Godly Parenting
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Introduction
Introduction
Greetings…
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Parents Are The Authority
Parents Are The Authority
Dad & Mom Are The Authority.
Dad & Mom Are The Authority.
There has been a shift in authority, much like that of the wives to the husbands, between children and parents.
We are seeing more and more children grow up without much if any authority given by their parents.
This idea started with the false concept that physical discipline is somehow wrong for a child.
We will dive into this more later.
For now however, I want us to return to the idea of authority.
Too many parents, in an endeavor to be friends with their children, gave up their authority to their children allowing them to “rule the roost so to speak.”
This couldn’t be further from the expectations God has placed on parents.
Parents must have authority and thus lead their children.
1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), 3 “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.”
Summary
Summary
Now the question of how this leading takes place with parents is what I want us to focus on in the rest of this lesson.
Because though many parents do not demonstrate authority over their children this is often because they simply do not know “how to raise their children with authority” because they certainly were not raised in that way.
So what does Godly Parenting look like in practical terms.
Practical Parenting
Practical Parenting
Parents Must Provide Financially.
Parents Must Provide Financially.
Parents have an obligation to “save up” for their children, by which I mean they are to take care of their children financially and not the other way around.
It is truly a sad situation when a child must take care of their parents financially.
Now, I’m not talking about when a parent gets old and dependence on their children to take care of them in their elderly age which is God’s expectation.
4 But if a widow has children or grandchildren, let them first learn to show godliness to their own household and to make some return to their parents, for this is pleasing in the sight of God.
No, I’m talking about when the child is young growing up in the home or just starting their life.
Notice what Paul writes…
2 Corinthians 12:14–15 (ESV)
14 Here for the third time I am ready to come to you. And I will not be a burden, for I seek not what is yours but you. For children are not obligated to save up for their parents, but parents for their children. 15 I will most gladly spend and be spent for your souls. If I love you more, am I to be loved less?
Now, obviously Paul is making a spiritual application out of a physical responsibility.
It is the parents responsibility to spend and be spent for their children’s wellbeing.
Notice, I did not say for their every want but for their wellbeing.
Secondly…
Parents Must Teach & Train.
Parents Must Teach & Train.
The holy writ of God’s word is clear that parents have the responsibility to teach and train their children in the Lord.
Ephesians 6:4 (ESV)
4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
Proverbs 22:6 (ESV)
6 Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.
To teach is to bestow knowledge and to train is to show them how to apply that knowledge.
Parents must teach and train children spiritually.
13 The end of the matter; all has been heard. Fear God and keep his commandments, for this is the whole duty of man.
5 You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. 6 And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart.
Deuteronomy 6:7–9 (ESV)
7 You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. 8 You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. 9 You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.
It only takes one set of bad parents to end the next generations knowledge of God.
10 And all that generation also were gathered to their fathers. And there arose another generation after them who did not know the Lord or the work that he had done for Israel.
This is why parents must be diligent to teach and train their children to honor and respect authority and the consequences of not doing so.
This is where parents train through discipline.
15 The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.
24 Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.
12 Let no one despise you for your youth, but set the believers an example in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, in purity.
Dr. Spock wrote a book on raising children in 1946 on raising children that “revolutionized” how kids were to be raised.
The book which to date has sold over 50 million copies and had numerous later editions and additions such as the inclusion of homosexual parenting and others is said to be the reason why as early as the 1970’s kids were becoming less and less disciplined at home.
In fact Dr Spock himself wrote in an 1974 article titled, “How Not To Bring Up A Bratty Child”…
“We have reared a generation of brats. Parents aren’t firm enough with their children for fear of losing their love or incurring their resentment. This is a cruel deprivation that we professionals have imposed on mothers and fathers. Of course, we did it with the best of intentions. We didn’t realize until it was too late how our know-it-all attitude was undermining the self assurance of parents.” 2
In 2018 the American Academy of Pediatrics determined, “parents should not spank their children” according to the New York Times. 3
The reality is we have seen what dismissing God’s law on teaching and training concerning discipline looks like.
It is a world that has become more and more sinful, less respectful of God, and as Dr. Spock pointed out generations of brats.
Now, to be clear when we talk about discipline there are several forms and physically punishment should only be done in “love” and “for training purposes” never out of anger.
Because the we must never forget, even in discipline our last responsibility of parents we are going to discuss today which is…
Parents Must Comfort.
Parents Must Comfort.
We need look no further than our heavenly Father for this.
If anyone needed discipline it is us “the human race” but over and over our God has set forth even in discipline to comfort us.
2 O Lord my God, I cried to you for help, and you have healed me.
Psalm 30:11 (ESV)
11 You have turned for me my mourning into dancing; you have loosed my sackcloth and clothed me with gladness
18 The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit. 19 Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the Lord delivers him out of them all. 20 He keeps all his bones; not one of them is broken. 21 Affliction will slay the wicked, and those who hate the righteous will be condemned. 22 The Lord redeems the life of his servants; none of those who take refuge in him will be condemned.
Summary
Summary
In Luke 2:52 we see all of this put in action.
52 And Jesus increased in wisdom and in stature and in favor with God and man.
Conclusion
Conclusion
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Invitation
1 Behold, the Lord’s hand is not shortened, that it cannot save, or his ear dull, that it cannot hear; 2 but your iniquities have made a separation between you and your God, and your sins have hidden his face from you so that he does not hear.
6 who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, 7 but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men.
17 So faith comes from hearing, and hearing through the word of Christ.
6 And without faith it is impossible to please him, for whoever would draw near to God must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who seek him.
30 The times of ignorance God overlooked, but now he commands all people everywhere to repent,
33 So therefore, any one of you who does not renounce all that he has cannot be my disciple.
32 So everyone who acknowledges me before men, I also will acknowledge before my Father who is in heaven, 33 but whoever denies me before men, I also will deny before my Father who is in heaven.
8 in flaming fire, inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus.
1 Now I would remind you, brothers, of the gospel I preached to you, which you received, in which you stand, 2 and by which you are being saved, if you hold fast to the word I preached to you—unless you believed in vain. 3 For I delivered to you as of first importance what I also received: that Christ died for our sins in accordance with the Scriptures, 4 that he was buried, that he was raised on the third day in accordance with the Scriptures,
3 Do you not know that all of us who have been baptized into Christ Jesus were baptized into his death? 4 We were buried therefore with him by baptism into death, in order that, just as Christ was raised from the dead by the glory of the Father, we too might walk in newness of life. 5 For if we have been united with him in a death like his, we shall certainly be united with him in a resurrection like his.
7 But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus his Son cleanses us from all sin.
Endnotes
Endnotes
https://www.nytimes.com/2011/11/12/opinion/a-focus-on-the-scourge-of-spanking.html
https://skeptics.stackexchange.com/questions/28022/did-dr-benjamin-spock-recant-his-child-rearing-teachings-later-in-life
https://www.nytimes.com/2018/11/05/health/spanking-harmful-study-pediatricians.html
