Shaunda & Rob vowel renewal

Intro:

We have gathered together to celebrate a renewal of love, a commitment that Robert & Shaunda believe to be the leadership of the Holy Spirit in their lives. Let us ask our Heavenly Father to bless this special occasion.

Prayer:

Dear Lord We come into your presence with Thanksgiving and praise. We bless you for the assurance of your guidance in our lives. We praise you for the awareness that you care about every endeavor of our lives, especially our relationships that lead to Christian marriage. Bless then, this special occasion as Robert & Shaunda come before you, their family, and friends to link their lives together again in this ceremony of commitment. In Jesus name, we pray. Amen

Message to the Bride & Groom:

Robert & Shaunda were married February 26th of 2005. Many things have happened since that point. Children & Grandchildren born and growing up. Wonderful Memories and great milestones achieved. I wish life was just birth, milestones and graduation. The other side of that our sad times of hospital stays, negative diagnosis, sleepless nights and the death of loved ones. Robert & Shaunda have learned to pick their battles, they have learned to not allow petty things to drive them apart, they have learned the importance of not going to bed angry. This is a day for re-committing to the principles they committed too 20 years ago.

As we get older people we love start dying, so there will be times of personal grief there will be fights, and trials that seem insurmountable. During these times you will need a scripture to remind you of the vows you are making today. I believe that the bible is the Word of God, so I trust that God who instituted marriage knows what we need to do in marriage to produce a faithful, long-term till death do you part relationship. Mark 10:9

Mark 10:9 CSB

9 Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

This verse is actually the conclusion of a question Jesus is answering starting in (2)

Mark 10:2 CSB

2 Some Pharisees came to test him, asking, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?”

(2) The Religious teachers were trying to trap our Lord by asking him this question. When Jesus walked the earth the Jewish Religious Leaders had watered down his teaching related to marriage and divorce. At this time a man could divorce his wife if she didn’t clean the dishes well, wore a robe that was too short, or just grew ole and couldn’t satisfy his sexual needs anymore. They had create a no-fault divorce environment leaving many widowed women on the streets or in poverty.

Mark 10:3 CSB

3 He replied to them, “What did Moses command you?”

Jesus takes them back to the original command given to Moses. Which was that a man or women should only divorce in cases of Sexual Immorality. Any sex outside of an union essentially breaks the covenant.

Mark 10:4–5 CSB

4 They said, “Moses permitted us to write divorce papers and send her away.” 5 But Jesus told them, “He wrote this command for you because of the hardness of your hearts.

The Religious leaders then told Jesus but Moses let us divorce our wives for other reasons. Jesus says he did it because your heart were hard. Moses was wise he let the men out of the relationship because if he didn’t the men would have tormented the women for the rest of their lives. Moses basically made the decision that the one who is trying to leave should just leave if they are going to cause pain to the other party. You will notice that I am largely putting the blame on men in this text and that is because in the ancient world men were almost always the cause of marital pain. In our world that has changed it is both parties now that seek no-fault divorces so my message today is both to Robert & Shaunda, and everyone in the room sitting as witnesses.

Mark 10:6–7 CSB

6 But from the beginning of creation God made them male and female. 7 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother

(6) God separated the genders then commissioned them to leave their parents and start new families of their own. Robert & Shaunda you made this decision 20 years ago, but your journey is not done. Your immediate family must take precedence of your extended family. You are to depend on each other. You are to try and solve problems together instead of involving your extended families. There may be times you need help or counsel but those times should be the exception not the rule.

mark 10:8

Mark 10:8 CSB

8 and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one flesh.

(8)Robert & Shaunda you have molded your lives together physically, socially, and Spiritually. God sees you as one not two. What a beautiful picture of his relationship to us!

God in his grace and mercy after our divorce of him when we sinned and rejected his hand. He chased us down by sending his Son on a rescue mission to save our souls from destruction. His son came to earth live a sinless life, died a sinner’s death and rose to everlasting power.

Marriage is wonderful picture of our relationship to God. Once we give ourselves to God we enter a spiritual union with him the cannot be broken. Even by us.

