The Doctrine of the Christian Life 7. Marriage and Family Life
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22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. 25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. 28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, 30 because we are members of his body. 31 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. 33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
Introduction
Marriage is a very important thing provided by God for the good of all mankind.
Marriage Service
Marriage is provided by God as part of his loving purpose for humanity since the beginning of creation.
Marriage is enriched by God for all who have faith in the Gospel, for through the saving grace of Christ and the renewal of the Holy Spirit husband and wife can love one another as Christ loves them.
Marriage is thus a gift and calling of God and is not to be undertaken lightly or from selfish motives but with reverence and dedication, with faith in the enabling power of Christ, and with due awareness of the purpose for which it is appointed by God.
Marriage is appointed that there may be lifelong companionship, comfort and joy between husband and wife.
It is appointed as the right and proper setting for the full expression of physical love between man and woman. It is appointed for the ordering of family life, where children—who are also God’s gifts to us— may enjoy the security of love and the heritage of faith. It is appointed for the well-being of human society, which can be stable and happy only where the marriage bond is honoured and upheld.
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1. One Man, One Woman, Lifelong
1. One Man, One Woman, Lifelong
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Baptist Affirmation of Faith 1966 7. Marriage and Family Life
We believe that marriage is a union between one man and one woman to the exclusion of all others, sealed by vows which make it lifelong.
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18 Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”
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20 The man gave names to all livestock and to the birds of the heavens and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper fit for him. 21 So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh. 22 And the rib that the Lord God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man. 23 Then the man said, “This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.”
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24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. 25 And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.
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5 and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? 6 So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”
7 ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife,
31 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”
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1 Or do you not know, brothers—for I am speaking to those who know the law—that the law is binding on a person only as long as he lives? 2 For a married woman is bound by law to her husband while he lives, but if her husband dies she is released from the law of marriage.
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2. Mutual Help and Comfort
2. Mutual Help and Comfort
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Baptist Affirmation of Faith 1966 7. Marriage and Family Life
God instituted the marriage relationship for the mutual help and comfort of husband and wife, the procreation of children and the prevention of immorality.
18 Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”
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22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. 25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,
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3. Sexual Intercourse
3. Sexual Intercourse
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Baptist Affirmation of Faith 1966 7. Marriage and Family Life
The sexual relationship is sacred and is not to be indulged promiscuously but only within the bonds of marriage. Sexual intercourse outside marriage, whether in contemplation of marriage or otherwise, is forbidden by the Bible, and is sin.
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18 Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth,
18 Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.
2 But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband.
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1 Now the Spirit expressly says that in later times some will depart from the faith by devoting themselves to deceitful spirits and teachings of demons, 2 through the insincerity of liars whose consciences are seared, 3 who forbid marriage and require abstinence from foods that God created to be received with thanksgiving by those who believe and know the truth.
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4 Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.
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4. Only Marry Believers
4. Only Marry Believers
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Baptist Affirmation of Faith 1966 (7. Marriage and Family Life)
Christians should only marry believers and should seek to teach their children similar standards. In all relationships the christian should exercise forgiveness and strive for reconciliation. Divorce otherwise than upon the ground of adultery is contrary to the teaching of the Bible.
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14 Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?
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12 To the rest I say (I, not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. 13 If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him.
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31 “It was also said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ 32 But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.
Sexual Immorality (fornication)
The Baker Expository Dictionary of Biblical Words Sexual Immorality, Commit Sexual Immorality
porneia (πορνεία) 4202 (4518) n., 25×, sexual immorality; fornication; marital unfaithfulness, adultery; prostitution; incest
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5. Children
5. Children
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Baptist Affirmation of Faith 1966 7. Marriage and Family Life
We further believe that it is the duty and privilege of christian parents to rear their children in a disciplined and loving way; to see that their children acquire a thorough knowledge of the Bible from an early age and so to live that by their faith and example the true nature of the christian religion may become apparent to their children; and that children are to obey their parents in the same spirit.
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1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), 3 “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.” 4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
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12 “Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.
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6 Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.
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14 But as for you, continue in what you have learned and have firmly believed, knowing from whom you learned it 15 and how from childhood you have been acquainted with the sacred writings, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus.
Conclusion
16 All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness,