Life Skills to Live By! - Lessons from the Book of Proverbs.

Learn to Value Godly Wisdom.

Proverbs 1:9-2:22

A young man was searching for the secret of wisdom, and heard that there was a Guru high in the Himalayas who knew the secret. So he set off to find the guru, going through much hardship and travail until finally, high in the mountains, he found the Master sitting in the lotus posture.

"Tell me, oh Master!" he said, "What is the secret of wisdom?" The Master replied: "Good judgment." "But how do you get good judgment?" asked the young man. The Master replied: "Experience." "And how do you get experience?" the young man persisted. "Ah," said the Master: "Bad judgment."

Experience is a teacher and if you learn from your experiences - from your mistakes! then you become wiser. Wisdom is the the accumulation of knowledge gained over time. It’s a lifeskill!

I. WISDOM’S PURPOSE

Wisdom really shines through in the Book of Proverbs!

In this wonderful collection of Proverbs, the words wise and wisdom appear over 125 times, focusing not on just academic knowledge but on the kind of wisdom that comes from God, helping us make important life choices and navigate our everyday lives.

Psalm 14:1 reminds us that the fool says in his heart there is no God.

On the other hand, Warren Wiersbe notes that real biblical wisdom starts with having a good relationship with the Lord. “A wise person recognises God as the Creator and Ruler of everything and sees a divine order that, when followed, ultimately leads to success. Wise individuals also point out that there’s a moral law in our world, ensuring that the wicked face consequences while the righteous are rewarded. Interestingly, this wisdom isn’t tied to one’s IQ or education; it’s about moral and spiritual understanding, rooted in character and values, which allows us to see the world through the filter of God’s truth.”

“Seeing the World through the Filter of God’s truth!”

Wisdom is all about viewing life through God’s perspective. The Book of Proverbs fits within the broader category of wisdom literature found in the Old Testament, alongside Job and Ecclesiastes.

These writings tackle life’s difficult questions, helping us make sense of challenges from a divine viewpoint. They ponder what should motivate us, the potential downsides of chasing wealth, pleasure, and fame, and how to react when life feels daunting.

One of the key metaphors in the first nine chapters of Proverbs is the concept of life as a way, a road or a path(Heb: derek). This concept beautifully illustrates our life choices, showing where we currently are, where we want to go, and the important turning points we face.

Walking in faith can be tough, and the Lord encourages us to engage our minds as we tackle these life issues.

We’re also called to love the Lord with our thoughts just as much as with our hearts and souls. Wisdom encourages us to stick to this righteous road, assuring us that God walks with those who make good choices and follow the advice of godly wisdom.

The Lord grants wisdom, providing knowledge and understanding to those who live with integrity while protecting the paths of the righteous.

James 1:5–6: “If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him.”

James 3:17: “the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere.”

Yet, there’s something special about biblical wisdom:

It’s all about living skilfully and developing a godly character that shines through in our daily lives and relationships.

The Hebrew word for wise, hakam, is used to describe those skilled in hands-on work, like the artisans who built the tabernacle and Solomon’s temple.

Wisdom isn’t just theory; it’s very practical and influences every part of our lives, bringing order, purpose, and clarity when making decisions, ultimately leading to fulfilment that glorifies God.

Wisdom means being successful in our roles and interactions by following the Creator’s principles and so living the life that He purposes for us.

The teachings in Proverbs touch on all the important aspects of human life, like managing wealth, forming friendships, nurturing a happy family, avoiding temptation, controlling our emotions, being careful with our words, and building strong character. Wisdom helps us face life with honesty and courage, guiding us toward fulfilling God’s purposes.

In the book of James, we are encouraged to ask God for wisdom(James 1:6). If we find ourselves facing a significant decision or feel ourselves being overwhelmed, instead of rushing to the internet or seeking advice from other sources, take time to pray and reflect on scripture. You will find clarity and peace as you receive “wisdom from Heaven”(James 3:16) and discover that biblical wisdom can guide us in this life better than anything else!

II. WISDOM’S VALUE

Proverbs 4:7 NIV84

Wisdom is supreme; therefore get wisdom. Though it cost all you have, get understanding.

Throughout history, rulers have surrounded themselves with wise advisors, from Potiphar’s choice of Joseph to the Ancient Greeks relying on Philosopher-Kings like Socrates, Plato, and Aristotle. It shows how essential wisdom and insight are for a thriving society.

One of Israel’s most remarkable kings started his reign with a wise decision. In 2 Chronicles 1:8-12, God appears to Solomon and asks what he wants. Solomon humbly requests wisdom and knowledge to lead his people, and God, thrilled with his choice, grants him not just wisdom but also wealth and honour. Solomon put this wisdom into practice, making Israel great, attracting even visitors like the Queen of Sheba. to seek his counsel!

It’s no surprise then that much of Proverbs is credited to Solomon(Prov 1:1), who was renowned for his wisdom, reportedly writing about 3,000 proverbs. ( (Note: As he composed around 3,000 proverbs, a lot are not included in this book. Other contributors were servants of King “Hezekiah” (Prov. 25:1) around 700 B.C. who compiled the material recorded in chapters 25–29, and “Agur the son of Jakeh” and “King Lemuel,” (see Proverbs 30-31) although some scholars think “Lemuel” was another name for Solomon).

