not be slandered.”

I. Love their Husbands...

Men feel most loved when they are respected and praised. Now you might be saying But Pastor Brett you don’t know my husband like I do. This is true, but God knows every detail of his life both good and bad. Yet God loves Him and has commanded you to do the same.

Just like God knows everything about you and yet loves you.

But one point we often miss is that we have made love about us and our feelings but those things are secondary. Then what is the point of loving our spouses well.....

Titus 2:5 (CSB)

.....so that God’s word will not be slandered.

Its about proving the love of God. It’s about proving His Word.

II. Love their children

If I were to ask the moms in here “do you love your children?” I think all of you would say yes, without hesitation.

But do you love your children the way God has commanded you to love them? We live in a world where parents are often hostages to their children’s wills.

Parents are continually exasperated by their children. Their homes are not a place of rest but of Chaos. In this environment many parents admit they are ready for their children to be back in school (aka away from them) or grown up and moved out. Do you know what creates a happy home one of them we already discussed. Loving your spouse and the second is disciplining your children.

Discipline is loving your children well....

Proverbs 13:24 CSB

The one who will not use the rod hates his son, but the one who loves him disciplines him diligently.

Diligence has the idea of not letting them get away with sin.

Parents you must make your children obey you. Why? because disobedience to you is disobedience to God.

Children are commanded to obey their parents.

Ephesians 6:1 CSB

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, because this is right.

Do you want Godly children? Then you must make obedience a non-negotiable priority. So that your children can obey the Lord.

As we just saw in the life of Abram Obedience to God and you as God representative in your home should be the first response. Parents you need to strive to achieve first-time obedience in your home. In other words, Children obey first and can ask questions later.

So that when the holy spirit moves in them, the submissive spirit that you have cultivated in them will follow through in their relationship with God.

Proverbs 6:23 CSB

For a command is a lamp, teaching is a light, and corrective discipline is the way to life.

If we define Jesus as Life. Than discipline is one of the steps to faith in Jesus Christ.

It’s that important....

III. Be Self-controlled

If a mother can be self-controlled I think it is nothing short of the evidence of the grace of God working. From what I have observed moms have to have unbelievable patience. Mom’s are often worn-out and they don’t always feel like cutting the corners off of a peanut butter sandwich or changing the clothes of a child for the third time before they have ever left the house.

To keep ones composure during the chaotic moments of childhood is in deed a act of God. Self-control is something that is learned but never mastered. Motherhood is one of the toughest training grounds.

IV. Workers at Home

Now one thing, we must define here. Just like the church is not a building neither is the home. The idea of “home” was not about “house work” but about providing a nurturing atmosphere for your family. Scripture says this responsibility falls to the wife.

Now some of you will get angry at me for saying that but again, I am simply a mouthpiece. I didn’t write the material.

That being said a Husband should take an active role in assisting his wife. Husbands you should be voting for your wife’s success by physically helping her accomplish this goal.

Their is no direct command against mothers working. That isn’t what this is about. However, this does suggest that your home life takes priority over your career and the luxuroies of extra money. The same is true for the husband by the way.

V. Pure

Being commited to your wedding vows both emotionally and sexually. Women just as pornography is a violation of the marriage vows so are trashy romance novels and romance movies. Be pure both mentally and physically.

VI. Kind

This is the number one piece of advice I give to young couples who are about to be married. Be kind to one another. Don’t act like spoiled kids snapping at one another and bickering.

If you see something that can help do it! Be kind.

VII. Submissive

Now when we hear this word, we automatically associate it with something negative. We picture a man with a sleeveless shirt sitting on coach saying, “make me a sandwich woman!”

This isn't the biblical idea of submission at all.

This isn’t suggesting that women should be doormats without a voice or opinions. In fact, only a foolish husband will operate that way. Why because Eve was Adam’s salvation. Helping him accomplish what he could not do alone.

Men you need your wives. Rather submission is a heart of respect and love for the husband God has given you. It comes down to trusting God’s plan that he has given both spouses what they need to help each other be all that they can be in Christ.

But there are times that you will disagree with your husband and yet a decisions has to be made. The scripture is clear that men are to lovingly lead their homes. So if you cannot agree and time is of the essence. Then wives you will have to trust that God will work it out even if turns out to be the wrong choice.

In summary.

Mothers if you love well, are pure, kind and respectful of your husband you will be setting the example that will be repeated for future generations.

I have no doubt that many of you are st