Living as Light: The Vow of Purity

Bible Passages:

Ephesians 5:8-11, Ephesians 5:3, Psalm 119:9-11

Introduction

Growing up, I was always taught the value of purity, but it wasn't until I faced a personal challenge that I truly understood its importance. In my early adult years I found the pressure to conform to societal norms and the temptation to compromise my values were immense.

It is through my covenant of marriage that I really discovered why maintaining purity was important to me and how it was a reflection of my commitment to my faith and my marriage. M spouse and I continue our marriage with a foundation of trust and respect, knowing that we had honored our commitments to purity. This foundation has been a cornerstone of our relationship, helping us navigate challenges and grow closer together.

Purity is not just about abstaining from certain behaviors; it's about living a life of integrity and honoring the commitments we make to ourselves and to others. It requires strength, courage, and a deep understanding of our values. In the end, the rewards of maintaining purity far outweigh the temporary pleasures of compromising our principles.

What is purity:

A vow of purity is a commitment made by an individual to maintain purity and avoid behaviors that are considered morally or ethically impure. This vow often involves abstaining from sexual activity until marriage and avoiding activities that could lead to sexual temptation or impurity, such as pornography or inappropriate relationships.

For example, someone might take a vow of purity by promising to avoid sexual immorality and to live according to certain moral or religious principles. This could include making a commitment to not engage in sexual activity outside of marriage, to avoid consuming explicit content, and to maintain emotional and physical boundaries in relationships.

It involves staying pure by living according to one's beliefs and values. It emphasizes that secrecy is the enemy of intimacy and encourages individuals to confide in their partners rather than hide their struggles

Big Idea:

Living a life of purity is a sacred vow that reflects Christ's light in our world, enabling us to influence others positively as we walk in His ways.

1. Embrace the Light

Ephesians 5:8–11 NIV

For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Live as children of light (for the fruit of the light consists in all goodness, righteousness and truth) and find out what pleases the Lord. Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them.

Imagine you're at a party where the lights suddenly go out. Everything becomes chaotic, but one person has a flashlight. They stand out, guiding others safely to the exit. You and I are like that flashlight in a dark world. We are called to shine brightly through our good deeds, drawing attention to the light of Christ within us, showing others the way to safety and hope.

We are called to walk as children of light, distinguishing ourselves from the darkness of the world. This passage urges us to embrace good deeds as evidence of our transformed nature in Christ, encouraging us to expose and reject the unfruitful works of darkness. This transformation is possible because of the light of Christ within us, guiding us toward purity and righteousness.

2. Eschewing Purity

Ephesians 5:3 NIV

But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people.

This verse highlights the stark contrast between the behaviors expected and those prevalent in the world. We are called to live lives of purity and righteousness, avoiding even the slightest hint of immoral behavior. In contrast, the world often promotes and normalizes behaviors that are contrary to these values.

Imagine a group of friends planning a weekend getaway. The world might suggest a wild party with no boundaries, where anything goes. However, we are guided by the principles of Ephesians 5:3, we would propose a fun and wholesome retreat, filled with activities like hiking, board games, and meaningful conversations. While the world might see this idea as "boring," it actually fosters genuine connections and lasting memories without compromising one's values.

This example shows how we can stand out by choosing activities and behaviors that align with their commitment to purity, even when it goes against the grain of societal norms.

Have you ever seen a rainbow after a storm? It’s a perfect reminder that beauty often follows a struggle. Choosing activities that align with our commitment to purity can feel like weathering a storm in a world that loves grey areas. Yet, when we stick to our colors—our values—we create a vibrant display for others to admire, much like God's promises that follow the trials in our lives.

3. Equip with Scripture

Psalm 119:9–11 NIV

How can a young person stay on the path of purity? By living according to your word. I seek you with all my heart; do not let me stray from your commands. I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you.

A young woman shared how, during a particularly difficult season of her life, she had committed verses from Psalms to memory. One day, when she felt overwhelmed by temptation to give in to despair, she felt these words rising up within her. They acted as a shield, reminding her of God’s promises. She learned that treasuring God’s Word can bring healing and hope during our darkest moments. This connection brought her not only strength but also a reminder of purity in thought and deed.

When we treasure God's Word in our hearts it can lead to a life that not only resists temptation but also mirrors the purity of Christ. It's a call to arm ourselves with spiritual truth to reflect Christ's light.

Applications:

At home, you may struggle with the temptation of negative thoughts towards your spouse or children when conflicts arise. Set aside time each evening to pray specifically for the purity of your thoughts about your family. You could even write down the qualities you appreciate about each family member. This practice will help shift your focus from frustration to gratitude, reminding you to honor them with your words and actions. Regularly express appreciation to each member, creating an atmosphere of love and respect.

In the workplace, you might experience temptations to gossip or engage in unethical practices to get ahead in your career. Commit to a personal accountability partnership with a trusted colleague who shares your values. Agree to meet weekly for lunch where you not only share work updates but also pray for each other, discussing struggles with integrity and purity in your work. By fostering accountability, you’ll be more likely to resist temptation, ensuring that your actions reflect God’s desire for honesty in all aspects of your professional life.

Conclusion

I really hope this message encourages you to actively pursue purity in your thoughts, actions, and relationships, reminding you that God's Word equips us to resist temptation and live in a way that honors Him. Living in purity is not just about avoiding sin but embracing light through practical steps and reliance on the Word of God. Purity is foundational for a life that reflects Christ to others. Jesus is the ultimate example of holiness and the source of our cleansing. Jesus’ sacrifice enables us to walk in light, empowering us to live pure lives through His Spirit.

Big Idea:

Living a life of purity is a sacred vow that reflects Christ's light in our world, enabling us to influence others positively as we walk in His ways.

Questions to Consider this week:

How can we actively embrace light in our daily lives and make choices that reflect Christ's goodness?

What are some practical strategies we can implement to eschew impurity in our relationships?

In what ways can memorizing scripture help us stay committed to purity amid temptation?

How can we create an environment in our homes and workplaces that supports our commitment to purity?

How can we identify and resist societal pressures that contradict our commitment to purity?

How can we use scripture as a practical tool to navigate our daily challenges and uphold our values?

What activities can we engage in that foster accountability among peers, helping us to uphold our commitment to purity?

How can we respond to temptation in a way that reflects the light of Christ in our lives?