Eden and Johnathan Marriage Sermon

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MARRIAGE CEREMONY OUTLINE: KEVIN & LILLY THOMAS Friday June 14th2024, @ 3:00pm @ Horseshoe Resort PROCESSIONAL • Johnathan & guys to enter front left and stand in place • Bridesmaids to Walk Down Isle to • Bride walk down isle to HELLO EVERYONE,Please be seated, This afternoon we are gathered together before God and in the presence of one another to join: EDEN ROSE CHAMPAGNE and JONATHAN TAYLOR CRANE

in the covenant and commitment of marriage which was and is God’s incredible creation. We stand understanding the laws of marriage according to the province Ontario, and we seek on behalf of JONATHAN & EDEN the blessing and protection of God. Who gives EDEN to be married to JONATHAN (Mr CRANE) *I charge you both in the presence of God and your witnesses, that if either of you know of any reason why you may not be lawfully married today, declare it now or forever hold your peace.* (wait for response)

good afternoon friends and family we are all excited to be celebrating the marriage of Jonatrhan and Eden. there was alot of work.

Ladies and gents thank you for coming from near and far to celebrate this wedding. it means alot to Jonathan and Eden that you are here. OPENING REMARKS ABOUT THE MEANING OF MARRIAGE - In Ephesians 5:31, Paul quotes Genesis 2:24: “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one ˙flesh.” From the very beginning, God creates marriage. It is a relationship he created as a gift to Adam and to Eve. These truths are important because they help us understand the foundation and reason for marriage.

“Marriage is God’s idea. The Bible begins with a wedding (of Adam and Eve) and ends in the book of Revelation with a wedding (of Christ and the Church). Marriage is God’s idea and therefore, what the Bible says about God’s design for marriage is crucial.” Regardless of how you feel about marriage, I think we can all agree that what we are witnessing here tonight is truly special. In my perspective, the commitment JONATHAN and EDEN are making to one another is one of the greatest commitments you could ever make to another person.

WORSHIP

How Great thou art

Christ the Solid Rock

SCRIPTURE READING — (Sam)

Romans 12:9-12

1 Corinthians 13:4-7

MEDITATION (MESSAGE)

Jonathan Eden. Wwow you guys have made it! after a lopng journey of plannin, revising planning and revisin revised plannin you guys have made it! Wow take a deep breath.

Today Johnathan & Eden will make an incredible promise to one another under the sight of God and all of us here. Why do we make these vows?

“Wedding vows,” the late Tim Keller reminds us, “are not a declaration of present love but a mutually binding promise of future love” (Meaning of Marriage, 79). “I take you, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part.” Being yours might cost me more than I ever thought I could give — more than I can now imagine — but I promise to never leave you. Vows tie the future fragility and difficulty of marriage into the very beauty of the ceremony.

In the joys and difficuties we need to remeber to prioritse God. youdo not take on this difficult promise of future love on our own. But we learn , to cling on to Jesus and ask for strength from His spirit to contiuing reaffirming the promises you make to each other today.

You know that both the readings today is not about marriage. Its really about how to do Church. In particular, how to do worship in Church; how Church is not so much about the buzz and excitement and glamour. And it's really not so much about us as it is about God and us needing to get serious, stop being childish, grow up and to learn to know Him by following Jesus.

It works for marriage, too. Because marriage is not so much about the buzz and excitement and electricity and chemistry of pre-marital romance—good as all that is!—real marriage— deep, satisfying, rich, delightful, soul-mates marriage—is about putting the childish, all-about-me, ways behind us as we grow up into the women and men God made us to be. Real marriage is about learning to see through the poorer reflections of ourselves and our spouse that come from childish foot-stamping and always wanting our own way to seeing one another face to face. Really applying ourselves to learning to know one another fully, and being vulnerable enough to allow ourselves to be fully known—having faith in God and in one another, hoping for the best from one another and from God. The is real love rooted in Gods love

That kind of love never fails. That kind of love is the “greatest of these” Paul wrote about in our reading. That kind of love will grow Jonathan & Eden and bring them face to face forever.

there are a few key pointers we can get out of these scriptues even a few verses before.

1. Words without Actions Are Just Noise

We can talk like an angel, but if we only speak the words, it’s half the love. The first verse says, “I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal,” (1 Corinthians 13:1b). In other words, words of love that are not backed up by action are just a lot of noise. Like worldly, shallow chatter, hollow talk splatters around a relationship instead of sincerely penetrating from one heart to another.

Language without action is worth little. Actions validate our words of promise, the ones spoken at the altar and repeated every day in a thousand small ways in countless ordinary moments. Texts saying, “I’ll remember,” or quick kisses at the door saying, “Love you too,” or phone calls assuring, “I won’t forget.” Isn’t it ironic that ordinary moments define extra-ordinary love?

Agape comes with authentication. To love your spouse with the sincerity of 1 Corinthians 13, use language paired with follow through. Do what you say to love like you say.

2. Gifts and Talent Mean Little without Humility

You may, “Have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and … have all faith,” (1 Corinthians 13:2) but without real love concerned more about giving than receiving, those stellar qualities are only half of what you may have hoped they’re worth. This introduction to legitimate loving points to something more than assets on paper.

What makes a spouse a “great ?” Is it their career, their future, their genes, their connections, or their photogenic style? A partner may be skillful, smart, and spiritual enough to move mountains, but if they lack love, they can add, “I am nothing” (1 Corinthians 13:2b) to their signature on anniversary cards.

Ackowledge that what ever you bring into this relationship is not for you or to puff up your pride but to serve to God and toeach other as huble gifts that have not cluase of things returned.

