Kayla and Riley Wedding NOTES

PROGRAM:

What do you envision?

Light hearted. Emotional. 60/40 adventists. Not super preachy.

Preferred unplugged!! Discreet. You can make the announcement about the phone thing.

Processional

“Who gives this bride to this man?”

Homily

Vows — written vows. Riley says they’ll do rock paper scissors.

Exchange of Rings.

Unity Ceremony — They’ll get back to you.

Declaration of Intent

Declaration of Marriage and Kiss

REHEARSAL IS THURSDAY. TBD.

Rachel wants to read through my whole script.

Black suit white shirt black tie.

BE THERE AT 3:30 ON FRIDAY.

QUESTIONS:

How did you guys meet?

Kayla: Getting to church and feeling overwhelmed with how many people her age were there. Riley was so far from my age. Ehhh. “How is this possible that we’re in the same age group?” He was so reserved. No eye contact. Everyone else was friends since birth. But everyone was excited that someone new was there. Suuuuuper reserved. “i was like, ‘okaaaaay’”. First interaction. Super shy. SO overwhelming. Everyone wanted to know my social security number!! In the old church!

Riley: Wow, she’s probably in college or something. We were like 13/14 ish. Year 09/08. I thought she was very pretty. “bruuh, she’s way too old for me.” I felt too young young. Then, they split us into the same grou[p. “Wait a second, so you’re telling there’s a chance?”

How did first meeting turn into dating? What was the moment that this can turn into something?

Riley: The day we met to when we went to Oshkosh, we were just hanging. But at Oshkosh…things changed. I even tried to walk close to her. It was part of the master plan. I was trying to find all of these chances to get closer to her. And as the trip went on, she started opening up. And after Oshkosh, we were driving back and sitting on a bench in the Grand Canyon. ON a SUPER cold morning. THEY SAT SUPER CLOSE TO EACH OTHER. AND SOMEONE TOOK A PICTURE OF US.

Kayla: She WAS starting to pick up on his hints here and there! At every stop, they would look at each other and see who would smile first. AND IT WAS TELEPATHIC. Riley said it was on the bench, buuuut KAYLA THINKS ITS ANOTHER TIME. We were in Moab and they wanted to explore. Riley told Kayla to look up. And there was a starry night with shooting stars and everything. It was magical, hahaha. It’s a build up of things. Such a nice night. And that was pivotal for her.

What is your greatest strength?

Kayla: I think our communication is really good. They can read when each other needs space. And their respect for each other. It is telepathic like the smiling game.

Riley: It is respecting each other. They never really treat each other like they are not equal. They see each other at a level eye. We don’t talk down to each other. “I really see her as an opposite reflection of myself.”

What is your greatest challenge?

Riley: Very reflective on the question. He knows that they’ll come around. Basically agree!

Kayla: Both virgos. They either work really well or clash really hard. But we’re getting better at it! “What am I not seeing that i’m not seeing.” Redirecting your strengths.

If there is advice you’d give to younger couples in your wedding, what would you tell them?

Riley: Always remind yourself to be patient. People go through relationships and encounter hardship. And they’re not willing to put in the work or energy to push through. Work things out. That’s why I feel like even though we’ve been together for 12 years, it’s like it’s 1.

Kayla: SHE WAS THINKING THE SAME THING. BEING PATIENT. There are going to be emotions and disagreements. Remember and respect your partner. Your words might have not had the honey, but remember to bring the honey back. You will find a middle ground. Love will find a way. Show that person that you still care in the middle of a disagreement. It’s the ultimate partnership. It’s not always romantic. But that’s OK. It’s showing love in arguments. It’s knowing what they need.