Module 5 Lecture 2
Notes
Transcript
Review
Review
Love starts with God
Love starts with God
Hindrances to Learning to Love
Hindrances to Learning to Love
People Don’t Know God
Hatred
Unforgiveness
Lack of a Loving Family (Example for You)
Lies vs. Truth
Lies vs. Truth
Performance vs Justification
Approval vs. Reconciliation
Blame vs. Propitiation
Shame vs. Regeneration
Healthy Families
Healthy Families
Covenant
Covenant
There is a deep commitment to each other.
You love each other.
You know them and they know you and you STILL love each other.
You are committing to be subject to one another.
Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
You will need to know how to Love and Be Loved
It is fleshed out by actions
And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.
Put on love - it is an action not a feeling.
Learning how to be loved
Learning how to be loved
By God
But because of his great love for us, God, who is rich in mercy,
By Others
Learning how to love
Learning how to love
Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Grace
Grace
Healthy families know how to forgive and be forgiven
Grace is unmerited favor.
You will hurt each other. A healthy family learns how to forgive and be forgiven
Forgive
Forgive
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.
Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful.
“Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.
We are talking about Reconciliation - we don’t hold things against each other any more.
We don’t keep score
We aren’t looking for Justice we a looking for reconciliation
Empowering
Empowering
Healthy Families know how to serve and be served.
there must be an element of giving back into the family. You must be a contributor
Allow others in your family to serve - as a parent you need to model and teach this
Don’t steal anyone’s crown
For we are God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.
God has prepared them in advance for us to.
You, my brothers, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the sinful nature; rather, serve one another in love.
We are supposed to model Jesus in this way
For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.”
Intimacy
Intimacy
A healthy family knows how to know each other and be known.
Healthy families shouldn’t have to hide their true selves from each other.
You are yourself with them
For the director of music. Of David. A psalm.
O Lord, you have searched me
and you know me.
You know when I sit and when I rise;
you perceive my thoughts from afar.
You discern my going out and my lying down;
you are familiar with all my ways.
Before a word is on my tongue
you know it completely, O Lord.
You hem me in—behind and before;
you have laid your hand upon me.
Such knowledge is too wonderful for me,
too lofty for me to attain.
Where can I go from your Spirit?
Where can I flee from your presence?
If I go up to the heavens, you are there;
if I make my bed in the depths, you are there.
If I rise on the wings of the dawn,
if I settle on the far side of the sea,
even there your hand will guide me,
your right hand will hold me fast.
If I say, “Surely the darkness will hide me
and the light become night around me,”
even the darkness will not be dark to you;
the night will shine like the day,
for darkness is as light to you.
For you created my inmost being;
you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well.
My frame was not hidden from you
when I was made in the secret place.
When I was woven together in the depths of the earth,
your eyes saw my unformed body.
All the days ordained for me
were written in your book
before one of them came to be.
How precious to me are your thoughts, O God!
How vast is the sum of them!
Were I to count them,
they would outnumber the grains of sand.
When I awake,
I am still with you.
If only you would slay the wicked, O God!
Away from me, you bloodthirsty men!
They speak of you with evil intent;
your adversaries misuse your name.
Do I not hate those who hate you, O Lord,
and abhor those who rise up against you?
I have nothing but hatred for them;
I count them my enemies.
Search me, O God, and know my heart;
test me and know my anxious thoughts.
See if there is any offensive way in me,
and lead me in the way everlasting.
God knows you and he still loves you. You are work in progress and so are the other people in your family. Some are further along than others.
The best way to grow is to have people in your corner who will spur you on to love and good works. People who can support you on your journey.
But if you are afraid to be yourself then they don’t even know what journey you are on.
And every time you’re with them you will feel like you aren’t yourself
You will be afraid that they won’t like you if they find out who you really are.
As you try to get better and try to work on areas of your life you will feel alone and much of the time overwhelmed.
Eventually when they say something that bothers them you will be like - if you only knew how much better I am than I used to be or than what i could be.
But they don’t know so practice this, practice all of it.
It isn’t comfortable but put yourself out there open up and let them in.
Let your kids into your journey. Grow together. don’t shut them out otherwise eventually they will shut you out.
Q&A
Q&A
