Misconceptions: Friendships (Sermon)

Introduction

A misconception is a false or inaccurate belief that is widely held or accepted. It is dangerous because it can lead to misunderstandings, misinterpretations, and misguided actions, potentially causing harm to individuals or society as a whole.

Today we will discover misconceptions around Friendships

Friendship, as described in Scripture, is a special bond between individuals characterized by love, loyalty, and mutual support.

The Bible encourages us to cultivate and cherish friendships that are rooted in godly principles and values.

Proverbs 17:17 CSB

A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a difficult time.

This verse highlights the unwavering love and support that true friends offer. Friends are there for each other in both good times and bad, demonstrating a deep commitment to one another.

John 15:13 further teaches us about the sacrificial nature of friendship. Jesus said,

John 15:13 CSB

No one has greater love than this: to lay down his life for his friends.

This verse emphasizes the selflessness and willingness to sacrifice for the well-being of a friend.

It reflects the essence of agape love, which is the highest form of love described in the Bible.

Agape love, often associated with God's love for humanity, is a selfless, unconditional, and sacrificial love.

It is a love that seeks the best for others, regardless of their actions or deservingness.

In the context of friendship, agape love manifests as a genuine care, concern, and commitment to the well-being of our friends.

1 Corinthians 13:4-7 provides a beautiful description of agape love, which can be applied to friendships. It says,

1 Corinthians 13:4–7 CSB

Love is patient, love is kind. Love does not envy, is not boastful, is not arrogant, is not rude, is not self-seeking, is not irritable, and does not keep a record of wrongs. Love finds no joy in unrighteousness but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

In the context of friendship, agape love means being patient and kind, not seeking personal gain or recognition.

It involves humility, respecting and valuing the opinions and needs of our friends.

It also means being forgiving and understanding, not holding grudges or keeping score of wrongs.

Agape love seeks to encourage, support, and uplift our friends, rejoicing in their successes and standing by them in difficult times.

By embracing and practicing agape love in our friendships, we reflect the unconditional love that God has shown us.

Through this lens, friendship becomes a beautiful expression of love, where we selflessly care for and invest in the well-being of our friends, just as God has done for us.

Misconception: Friends should always be available for constant communication.

Truth: While regular communication is important in friendships, it is unrealistic to expect constant availability due to various personal commitments and responsibilities.

Proverbs 25:17 CSB

Seldom set foot in your neighbor’s house; otherwise, he’ll get sick of you and hate you.

The Word of God encourages us to respect each other's boundaries and understand that everyone needs personal space and time.

It is important to prioritize quality over quantity in communication, being mindful of each other's schedules and commitments.

Misconception: Friends should always have the same spiritual beliefs and practices.

Truth: While shared faith can deepen a friendship, it is possible to have meaningful friendships with individuals who hold different spiritual beliefs.

Romans 14:1 CSB

Welcome anyone who is weak in faith, but don’t argue about disputed matters.

The Word of God reminds us that unity in Christ transcends differences in beliefs and practices.

It encourages us to love and accept others, fostering friendships that can bridge spiritual gaps and promote understanding and respect.

Misconception: Friends should always be equally invested in the friendship.

Truth: Friendships can have varying levels of investment, and it is important to understand and respect each other's capacity for involvement.

Proverbs 18:24 CSB

One with many friends may be harmed, but there is a friend who stays closer than a brother.

Proverbs 12:26 CSB

A righteous person is careful in dealing with his neighbor, but the ways of the wicked lead them astray.

We ought to be careful who we call friend

1 Corinthians 15:33 CSB

Do not be deceived: “Bad company corrupts good morals.”

When you have a real friend, the bible tells us that we ought to:

Romans 12:10 CSB

Love one another deeply as brothers and sisters. Take the lead in honoring one another.

The Word of God calls us to love and honor one another in our friendships, regardless of the level of investment.

It reminds us that true friendship is characterized by loyalty and commitment, rather than just equal participation.

Misconception: Friends should always be perfect and never make mistakes. (if they are really my friends syndrome)

Truth: No one is perfect, and friends will inevitably make mistakes. It is important to extend grace and forgiveness, just as we hope to receive it from others.

Proverbs 17:9 CSB

Whoever conceals an offense promotes love, but whoever gossips about it separates friends.

Colossians 3:13 CSB

bearing with one another and forgiving one another if anyone has a grievance against another. Just as the Lord has forgiven you, so you are also to forgive.

The Word of God teaches us the value of forgiveness and the power of reconciliation in friendships.

It reminds us that true friends are willing to forgive and move forward, recognizing that we all fall short and need grace.