3. Sacrifices without Selflessness Are Empty

“I’d do anything for you,” the yearning heart pledges. “I’d give my life for you,” the lover promises. But sacrifices and even a whole life offered from one to another makes little difference if it’s void of love. “If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing” (1 Corinthians 13:3).

When the agape love is gone, even big sacrifices have little impact. A dozen roses might as well be a bundle of thorns when given from an unloving heart or an unkind hand. A dinner on the table may as well be poison for the palate when offered out of bitterness or sprinkled with cutting words. True love gives from selflessness.

So what’s the key to doing marriage in a love chapter way? How does it look when words, intellect, and sacrifices fulfill the qualities of good love? The secret lies in three words, just not the three words on typical decorative wall hangings.

The 3 Words of 1 Corinthians 13 - "You Before Me"

Agape love in a relationship, especially in a married relationship, means coming to your partner with a “you before me” attitude. This kind of heart turns the eyes and thoughts in an outward direction. Love looks for how to uplift the other person first, rather than the self.

Paul directs christian living in his letters to churches in 1 Corinthans 13 & Romans 12 as read earlier

In a letter to the church in Philippi, Paul also addressed relationships saying, “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others” (Philippians 2:3-4).

You before me.

Notice the preposition “before,” indicating the position and the priority of one contrasted with the other. It’s not “over” or “instead of.” These 3 words in this order may not appear in the thirteenth chapter of the first letter to the Corinthians, but they come together in these 4 core verses.

“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things” (1 Corinthians 13:4-7).

These verses contrast loving all the way, halfway, or not at all. Observe the pattern of how love looks in action compared with how it doesn’t look in action. Love operates with a “you before me” approach.

This is what "you before me" looks like in action:

Love does this:

-Exercises patience—endures with long suffering

-Shows kindness—behaves with mildness, acts kind

-Rejoices in truth—delights in what’s true according to God

-Bears always—protects and preserves

-Believes always—trusts with confidence

-Hopes always—waits with joyful expectation

-Endures always—perseveres, remains without fleeing

Love doesn’t do this:

-Envies—harbors hot feelings of jealousy

-Boasts—vainly brags about self

-Acts arrogantly—puffs up with pride

-Dishonors others— behaves rudely

-Insists on its way—seeks self first

-Acts irritably—gets angry and provokes easily

-Keeps a record of wrongs—remembers and resents offenses

-Rejoices in wrongdoing—delights in evil things

No, love isn’t perfectly loving all the time, but it’s committed to maturing for the sake of loving someone well. Genuine love disciplines its behavior, to make progress in doing what’s loving and to stop doing what’s unloving. Consistently, these actions demonstrate a heart decision to put “you before me.” You go first. You be the most important one. You before me.

This is echoed in epesians 5 in a chapter titled walk in love:

English Standard Version Chapter 5

22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.

25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. 28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, 30

Acts of service, confession, forgiveness, and understanding forge bonds keeping us together in a shared pursuit of mindfulness for the other person’s well-being and gowrth to look more like jesus every day.

Love that learns to put “you before me” is worth working for. It outlasts attractive qualities and knowledge, charming language, and passionate promises. Loving your spouse according to 1 Corinthians 13 really does boil down to three words, just not the three words on the wall hangings.

Real love vows to take the path of “you before me.”

MARRIAGE VOWS TRADITIONAL Will you JONATHAN have EDEN to be your wedded wife, to live together according to God’s plan for marriage outlined in His word? Will you always love her, comfort her in tough times, honour and care for her in sickness and in health, and, forsaking all others, keep you only to her, so long as you both shall live? JONATHAN shall answer: I will.

Will you EDEN have JONATHAN to be your wedded husband, to live together according to God’s plan for marriage outlined in His word? Will you always love him, comfort him in tough times, honour and care for him in sickness and in health, and, forsaking all others, keep you only to him, so long as you both shall live? EDEN shall answer: I will. (Join your hands and JONATHAN repeat after me:) I JONATHAN, take you EDEN, to be my wife, to have and to hold from this day forward; for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part, according to God’s holy law; in the presence of God I make this vow. (EDEN repeat after me:) I EDEN, take you JONATHAN, to be my husband, to have and to hold from this day forward; for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part, according to God’s holy law; in the presence of God I make this vow. CONGREGATIONAL VOW Will you, the families and friends of JONATHAN & EDEN, support and uphold them in their marriage now and in the years to come? PRAYER (vow Focus) — Jeremiah Thomas THE RING CEREMONY *BEST MAN. to pass rings to Jeremiah (Kevin repeat after me): EDEN, with this ring I thee wed as a promise of my never-ending love. (Lilly repeat after me): JONATHAN, with this ring I thee wed as a promise of my never-ending love. The JONATHAN & EDEN shall then place the ring on the third finger of the left hand.

JONATHAN & EDEN shall join their hands, until the benediction has been pronounced, and the minister shall say:

“Let these rings continue to be to you both a symbol of the value, the purity, and the constancy of true wedded love, and a seal of the vows and commitments you have now made.”

THE DECLARATION

*For as much as you, Johnathan and Eden ,have consented together in marriage and have pledged your faithfulness to each other in the sight of God and in the presence of your friends and family; and have confirmed the same by joining of hands and the giving and receiving of rings; I now, therefore, in the name of the Father, Son and Holy Spirit and by the province of Ontario pronounce you husband and wife. Whom, therefore, God has joined together let not anyone ever pull apart.*

KISS ONE ANOTHER

JONATHAN, you may kiss your bride!