Foundations of Fatherhood

GAME:

Doughnuts for Dads Game

QUESTIONS:

Dad with the oldest child

Dad with the most kids

Who drove the farthest

INTRO:

Blake is no longer on staff with us. He resigned as a result of a moral issue outside the church. We are truely grateful for the time he was with us. He is very and has an evident call upon his life. I do believe he will be back in ministry again in the future.

What is the biggest changes in you since becoming a father?

not as quick to get angry or get frustrated (extension of grace and mercy)

Used see parents with kids and thought beat that kid, he deserves it, BUT when its your kid that changed.

Being a youth pastor with no kids I was gruff, fatherhood changed my approach in pastoring them.

Being a dad is the most rewarding thing, yet one the scariest things.

You can do so much good, but you can do so much harm.

Caleb said he would never tell his kids no.

Proverbs 22:6 NLT

6 Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older, they will not leave it.

Psalm 127:4–5 NLT

Children born to a young man are like arrows in a warrior’s hands. How joyful is the man whose quiver is full of them! He will not be put to shame when he confronts his accusers at the city gates.

Fathers are craftsmen (Arrows are as straight as we carve them)

Guardians (Arrows are as safe as the quiver that holds them)

Navigators (we aim them in the direction they fly)

Encouragers (Soar as high as we send them)

Empowers (most effective when we release them)

Masculinity

To the child, the father is God’s representative; this makes the father’s task sacred and serious. We fathers are to deal with our children as God deals with us.

John Drescher

25  The yearning of many men today to become good fathers is rooted in our past—we are all children who want our fathers. Something in us yearns to honor fatherhood.

Ken Canfield

The Heart of a Father (1996)

Ken Canfield

Michael Hopf's post-apocalypic novel “Those Who Remain”: “Hard times create strong men, strong men create good times, good times create weak men, and weak men create hard times.” Whether it's a family, military or country, leadership is responsible for the direction of the organization and actions of the group.

THE P’S OF FATHERLY RESPONSIBILITY:

PROVIDE

Video: Myron Golden

PROTECT

Kids need confidence to not fight back. They need to know that they can handle a situation

Mindset

Content we allow our children to be exposed to

Mrs. Rachael Children’s Youtube Star

Dating

Be willing to set the boundaries for your daughter

Education

The use of a university is to make young gentleman as unlike their fathers as possible.

C. W. Wilson

POSITION

For success

Discipline

Discipline should be painful

2 Samuel 7:14 NLT

14 I will be his father, and he will be my son. If he sins, I will correct and discipline him with the rod, like any father would do.

Discipleship

When our kids are criticized we have equipped them to know who they are in Christ and not be mortified

PURSUE

God the father pursued us

Pursue wife as a example of what a Godly Father does

Pursue your kids like God the Father pursued us

What is love? (it is not tolerance, affirming dangerous mentalities, Affirming is the easy way out, It is difficult to embrace and redirect

PRAY

Kids should see their dad’s pray

My dad can beat up your dad.

God the father bigger stronger, humbly fears the creator is powerful

I don’t want to get to heaven and not see my family at the Gate.

Conclusion:

Ladies speak this into your husband, pull it out him.

Dad’s Stand Up (wives lay hands on them)