Let’s Do it God’s Way ( Marriage )

Genesis 2:18–25 (ESV)

18 Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”

19 Now out of the ground the Lord God had formed every beast of the field and every bird of the heavens and brought them to the man to see what he would call them. And whatever the man called every living creature, that was its name.

20 The man gave names to all livestock and to the birds of the heavens and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper fit for him.

21 So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh.

22 And the rib that the Lord God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man.

23 Then the man said, “This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.”

24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

25 And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.

Lets do it Gods way (Marriage)

There are a lot of decisions you’re going to make

But there are 3 big decisions

That you will make in life

And I look at these 3

Being the biggest

1st Decision: Your life Destiny

Heaven or Hell

Hebrews 9:27 (ESV)

27 And just as it is appointed for man to die once, and after that comes judgment,

Hebrews 9:27 — what will you say on that day?

Romans 10:13 (ESV)

13 For “everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved.”

1 John 5:12 (ESV)

12 Whoever has the Son has life; whoever does not have the Son of God does not have life.

2nd Decision: your life Work

A major decision

you will make about your life

Is your vocation

This is important because

The work that you spend

Your life doing day in

And day out

It's about more than a paycheck

Note: The idea of vocation is a “calling" a life work

Note: My assignment is to serve God in a pulpit and your assignment maybe to serve God in a classroom but we are ALL still ministers of God

3rd Decision: Your life Mate

Note: Who you decide to marry [A critical Decision]

STAR BOOK at this time "The Address"/“A WARNING"

The Star Book for Ministers (Address)

Address

Dearly beloved, we are gathered together here in the sight of God, and in the face of this company, to join together this man and this woman in holy matrimony; which is an honorable estate, instituted of God, signifying unto us the mystical union that is betwixt Christ and his church: which holy estate Christ adorned and beautified with his presence and first miracle that he wrought in Cana of Galilee, and is commended of Saint Paul to be honorable among all: and therefore is not by any to be entered into unadvisedly or lightly; but reverently, discreetly, advisedly, soberly, and in the fear of God. Into this holy estate these two persons present come now to be joined. If anyone can show just cause why they may not lawfully be joined together, let him now speak, or else hereafter forever hold his peace

Unadvisedly: This means doing something without careful thought or consideration. Biblically we are often encouraged to seek wisdom and guidance before making decisions.

Proverbs 19:2 says, “Desire without knowledge is not good, and whoever makes haste with his feet misses his way.”

So, doing something “unadvisedly” is acting without the wisdom that God encourages us to seek.

Lightly: To do something “lightly” means to do it without seriousness or respect. Biblical sense, this would mean not taking something as seriously as it deserves.

Ecclesiastes 5:2 says, “Be not rash with your mouth, nor let your heart be hasty to utter a word before God, for God is in heaven and you are on earth. Therefore let your words be few.”

This reminds us that our actions and words should be considered carefully and respectfully, especially before God.

Reverently: This means to do something with deep respect and awe. Biblically, it’s about recognizing the holiness and greatness of God in everything we do.

Hebrews 12:28 says, “Therefore let us be grateful for receiving a kingdom that cannot be shaken, and thus let us offer to God acceptable worship, with reverence and awe.”

Acting “reverently” means we are conscious of God’s presence and treat the moment with the respect it deserves.

Discreetly: To act “discreetly” means to be wise and careful in what we say and do, showing good judgment. In the Bible, this is often connected with wisdom and understanding.

Proverbs 2:11 says, “Discretion will protect you, and understanding will guard you.”

It’s about being thoughtful and not drawing unnecessary attention, being wise in our actions.

Advisedly: This is the opposite of unadvisedly; it means to act after careful thought and consideration. In the Bible, this is connected with seeking counsel and wisdom before making decisions.

Proverbs 15:22 says, “Without counsel plans fail, but with many advisers they succeed.”

Acting “advisedly” means we have thought things through and sought God’s wisdom.

Soberly: To do something “soberly” means to do it with seriousness and self-control. The Bible often talks about being sober-minded, especially in the New Testament.

1 Peter 5:8 says, “Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.”

Acting “soberly” means we are serious about our responsibilities and aware of what’s at stake.

STAR BOOK at This time "The Charge "

The Star Book for Ministers (Charge)

Charge:

I require and charge you both, as ye will answer at the dreadful day of judgment when the secrets of all hearts shall be disclosed, that if either of you know any impediment, why ye may not be lawfully joined together in matrimony, ye do now confess it. For be ye well assured, that if any persons are joined together otherwise than as God’s Word doth allow, their marriage is not lawful.

