Breaking the Darkness (3)
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Abandonment and Rejection
Abandonment and Rejection
How many of you know abandonment and rejection go hand in hand? Like hopelessness is with situation abandonment and rejection are with people. I trusted so and so and they left me. Why try trusting anyone ever again.
Rejection is the fear you won’t say yes
Abandonment is the fear you won’t stay.
Even Jesus when he came to his own and they rejected him.
10 Have you not read this Scripture: “ ‘The stone that the builders rejected has become the cornerstone;
Jesus was rejected by the very people who should have been first to accept Him. They should have been in line first to receive him. After all there were over 300 prophesies that the Pharisees used to preach from. They gained their livelihood with His information. But their rejection led to our ability to accept Him.
Sometimes abandonment and rejection is a blessing because some people want to keep you in their pit instead of helping to elevate you to where God is moving you.
Sometimes rejection and abandonment gives us direction. The truth is you can get direction while the you still feel the sting of rejection.
Jesus was still human. Yes he knew that they ultimately had to reject him, but just because because he had to reject him doesn’t mean it didn’t hurt, but you can either sit in the trauma or you can heal and move on. You can move tramatic experiences to project you forward or to hurt you more.
I remember when my mother told me that I was going to be nothing more than a gangbanger and an alcoholic like my father. Ultimately I didn’t know what rejection was. I didn’t know how to process it, but I did know how to use it. Part of what motivated me to become who I am today was just the simple desire to prove her wrong.
Every word spoken has the ability to become a prophecy over your life. So I can either fulfill the prophecy or I can change it. Even the prophecies God gives you through other people hing on your obedience or your willingness to change. I have given people prophecies that stated if you don’t change. I have also given people prophesices that would project them into their calling, but ultimately they decide what prophesies come true.
My mother tried to negatively prophesy over my life. I ran from it. We see this warning with PEter when Jesus tells him he would deny him 3 times. I wonder what Peter would have done if he heeded the warning. What if he didn’t deny Jesus—than the healing wouldn’t have needed to happen. The 3 times on the beach wouldn’t have needed to happen. Would Jesus had been wrong? No! He would have had been right if PEter didn’t change. Would my mother be wrong if I chose that path…no. She would have been right. I chose the path.
Does rejection hurt? Yes
61 And the Lord turned and looked at Peter. And Peter remembered the saying of the Lord, how he had said to him, “Before the rooster crows today, you will deny me three times.”
Despite knowing that this was going to happen it had to sting. Then he had to walk Peter through healing. Peter rejected Jesus and Jesus helped heal his heart.
Judas was necessary, but I bet it still hurt the human side of Jesus.
Sometimes abandonment is necessary for growth. Sometimes God must cut people out of your life so that you can focus on what God in your future. Judas was necessary for Jesus to die, but it doesn’t mean that it doesn't hurt.
My mother couldn’t get me where God wanted to take me. Was there trauma in the removal process? Yes, but God helped heal me from that as well.
I needed to find Jesus and my birth mother couldn’t get me there.
The truth is if something better is coming something lesser has to go. Your hands can’t be full to receive more.
Sometimes the process from lesser to greater is traumatic. Sometimes we have to let go what what we love or people we love to become someone we can love.
The pathway to greater can be tramatic because we want what we have and we don’t know what we could gain by letting it go. We fear the pain of growth so we stay the same. But if you let go of what was you are able to grab ahold of what i coming.
WE also need to understand that Peace doesn’t come in understanding why. Sometimes you just have to focus on surviving it until you grow past it. I
ave had people come to me with grief and there is nothing that can make it better other than time.
34 O Jerusalem, Jerusalem, the city that kills the prophets and stones those who are sent to it! How often would I have gathered your children together as a hen gathers her brood under her wings, and you were not willing!
This is a crying O. The desire of the Father is to gather but he had ot let them go. They were unwilling to be gathered.
35 Behold, your house is forsaken. And I tell you, you will not see me until you say, ‘Blessed is he who comes in the name of the Lord!’ ”
Then Jesus walks away. Everything Jesus did. All the miracles that were performed. All the feeding the hungry. Loving people. Jesus did all the right things and still he just walked away. Sometimes abandonment and rejection come because if we would have seen our value before they rejected us we would have walked away.
Jesus said you will not see me until you value me. You will not see me until you desire me, not my gifts, not what I can do for you, but until you desire me.
So how do we overcome abandonment. Well Abandonment is the fear that we will be left alone without anyone to help us, protect us, or desire us. That we are unworthy of Love. rejection is the fear no one will say yes and thus we never ask the questions our hearts long for.
7 “Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you.
God wants to define you. He wants to answer your life’s questions we just have to be ready ot hear.
1 God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.
The issue is we are going to the created to ask questions our creator is the only one who can answer them.
