Marriage: A Divine Bond
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Intro
Intro
why am I here?
Singleness to dating to marriage
its the seasons of our lives
Read Genesis 2:18-24
15 The Lord God took the man and put him in the garden of Eden to work it and keep it. 16 And the Lord God commanded the man, saying, “You may surely eat of every tree of the garden, 17 but of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil you shall not eat, for in the day that you eat of it you shall surely die.” 18 Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” 19 Now out of the ground the Lord God had formed every beast of the field and every bird of the heavens and brought them to the man to see what he would call them. And whatever the man called every living creature, that was its name. 20 The man gave names to all livestock and to the birds of the heavens and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper fit for him. 21 So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh. 22 And the rib that the Lord God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man. 23 Then the man said, “This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.” 24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
What is Marriage?
What is Marriage?
Read Genesis 2:18 and Genesis 2:23-24
18 Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”
23 Then the man said, “This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.” 24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
Marriage is a union between one man and one women.
It is a complimentary relationship
It is lifelong
it is designed by God
God establishes marriage before the fall of man
This is an institution that God saw fit to perserve even after the fall
It is a grace he gives us as a gift so we can understand his love for us and his church
As well as show his glory through it
When you get married you will gain a different understanding of what its like to love and be committed to a sinner
God will shows his glory through marriage because how else could two sinners exsist in such a close relationship unless he holds it together
We really learn all we need to know about marriage here in Genesis chapter 2 but we will look at a few other passages but lets drill down a little more into what Genesis chapter 2 has to say about marriage and God’s design for a man and his wife
First we see that man should not be alone
It is not good for man to be alone
This is deeper than just friendship
Man was given a task Genesis 2:15 “15 The Lord God took the man and put him in the garden of Eden to work it and keep it.”
It was the mans job to take care of the garden to ensure it grew and flourished this task was given to the man first and foremost
and after the naming all the animals there was no helper fit for man
Man needed a helper fit for him
This is a good reminder that the alone here isnt just companionship
But rather complimentarity
Man didnt just need a bud
He need a compliment ot him
A balance to his weakness and strengthen his strengths
A helper that would help him carry out his task of growing the garden
A helper suitable for him
We also see that marriage is an all consuming relationship
Marriage literally changes your orientation in life
A single person your duties lie first and formost with your family of origin
even in dating your priority is still first to your family of origin
But in marriage your orientation changes to your spouse
ORDER OF RELATIONSHIPS
The husband is oriented to his wife
She is oriented to her husband
Marriage is accepting God’s provision
23 Then the man said, “This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.”
Notice that it was God who it is not good for man to be alone
It is God who formed the help mate
It is God who joined them together
This is how God designed marrriage since before the fall
God establishes in creation that Image-bearers who are equal in dignity and value; differences in roles; leaving family of origin; holding fast/cleaving/becoming “one flesh”; monogamy & fidelity.
24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
Why is it important
Why is it important
So why is marriage so important
This institution that has been around since creation
Why is it so important
For many of the reasons we discussed before
Its God’s design
Gods perfect provision for his creation
Look at what Jesus has to say about marriage
Read Matthew 19:1-9
1 Now when Jesus had finished these sayings, he went away from Galilee and entered the region of Judea beyond the Jordan. 2 And large crowds followed him, and he healed them there. 3 And Pharisees came up to him and tested him by asking, “Is it lawful to divorce one’s wife for any cause?” 4 He answered, “Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, 5 and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? 6 So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” 7 They said to him, “Why then did Moses command one to give a certificate of divorce and to send her away?” 8 He said to them, “Because of your hardness of heart Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. 9 And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.”
Notice in verse 6 What therefor God has joined together
We like to think we decide who we marry
Sure you can think that
But I am convienced that the God of the universe the soveriegn creator is the one who joins man and women in marriage
in his omniscience and sovreign grace he ordaines one man and one woman joining together in matrimony
Marriage is important because God designed it
To cheapen marriage through divorce or any other means
Open marriage
adultry
etc.
Is a rejection of God’s design
Notice what Jesus says in verse 8 because of your hardness of heart.
Divorce is not God’s design
But a product of the fall
Marriage is important because it is a picture of Christs love for the church
Ephesians 5 as we will see in a minute makes this clear
Husband love your wives as christ loved the church
The church is repeatedly reffered to as the bride of christ
If we cheapen marriage we bring reproach on the relationship that christ has with his church
Marriage is a central part of God’s plan for his creation his common grace for us that we would find a helpmate suitable for us that we would be able to bring Glory to God and be a good example for others
How do we prepare marriage
How do we prepare marriage
Read Ephesians 5:22-33
22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. 25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. 28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, 30 because we are members of his body. 31 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. 33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
We prepare by understanding the expectations
Wives submit to their husbands
Ephesians 5:22–24 “22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.”
This is the design of marriage
Remeber in Genesis chapter 2 man was given a task the woman was made to be the help mate
As we talked about the re orientation of your life in marriage
Wives your orientation will be toward your husbands
This is a difficult command I know
we arent usually given easy commands
In fact God knows that this wont be easy he talks about it in the cure in genesis chapter 3
16 To the woman he said, “I will surely multiply your pain in childbearing; in pain you shall bring forth children. Your desire shall be contrary to your husband, but he shall rule over you.”
But it is gods design
Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, 2 when they see your respectful and pure conduct. 3 Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— 4 but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. 5 For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, 6 as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening.
so how do you prepare for that
submit to the authorities in your life
parents elders bosses
humble yourself and submit
husbands men
25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. 28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church,
so marriage is a devine bond
because we are members of his body. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.