Masculinity In The Home
The Home As God Would Have It • Sermon • Submitted • Presented
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Introduction
Introduction
Greetings…
The feminist movement, as you all know, has had a devastating effect on “The Home As God Would Have It.”
One of the greatest lies ever told is the lie of there being no need for masculine men.
Tess Griman wrote, “What’s a queen without her king? Well, historically speaking more powerful.”
“A strong woman doesn’t need a man to take care of her…”
Chicha Bans stated, “The smartest thing a woman can ever learn, is to never need a man.”
In trying to remove masculinity from men we read things like…
Margaret Atwood stated, “Boys with their first beards can be a thorough pain in the neck.”
Thrity Umrigar said, “As children, we were taught to be afraid of tigers and lions. Nobody taught us what I know today—the most dangerous animal in the world is a man…”
Now, don’t get me wrong, there has been a more recent push to remake the feminist movement.
When doing research for this sermon I found several recent articles with titles such as…
Time Magazine title, “Why Healthy, Successful Women Can Still “Need” Men.”
Forbes article title, “Feminist Don’t Hate Men, According To A New Research.”
When Covid hit and everyone was sent home, we saw a large number of women find out that they much preferred staying at home with their children than going to work.
Hanna Rosin who wrote the book “The End of Men” sees what happened differently when she commented on the mass exodus of women from the work force after the pandemic job market took off again.
“It’s now painfully obvious that the mass entry of women into the workforce was rigged from the beginning…American work culture has always conspired to keep professional women out and working-class women shackled.”
The unfortunate part of this is that this removal of men’s masculinity has crept into the church over the last 40 60 years and infected the home of those who should know better.
I was just talking with a faithful couple recently who said the husband, to this day, struggles taking the lead and being the masculine man of the house because he was raised by a weak father and leading mother.
So what does “Masculinity In The Home” look like.
Meekness
Meekness
Strength Under Control.
Strength Under Control.
Men are certainly created by God to be far stronger than women.
Paul would declare…
1 Corinthians 16:13 (ESV)
13 Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong.
Paul would in contrast say of women…
1 Peter 3:7 (ESV)
7 Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.
Meekness as we said is “strength under control” and comes from the idea of taming a wild animal.
A wild animal doesn’t loose hits strength or power it simply has learned when to use and when not to use it.
Take these men as an example.
Moses was certainly a strong man, even killing another man by defending his spiritual family.
11 One day, when Moses had grown up, he went out to his people and looked on their burdens, and he saw an Egyptian beating a Hebrew, one of his people. 12 He looked this way and that, and seeing no one, he struck down the Egyptian and hid him in the sand.
13 When he went out the next day, behold, two Hebrews were struggling together. And he said to the man in the wrong, “Why do you strike your companion?” 14 He answered, “Who made you a prince and a judge over us? Do you mean to kill me as you killed the Egyptian?” Then Moses was afraid, and thought, “Surely the thing is known.”
15 When Pharaoh heard of it, he sought to kill Moses. But Moses fled from Pharaoh and stayed in the land of Midian. And he sat down by a well.
27 By faith he left Egypt, not being afraid of the anger of the king, for he endured as seeing him who is invisible.
David was certainly a strong man, even killing Goliath but when he had the opportunity to kill his sworn enemy king Saul we read…
4 And the men of David said to him, “Here is the day of which the Lord said to you, ‘Behold, I will give your enemy into your hand, and you shall do to him as it shall seem good to you.’ ” Then David arose and stealthily cut off a corner of Saul’s robe. 5 And afterward David’s heart struck him, because he had cut off a corner of Saul’s robe.
8 Afterward David also arose and went out of the cave, and called after Saul, “My lord the king!” And when Saul looked behind him, David bowed with his face to the earth and paid homage. 9 And David said to Saul, “Why do you listen to the words of men who say, ‘Behold, David seeks your harm’?
10 Behold, this day your eyes have seen how the Lord gave you today into my hand in the cave. And some told me to kill you, but I spared you. I said, ‘I will not put out my hand against my lord, for he is the Lord’s anointed.’
Summary
Summary
Masculinity is having the ability to be dangerous but being under control enough to only use that ability for the betterment of righteousness.
This biblical masculinity will always bear itself out in…
Leadership
Leadership
Demands A Following.
Demands A Following.
When I say demands a following I do not mean in the sense that some demand respect when they have done everything to not earn it.
No, I’m talking about natural leadership that by its very nature those who should lead naturally fall in line and follow.
In the home masculinity that leads to leadership is vitally important in the home.
We all know that leadership was given to man not woman.
