Dead Dog

Saul’s Grandson’s Vulnerability

Mustered the Courage, Faith, and Trust, to overcome trauma, grief and shame to recieve Mercy, Forgiveness, Kindness, grace, Acceptance, Fame not shame.

Inclusion not isolation

Trust not Fear

Correct priorities

1753When the door is shut in her face, she knocks at it, and when Christ calls her “Dog,” she only picks up what Christ has said, as a good dog will pick up his master’s stick, and bring it right to his feet. She had such faith—shall I not say such dogged faith—in the Lord Jesus Christ, that she could even get comfort out of being called a dog.—42.2

Charles Spurgeon

Amongst the Jews, and indeed amongst all Orientals, the terms ‘dog’ or ‘son of a dog,’ or ‘dead dog,’ were terms of abuse and reproach, or of self-abasement when spoken of oneself. Nowhere are his moral or intellectual qualities held up in praise.

Henry Chichester Hart

Dogs were not lovable, huggable pets and companions in Paul’s Jewish culture. They were regarded “as the most despicable, insolent and miserable of creatures.”33 Dogs were despised because they would eat anything, including dead animals, human corpses, and their own vomit.

G. Walter Hansen

Let Hercules himself do what he may, The cat will mew and dog will have his day. Ibid.

William Shakespeare

Man did not come from monkeys, but some are going to the dogs.

Anonymous

A dog is loved by old and young; he wags his tail and not his tongue.

Anonymous

4047 Flatterers look like friends as wolves resemble dogs.

Anonymous

2 Sam 4 & 9 ....

Psalm 31:17 Let me not be ashamed, O LORD; for I have called upon thee: Let the wicked be ashamed, and let them be silent in the grave.

Psalm 31 : 1 - In thee, O LORD, do I put my trust; Let me never be ashamed: Deliver me in thy righteousness. Bow down thine ear to me; deliver me speedily: Be thou my strong rock, For an house of defence to save me. For thou art my rock and my fortress; Therefore for thy name’s sake lead me, and guide me. Pull me out of the net that they have laid privily for me: For thou art my strength. Into thine hand I commit my spirit: Thou hast redeemed me, O LORD God of truth.

 VULNERABILITY

         Shame Brene Brown TED talk

            Shame is the gremlin who says: [...] "never  good enough" –

and, if you can talk it out of  that one, "who do you think you are?"

The thing  to understand about shame is it's not guilt.  

Shame is a focus on self. Guilt  is a focus on behaviour.

Shame is,  "I am bad." Guilt is, "I did something bad."  

Shame is highly, highly correlated with addiction,  depression, violence, aggression,  bullying,  suicide, eating disorders.

And here's  what you even need to know more.

Guilt, inversely correlated with those things.

            Shame, for women, is this web of unobtainable,  

conflicting, competing expectations about who  we're supposed to be. [...]

            For men, shame is not  

a bunch of competing, conflicting expectations. 

 Shame is one: do not be perceived as what?  

Weak.

            But the truth is [...] vulnerability is  not weakness.

 I define vulnerability as emotional  risk, exposure, uncertainty.

 It fuels our daily  lives.

 And I've come to the belief—this is my  12th year doing this research—that vulnerability  is our most accurate measurement of courage.

If we're going to find our way back to each other,  we have to understand and know empathy,  because empathy's the antidote to shame.  

            If you put shame in a Petri dish,

it needs three  things to grow exponentially: secrecy, silence and  judgment.

 If you put the same amount in a Petri  dish and douse it with empathy,

it can't survive.  

The two most powerful words when  we're in struggle: “me too.”  

If we're going to find our way back to each  other,

vulnerability is going to be that path.

Fairest & best adorned is she,

Whose clothing is humility. 1 Peter 5:5

The bird that soars on highest wing,

Builds on the ground her lowly nest;

And she that doth most sweetly sing,

Sings in the shade when all things rest.

In lark and nightingale we see,

What honour hath humility.

Children of Scripture By S.E.L.O.  ?

When you are hanging on by a thread make sure it’s the hem of his garment

The Woman at the well “ He didn’t come for water he came for me”

Shame Noun

a painful feeling of humiliation or distress caused by the consciousness of wrong or foolish behaviour:

"she was hot with shame" · "he felt a pang of shame at telling Alice a lie"

Similar:

humiliation

mortification

chagrin

ignominy

a regrettable or unfortunate situation or action:

"what a shame Ellie won't be here" · "it is a shame that they are not better known"

Similar:

pity

misfortune

bad luck

ill luck

bummer

crime

verb

make (someone) feel ashamed:

"I tried to shame him into giving some away" · "legal action must be taken and companies named and shamed"

Similar:

humiliate

mortify

chagrin

embarrass

abash

exclamation

SOUTH AFRICAN ENGLISH

used to express sentimental pleasure, especially at something small and endearing:

"look at the foals—shame, aren't they sweet?"

Shame is a painful emotion caused by consciousness of guilt, shortcoming, or impropriety. It is a discrete, basic emotion that drives people to hide or deny their wrongdoings. 

Webster

 Schools were often ranked but never thanked; frequently named and shamed, but rarely sustained and supported.

Psalm 31:17

and let them be silent in the grave; as all are that are there; and the sense is, let them be brought to the grave, where they will be silent, or cease (f); that is, from their evil words and works, and particularly from troubling the saints, Job 3:17.

Geneva Study Bible

Let me not be ashamed, O LORD; for I have called upon thee: let the wicked be ashamed, and let them be {m} silent in the grave.

(m) Let death destroy them to the intent that they may (cause) hurt no more.

Blest cross! Blest sepulchre! Blest rather be The man that there was put to shame for me.

John Bunyan

The custom of sinning takes away the sense of it, the course of the world takes away the shame of it.

John Owen (Puritan Divine and Statesman)

Shame on us for being paupers when we were meant to be princes.

David Martyn Lloyd-Jones (Welsh Preacher and Writer)

That is the ultimate tragedy of man, that in the depth of his need and misery and shame he avoids the only One who can really help him. Old Testament Evangelistic Sermons, 9

David Martyn Lloyd-Jones (Welsh Preacher and Writer)

Must I hold a candle to my shames? Ibid.

William Shakespeare

I reckon him a Christian indeed that is neither ashamed of the gospel nor a shame to it.

Matthew Henry (Nonconformist Biblical Exegete)

Within the heart of every addict is a sense of shame—shame because of feeling unlovable, unworthy, and unwanted—shame resulting from repeated failure. This shame within an addict produces behavior and beliefs that are most predictable.

June Hunt

I think that man is lost indeed who has lost the sense of shame.

Titus Maccius Plautus

2156It is an awful thing when a man is no longer conscious of shame, but a more awful thing still when he comes to glory in his shame, for then his damnation is not far off.—24.632

Charles Spurgeon

dd there is a big difference to having a conscience so deadened by habits that sensitivity is lost and the person who has had the mantle of shame broken off their life and their head lifted above humiliation

2 Sa 19:31

And Mephibosheth said unto the king, Yea, let him take all, forasmuch as my lord the king is come again in peace unto his own house.

To love is to be vulnerable

C.S. Lewis