Mark 10:9 CSB

9 Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

The principle of this text is that when God puts something together no one should attempt to separate it. Once God signs off the covenant is now ratified and in those cases it should not separated. Except for two exceptions:

Adultery or Desertion

Robert & Shaunda have made a life-time commitment. Besides the decision to be saved getting married is the highest calling two people could engage in. This is a very serious ceremony. This is a spiritual & legal commitment and it should not be taken lightly. A part of their vows states that they are to be committed to each other alone. They are not to have any external relationship that cause this commitment to be in question. They are not to do anything that would cause the other party to question their commitment and love. If they or anyone else is considering marriage and is not ready to give one person this type of commitment until death they should refrain from thinking about marriage. The cost and commitment is far too high.

Marriage has a spiritual objective. Marriage is a symbolic picture of Jesus Christ relationship to the church. When people are able to look at and experience successful marriages they get a small picture of our Lord’s relationship to his church.

That is why God’s says “He hates divorce” Divorce, Discord and Disunity destroys families, destroy’s communities, and ultimately destroy’s civilization.

For those of you who have divorced I must speak the truth about it. Marriage is not like a car lease where you get to turn it in every 2 to 3 years when the miles get high or the contract ends. Marriage Commitment is a lifetime commitment.

If you have been divorced know that you can recover. Know that Christ died on the cross for your’s and my sins. You need only to receive that gift of redemption, forgiveness and adoption.

Robert & Shaunda I have heard folks say “Love is supposed to be easy” That’s a lie from the pit of hell. That’s like saying I thought losing 50lbs was going to be easy. You will not meet anyone in your life who tells you losing weight, getting off drugs, or raising children is easy. Your Marriage is like a Thanksgiving Dinner with all the ingredients sitting on the counter. Robert & Shaunda you have everything you need to continue to have a successful marriage with God at the center. But like that Thanksgiving meal someone has to Season and Roast the Turkey, boil the macaroni, cut up the vegetables, blend the sweet potatoes, and bake the rolls. It’s a lot of work. Yall are still preparing the meal but I can smell all the ingredients. Keep cooking until everything is done. Till death do you part.

Couple Personal Vows

Vows:

I Did At our wedding ceremony, I chose you to be my spouse. I promised to live with you according to God’s holy Word. On that life changing day, I promised to love you, to comfort you, to honor and keep you. I swore to stand by you for better or worse, in sickness and in health. At our wedding I renounced all others and promised to give myself to only you, so long as we both shall live. The pastor said, “Will you take this one?” And I did. I Do Today, I choose you to be my spouse. I promise to continue living with you according to God’s holy Word. On this ordinary day of our life together, I promise to keep on loving you, to keep on comforting you, to keep on honoring and keeping you. Today, I am standing by you for better or worse, in sickness and in health. Today and every day, I renounce all others (no websites, no magazines, no videos, no lingering leers, or secret meetings). I give myself to you and only you, so long as we both shall live. People may ask, “Will you take this one?” And, you must know, I do. I Always Will Tomorrow and everyday God gives us, I will choose you to be my spouse. I will continue living with you according to God’s holy Word. Every day we share by God’s grace, I promise to always love you, to always comfort you, to always honor and keep you. As long as I have breath, I will stand by you for better or worse, in sickness and in health. I will always renounce all others and always give myself to only you, so long as we both shall live. Our great-grandchildren may ask, “Will you take this one?” And, you can count on this, I always will.

Prayer over the vows:

Minister: Let us pray: O Lord, you who love Robert & Shaunda and bring their earthly love to you. Continue to Teach them to know your loving way, that their love may be like your’s. As their love grows in your image, grant them the grace, wisdom and compassion to show others your love. In the name of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, the highest expression of your love for us. Amen.

Presentation of the Bride & Groom:

Having spoken words of testimony and commitment to your love, one for the other, I, present to you Robert & Shaunda Brewer as husband and wife again. Now what God has joined together in this love, let no man ever attempt to break or destroy.

Kiss:

You may fist pound your wife

Presentation:

Please stand

I present to you Robert & Shaunda Brewer

Recessional