Happiness vs. Joy

Intro

In our first lesson, we looked at how gratitude comes from valuing what we already have (contentment), rather than receiving what we want (satisfaction). In this lesson, we will see how gratitude is characterized by joy, and how joy differs from mere happiness.

Core statement/concept

“Gratitude is characterized by joy, not mere happiness.”

The sad pursuit of happiness

Happiness feels really great and so, much like our other desires, we chase it

We keep doing the things that have made us happy - even if they’re unhealthy

We mimic other people’s happiness - we think it is out there to find, and so we look where others are looking

We manufacture experiences - we can care more about the feeling than the authenticity of the moment

The more we chase happiness, the harder it becomes to find and hold on to

This is because happiness is a mood - it is the result of something, but it isn’t the “something” itself

Joy is not like happiness

Psalm 4:6–8 “Many are asking, “Who can show us anything good?” Let the light of your face shine on us, Lord. 7 You have put more joy in my heart than they have when their grain and new wine abound. 8 I will both lie down and sleep in peace, for you alone, Lord, make me live in safety.”

David is describing something that is different than happiness - it is more consistent and more powerful

James 1:2–4 “Consider it a great joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you experience various trials, 3 because you know that the testing of your faith produces endurance. 4 And let endurance have its full effect, so that you may be mature and complete, lacking nothing.”

James is describing a kind of happiness that can even exist in unpleasant circumstances - something that is based on value

i.e. you can find joy in difficulty because you understand the value of what the difficulty is going to produce in you long-term

Happiness is like rain, but joy is like a well

They are both water, and they are both good - but one is consistent and the other is not

Joy comes from gratitude

When you understand something’s value, it becomes a source of joy

You can feel this joy in the middle of pain, frustration, and even despair

The most enduring gratitude is found in strong relationships

This is because our greatest needs are all relational - love, safety, and acceptance

So we will find joy by pursuing relationships - not things or desires

God presence IS joy (Psalm 43:4)

God’s words ARE joy (Jer 15:16)

Paul’s joy IS his Christian brothers and sisters (1 Thes. 2:19-20)

Imagine a life of joy

Joy isn’t hard to find when you look in the right place

By choosing contentment, which cultivates gratitude, you produce a well of joy

Joy affects your mood, your outlook, and your approach to everything

By drawing from a well of joy, your experience of life is more stable and consistent and healthy

Apply

Discussion Questions

What grabbed your attention in today’s lesson?

How does it apply in your life?

What are you going to take away and apply this week?

Summary of sermon (Big Idea)

When you appreciate the value of what God has given you, you possess a gratitude that produces a well of joy that you can draw from even in the unhappiest circumstances.

Pray

Give thanks to the Lord for His many blessings. Name them specifically and describe the way they positively affect your life.