STAR BOOK at this time "Who giveth this woman to be

“ Who giveth this woman to be married to this man “? [Very important question]

The whole wedding ceremony

Is just dismiss as

Just some traditional thing

The whole room

Is suppose to feel the gravity

Of whats is happening

With these two people

Standing at an altar

Making vows before witnesses

To God

Note: Let’s look at marriage under 7 categories

Note: 7 questions you should wrestle with before you get married

1st Question: Are you ready for marriage

Note: This has nothing to do with your mate or the wedding date or your plans about the future. This is not a WINDOW question it’s a MIRROR question.

Note: And the first MIRROR question that should be asked is “ How is things between ME and JESUS” ?

Statement: we spend a lot of time saying I don’t want to marry the wrong person BUT YOU could be that wrong for somebody else.

1st Question: Are you ready for marriage

Man: Are you ready to be that Eph.5:25 Husband

Ephesians 5:25 (ESV)

25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,

Woman: Are you ready to be That Eph.5:22 wife

Ephesians 5:22 (ESV)

22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.

1st Question: Are you ready for marriage

(5) Things you should factor in "Are you ready"

1st Church Membership

Note: NOT church attendance, Participating church membership

Note: Participating Church membership is where other believers know you and you know them and there is some Spiritual oversight over your life

Hebrews 13:17 (ESV)

17 Obey your leaders and submit to them, for they are keeping watch over your souls, as those who will have to give an account. Let them do this with joy and not with groaning, for that would be of no advantage to you.

Note: Is there people that can bear witness to your faith testimony

Note: Are you under the word each week.

1st Church Membership

2nd Consistent Obedience

Question: What's your walk with Christ like?

Colossians 2:6–7 (ESV)

6 Therefore, as you received Christ Jesus the Lord, so walk in him,

7 rooted and built up in him and established in the faith, just as you were taught, abounding in thanksgiving.

Note: You want the person That you marry to be right but you got to be RIGHT.

What’s your walk with the Lord like?

Do you have a daily quiet time?

Are you practicing generosity?

Are there habits, sinful, besetting sins you are struggling with?

What are the evidences that you are growing?

Do you have a burden for the lost?

Are you actively pursuing Holiness?

Luke 6:46 (ESV)

46 “Why do you call me ‘Lord, Lord,’ and not do what I tell you?

Note: It's not the TALK but the WALK

Statement: The automobile of the Christian faith only has two gears “Drive or Reserve" no neutral, no park.

1st Question: Are you ready for marriage

1st Church Membership

2nd Consistent Obedience

3rd Sexual Purity

1st Cor. 7:8-9 [Paul dedicated his life to the Lord]

1 Corinthians 7:8–9 (ESV)

8 To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single, as I am.

9 But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

Note: Paul wants us to have sexual purity, self-control

Statement: If you don't have self-control marriage want fix that

1 Peter 4:3–7 (ESV)

3 For the time that is past suffices for doing what the Gentiles want to do, living in sensuality, passions, drunkenness, orgies, drinking parties, and lawless idolatry.

4 With respect to this they are surprised when you do not join them in the same flood of debauchery, and they malign you;

5 but they will give account to him who is ready to judge the living and the dead.

6 For this is why the gospel was preached even to those who are dead, that though judged in the flesh the way people are, they might live in the spirit the way God does.

7 The end of all things is at hand; therefore be self-controlled and sober-minded for the sake of your prayers.

Statement: It’s hard for you to get clarity about the Lord's will in the midst of sexual immorality. [Sex Clouds your Judgement]

Note: What you think is LOVE maybe LUST

Note: This is why no dating couple should be living together before marriage

1st Question: Are you ready for marriage

1st Church Membership

2nd Consistent Obedience

3rd Sexual Purity

4th Godly Relationships

Ecclesiastes 4:9–12 (ESV)

9 Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil.

10 For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up!

11 Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone?

12 And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken.

Note: You need godly people in your life that will tell you the TRUTH and hold you ACCOUNTABLE [Husband & Wife]

Note: Be honestly open with them so they can minister to you

1st Question: Are you ready for marriage

1st Church Membership

2nd Consistent Obedience

3rd Sexual Purity

4th Godly Relationships

5th Are you willing to submit to Premarital counseling

Note: Counseling is God's way

Note: Don’t go into premarital counseling thinking you already know

Note: Are you willing to invest in your marriage with Tools - Conferences - Counseling in Good times etc.

Example: You service your oil & tires every 3,000 - 5,000 miles not when something go wrong

Statement: Most couples are worried more about the wedding more than the marriage

Statement: you spend months planning a day and you didn't do nothing to plan the life and work after that day