However, those familiar with the Bible know that Solomon didn’t always live by his own teachings, especially later in life.

To maintain peace, he formed alliances through marriages with foreign women, which led him away from true worship of God, a cautionary tale of how straying from God’s express command can get you into trouble, echoing Deuteronomy 17:14–20.

It’s sad that Solomon overlooked the wise advice he wrote down in this book! One of the wisest man in history, writing a book filled with timeless truths, yet in his own life, strayed from this wisdom.

It’s a haunting reminder that possessing knowledge doesn’t guarantee application - information is not transformation!

Solomon’s heart led him away from the very advice he penned, leaving us to ponder how often we, too, overlook or ignore guidance from Scripture.

Proverbs 4:7 reinforces the unparalleled importance of wisdom, urging us to appreciate the powerful insights these short sayings convey about daily life.

The Hebrew term mashal translates into English as “proverb”, “parable”, and “allegory”, essentially meaning a comparison like that of Proverbs 17:1 “Better a dry crust with peace and quiet than a house full of feasting with strife”, highlighting how simple phrases often carry deep truths.

Cervantes once defined a proverb as “a short sentence based on long experience” and truly, there are many great expressions out there— “When you want a drink of milk, you don’t buy the whole cow.” (Greek Proverb); “empty vessels make the most sound” or the endearing, “home is where the heart is” although quite frankly I prefer the heart to be in the centre of my chest attached to blood supply!

Just think about how sayings like “nothing ventured, nothing gained” have become part of our cultural wisdom. Sayings like many hands make light work except of course in the kitchen where “too many cooks spoil the broth” all have at least a semblance of proven wisdom attached to them!

So let’s pursue wisdom!

The first nine chapters of Proverbs emphasise the tension between wisdom and folly, represented as two women—one wise and virtuous, the other foolish and tempting.

The Hebrew term for wisdom is feminine. Young people are presented with two paths to take, each leading to different destinations, with voices calling from both sides. Wisdom’s road, protected by God, leads to life, while folly seduces with danger.

In Proverbs chapters 1, 8, and 9, Wisdom calls out, inviting all to enjoy salvation, wealth, and life.

Meanwhile, in Proverbs chapters 5-7 they illustrate the allure of folly, promising immediate rewards without revealing the dire consequences of condemnation, poverty, and death!

The next sections of Proverbs highlight the differences between wise living and folly with the final chapters offering a range of Proverbs that provide guidance on important life areas, cautioning against deceit, laziness, and other pitfalls associated with wealth and debt, while instructing us on how to turn away from sin and stay on the right path.

What a valuable resource this is! It’s no wonder Paul shared with Timothy that all Scripture (not just Proverbs) is God-breathed and useful for teaching, correcting, and preparing us for good works.

Think again of what James, says about “if anyone lacks wisdom”, they should ask God, who gives generously to all.” Think of a farmer, intending to sow seed for the expected crop. He doesn;t just go out there and pray for rain, he doesn’t just hope the sun will shine or nothing will spoil his crop. He prepares the soil and plants seeds, trusting that rain will come. Pursuing wisdom is similar; we must actively seek it through prayer to God and studying scripture, creating an environment where wisdom can take root and flourish in our lives.

Wisdom truly is the biggest treasure—more precious than silver and gold, offering long life and blessings to those who embrace her(Prov 3:14-16):

This is why God wants us to pursue wisdom, and it all starts with Jesus! Through His Word and Spirit, He’s daily inviting us into a wise life.

To live wisely, we must commit to Jesus Christ, who embodies “the wisdom of God.”(1 Cor 1:30). In Him, all treasures of wisdom and knowledge are hidden(Col 2:3), and He aims to transform us through His righteousness, holiness, and redemption(1 Cor 1:30).

While Solomon may have been the wisest king to ever live, Jesus is “greater than Solomon” in wisdom and wealth. Listen to His words, trust Him, and follow His example, and you will really live a blessed and fulfilled life(1 John 2:6).

III. WISDOM’S APPEAL

Wisdom reaches out to us as seen in Proverbs 1:20-21: she loudly calls from the streets, inviting everyone to listen to her message, making her appeal!

(1). Listen to your Parents Advice! (Prov. 1:8–19; 2:1-22)

The initial voice we encounter is that of caring parents urging their child to heed Wisdom and follow her guidance. They take to heart Moses’ instructions on teaching their family the Word of God.

The responsibility now lies with the children to embrace this teaching. The hope is that God’s truth will enhance their lives, like a crown on a king or a necklace on a queen. It echoes Paul’s reminder to servants to reflect the beauty of God’s teachings through their lives, making the gospel attractive and Peter’s appeal to wives to win their husbands affection through the enduring beauty of a godly character instead of relying on external appearances.

In Proverbs 1:15-19, the father guides his son to examine the path he’s on, warning him to stay clear of bad influences. Joining the wrong crowd can lead you to bad choices.

