KBM An Absence Of Counsel

Today we will be looking at Proverbs 11:14 which reads…

Proverbs 11:14 NKJV

14 Where there is no counsel, the people fall; But in the multitude of counselors there is safety.

The word “counsel” can mean either “guidance or strategy” for which all groups of people need to be safe from corruption and failure.

The two groups of people I want us to consider today from this passage is our physical family and our spiritual family.

We are living in a time where every sense of logic and reason is falling by the wayside. It’s being declared by “so called experts” that men can be women and women can be men. It’s being hailed as a victory when wives and moms are the breadwinners and husbands and fathers are the “stay at home dads.”

How can people, especially the child of God, keep from falling victim to all this chaos in their physical and spiritual families?

First, we need to get men back to being leaders and therefore giving proper guidance in the physical home. It is the husband and father’s responsibility to lead his family.

Ephesians 5:22–24 NKJV

22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. 24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.

We have far too many wives and moms wearing the pants in the family. This is sinful and where sin in the home is found there chaos will be found as well. Children need to see strong leadership i.e., guidance and strategy from their dad not their mom. God gave us different roles for a reason and wives/moms it is your divinely given role to submit, respect, and live by your husbands leadership as long as it does not go against God’s leadership.

Once the physical home is fixed it will by sheer reality fix the leadership problem in the church our spiritual home. We have too many elders’ wives, preachers’ wives, and deacons’ wives leading, guiding, and creating strategies in the background instead of their husbands doing what God told them to do.

Notice that men are to be the leaders of the church not women.

1 Timothy 2:8 NKJV

8 I desire therefore that the men pray everywhere, lifting up holy hands, without wrath and doubting;

1 Timothy 2:12 ESV

12 I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet.

1 Corinthians 14:34 NKJV

34 Let your women keep silent in the churches, for they are not permitted to speak; but they are to be submissive, as the law also says.

Listen, the fact of the matter is no honest person one would argue with the fact that women are far more emotional then men and men are far more logical then women. This isn’t a bad thing, but rather how God created men and women differently to fulfill the need that each other so that in marriage they are truly “one flesh” in every way.

These differences are not minor but rather divine and as such we must understand that because of the way God created us, men are the ones that ought to give the counsel i.e., guide the physical and spiritual family.

When this is done properly both the physical family will be much safer from chaos as will the spiritual family, the local church.