1 Timothy 2:12–14 (ESV)
12 I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet. 13 For Adam was formed first, then Eve; 14 and Adam was not deceived, but the woman was deceived and became a transgressor.
In Genesis 3 we find here what God inspired Paul to write.
Notice the punishment for Adam and Eve was not a “new” reality but a now painful reality of what they already had.
By that I mean women did not become submissive to Adam because she sinned, no she became “more” submissive because she sinned.
Adam did not “now have to work” because of sin, no, he had to “work harder” because of his sin.
Genesis 3:16–17 (ESV)
16 To the woman he said, “I will surely multiply your pain in childbearing; in pain you shall bring forth children. Your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you.” 17 And to Adam he said, “Because you have listened to the voice of your wife and have eaten of the tree of which I commanded you, ‘You shall not eat of it,’ cursed is the ground because of you; in pain you shall eat of it all the days of your life
Not only does leadership demand a following we find leadership....
Makes The Hard Decisions.
Makes The Hard Decisions.
It is amazing to see so many Christian men struggle with making decisions for their family and instead put their responsibility on their wives.
Now, I’m not suggesting that husbands don’t take the advice of their wives into consideration, but it is not his wife’s responsibility make the decisions for the family.
7 Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.
It is the husband’s responsibility to make the spiritual decisions of the home.
4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior.
Joshua 24:15 (ESV)
15 And if it is evil in your eyes to serve the Lord, choose this day whom you will serve, whether the gods your fathers served in the region beyond the River, or the gods of the Amorites in whose land you dwell. But as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.
5 And when the days of the feast had run their course, Job would send and consecrate them, and he would rise early in the morning and offer burnt offerings according to the number of them all. For Job said, “It may be that my children have sinned, and cursed God in their hearts.” Thus Job did continually.
38 The man from whom the demons had gone begged that he might be with him, but Jesus sent him away, saying, 39 “Return to your home, and declare how much God has done for you.” And he went away, proclaiming throughout the whole city how much Jesus had done for him.
It is the husband’s responsibility to make the physical decisions of the home.
15 The Lord God took the man and put him in the garden of Eden to work it and keep it.
8 But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.
Lastly I want us to notice that leadership…
Is An Example To Follow.
Is An Example To Follow.
When Paul wrote to Titus, though not about the family, he reminded him that leadership is seen in those that are a “model of good works.”
7 Show yourself in all respects to be a model of good works, and in your teaching show integrity, dignity, 8 and sound speech that cannot be condemned, so that an opponent may be put to shame, having nothing evil to say about us.
Husbands and fathers are to be an example of purity in the marriage.
4 Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.
Husbands and fathers are to be an example of what a faithful husband and father looks like.
20 I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.
Summary
Summary
A husband that is a leader is one that encourage the natural submission of their wife and children.
Is one that willingly makes the hard decisions for the home and is a model of faithfulness.
Conclusion
Conclusion
Toxic masculinity is defined by most as, “a collection of offensive, harmful beliefs, tendencies, and behaviors rooted in traditional male roles.”
Things such as “toughness, anti-femininity, and being powerful.”
The masculine man of the home must be tough, anti-feminine, and powerful if the family is to function as God would have it.
These are not toxic they are required.
Invitation
1 Behold, the Lord’s hand is not shortened, that it cannot save, or his ear dull, that it cannot hear; 2 but your iniquities have made a separation between you and your God, and your sins have hidden his face from you so that he does not hear.
6 who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, 7 but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men.
17 So faith comes from hearing, and hearing through the word of Christ.
6 And without faith it is impossible to please him, for whoever would draw near to God must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who seek him.
30 The times of ignorance God overlooked, but now he commands all people everywhere to repent,
33 So therefore, any one of you who does not renounce all that he has cannot be my disciple.
32 “Therefore whoever confesses Me before men, him I will also confess before My Father who is in heaven. 33 But whoever denies Me before men, him I will also deny before My Father who is in heaven.
8 in flaming fire, inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus.
1 Now I would remind you, brothers, of the gospel I preached to you, which you received, in which you stand, 2 and by which you are being saved, if you hold fast to the word I preached to you—unless you believed in vain. 3 For I delivered to you as of first importance what I also received: that Christ died for our sins in accordance with the Scriptures, 4 that he was buried, that he was raised on the third day in accordance with the Scriptures,
3 Do you not know that all of us who have been baptized into Christ Jesus were baptized into his death? 4 We were buried therefore with him by baptism into death, in order that, just as Christ was raised from the dead by the glory of the Father, we too might walk in newness of life. 5 For if we have been united with him in a death like his, we shall certainly be united with him in a resurrection like his.
7 But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus his Son cleanses us from all sin.