He cautions against flirting with temptation, reminding him that true danger lurks in traps we don’t see(Prov 1:17). Ignoring God's commands can result in harm not just to others but to oneself, often leading to greater costs than anticipated (Prov 1:18–19).

In Matthew 15:4 Jesus reminds us of the commandment to “honour your father and your mother.”

Jesus is emphasising the divine expectation to respect their wisdom. We might be tempted to think that life’s lessons can be learned independently, but ignoring parents' advice often leads to hardship. Their insights, rooted in love for us and experience of life, could save us from a lot of mistakes and a lot of egret.

Reflect on the story of the prodigal son in Luke 15. He left home, disregarding his father's wisdom, only to find himself in the mire of a sulied life; a ruined reputation and hopeless despair. However, then he remembered the stability and safety of his father's house that he returned, accepting the advice he'd once dismissed. This illustrates not only the consequences of neglecting parental advice but also the redemptive power of returning to the path they once advised. Listening to our parents can lead us away from unwise choices towards a life well-lived!

(2). Don’t Ignore the call of Reason (Prov 1:20–33)

Wisdom speaks clearly, accessible to anyone willing to listen. She makes herself known in busy streets and public places, where life unfolds. Her message belongs to everyone, not just those in secluded ivory towers. Wisdom even makes her way to city gates where leaders conduct business, demonstrating that her teachings are pertinent to everyday life. She addresses everyone, from the simple to the mockers and queries how long they will remain in their questionable spiritual states.

Despite her ongoing appeals, many often choose to ignore her, which will bring them even more consequences. Wisdom differentiates between the simple, who are unaware, the mocker, who shows disdain, and the fool, who remains stubborn—not due to lack of intellect, but a lack of desire to pursue God’s wisdom.

She begins by challenging their behaviour and asks how long they will resist her calls. Yet Wisdom also offers an invitation to turn from their wrongdoings and accept her gifts. Sadly, the simple, mockers, and fools frequently reject her grace, leading to her in turn, laughing at Mockery’s downfall.

The point is that there are always consequences when you reject the call of God. One day you may discover that it is too late and they will have lost the opportunity to embrace the safety and peace they had been offered.

Wisdom sees a storm of judgement coming that will bring distress and anguish to all who reject God’s invitation.

Wisdom heeds the voice of the Lord before it is too late - “Seek the Lord while He may be found, call upon Him while He is near” (Isa. 55:6, NKJV).

In the parable of the wise and foolish builders(Matthew 7:24-27), Jesus illustrates the importance of not ignoring wisdom. The wise man built his house upon the rock, while the foolish chose sand. When storms came, only the wise man’s house stood. And no one should be surprised by that!

In our own lives, ignoring the call of reason is choosing sand to build upon. We may think we can rest easy, but when trials arise, it’s the foundation of wisdom and discernment that will keep us grounded. We must build our lives upon the solid rock of God’s truth, ensuring we stand strong amidst life's storms and trials.

Proverbs 1:33 “whoever listens to me will live in safety and be at ease, without fear of harm.”

God reveals His truth through creation; through our conscience and through His word and through the Gospel, He continually extends mercy to those who ask Him.

In His mercy, the Lord continues to call to sinners because He is “long-suffering toward us, not willing that any should perish but that all should come to repentance” (2 Peter 3:9, NKJV).

Proverbs 8:1-36, Wisdom returns to call out again, particularly to those who have not hardened their hearts against her message. The reminder here is powerful: today, if you hear His voice, do not harden your hearts.

Whilst understanding Scriptures can pose challenges, the confusion arises not from the Word itself but from our spiritual blindness. The dilemma lies not with the message, which remains clear, but with us as listeners for as Mark Twain is once reported to have said, “It isn’t what I don’t understand about the Bible that worries me, but what I do understand.”

Wisdom’s call is straightforward: make a choice! Proverbs 8:32-36 “Now then, my sons, listen to me; blessed are those who keep my ways. Listen to my instruction and be wise; do not ignore it. Blessed is the man who listens to me, watching daily at my doors, waiting at my doorway. For whoever finds me finds life and receives favour from the LORD. But whoever fails to find me harms himself; all who hate me love death.” Listen and embrace wisdom. Happy are those who follow her ways; life and favour from the Lord await those who find her, while ignoring her brings harm.

Finding wisdom is a life-and-death situation; neutrality isn’t an option.

Embracing wisdom requires a genuine commitment to turn from sin and turn to faith in Christ. If you make this decision, your life will miraculously shift towards the way God intends it—full of wisdom and goodness.

Those who cherish wisdom heed instruction and grow, while those who reject it head down a dangerous path.

The undecided stand at a crucial crossroads. The question is clear: Do you honour God, or do you disdain knowledge? To be wise is to act fairly within society and with reverence toward God; fools disregard this and live in contempt. The choice lies before you—what kind of person will you become? If you opt for foolishness, it may be time to stop reading Proverbs and live your life as you wish. However, if you seek wisdom, carry on and enjoy the insights shared.

The path of wisdom truly is the safest and most fulfilling way to live, as reflected in Proverbs 3:5-6, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight.” So, “therefore get wisdom. Though it cost all you have, get understanding.”(Proverbs 4:7).