Love Goggles

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1 Corinthians 13:4–7 CSB

4 Love is patient, love is kind. Love does not envy, is not boastful, is not arrogant, 5 is not rude, is not self-seeking, is not irritable, and does not keep a record of wrongs. 6 Love finds no joy in unrighteousness but rejoices in the truth. 7 It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Opening Illustration:

Sending kids away when they are young

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Compelling Lie - Felt/Bible revealed need

Now, I hope that none of you would say that you would send your kid away for that reason, some of you probably have experienced the flip side of that. You got pegged a certain way as a child or teenager, and now, people in your past treat you that way even though you are totally different. We are all different than we were!

Defining the Enemy

But we aren’t just victims of that, we are also perpetrators of it. We treat people not based on the reality of who they are but on our views of them.

And this is a real problem because the enemy wants us to have bad relationships. He wants us to hate our spouses. He wants us to dislike our parents or kids. He wants us to be isolated and not have friends. And so one of the way’s that he works is by shaping unreality goggles that we wear.

What are the unreality goggles? They are like glasses and we look at people and we don’t see them through the reality of what they are, we see them through the false reality of the unreality goggles.

So we see them based on the past pain they caused us. We see them based on our self-righteous desires. Sometimes, we categorize them based on other people in our past, our baggage, and we peg them that way. What’s really crazy, is we sometimes categorize them based on social media.

I knew a guy who would post these political views that were so harsh. I didn’t disagree with some of the content but the tone was off. I thought this guy must be a real jerk. Then I met him, super nice guy. I get on facebook, I hate him. I see him around the neighborhood - greatest guy you ever met.

But while the enemy wants you to wear unreality goggles in your life, God has a different plan. He wants you to see people through the lens of love.

Why we can’t do that?????

He doesn’t want us to see them through reality. The reality of who we are, with our sin and such, would be too much. He wants us to see people through the lens of what God can do in that person.

And this is important in all the relationships in your life - your friendships, your family, your marriage.

So let’s take a look and see how love changes the way we see people starting in verse 4

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1 Corinthians 13:4 CSB

4 Love is patient, love is kind. Love does not envy, is not boastful, is not arrogant,

Ok, so he lists five things here. Love is patient. It is kind. It doesn’t envy. It doesn’t boast. it is not arrogant.

Our unreality goggles distort those things. In our flesh, in our sin. We aren’t patient. We aren’t patient with anything. I remember when ordering something on Amazon could take a week. Then it got down to two days. I’ll tell you what, two days is too long sometimes. It’s annoying to have to wait that long. We want things now. We want them right away.

That’s true about our orders. Its true about fast food. Its true about our relationships.

Patience in a relationship understands that people take time to change. Now, we know this about ourselves. We don’t want people to give up on us. We don’t just want a second chance, we want 10 chances, 100 chances. And love allows us to see that in other people.

We look at our kids and in the unreality goggles, we see everything they’ve done wrong. They are never going to turn out ok! But then we put on the goggles of love and we relax. This is annoying now but we know that they are a work in progress.

Your spouse is the same way. I’ve been married 23 years. I am far more civilized than I was when we got married. When we got married, I was basically a cave man. I used to eat cereal three meals a day in college because I didn’t want the hassle of cooking. Cooking was Ramen noodles. That’s where I was. Now, after 23 years of hard work, I can cook an actual dinner. Not much. but more than I used too. In another 23 years, there’s no telling where I’ll be. I might even be able to cook without microwavable vegetables. WHo knows?

But that’s the thing. We look at people with unreality goggles and we see all their flaws and we think, “why haven’t they changed already?” We want them to change far faster than we expect ourselves to change.

But love allows us to be patient. And kind.

Unreality causes us to be harsh. We nag. We insult. We get fed up with the other person because we can’t understand the time it takes someone to learn and to grow. But love goggles sees the beauty in people. It sees the image of God and allows us to be kind.

Then it goes on and lists these three: Love doesn’t envy, doesn’t boast and isn’t arrogant.

Unreality goggles causes us to be in constant competition with people.

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Telling the story

Hadden Robertson - The Big Idea of Biblical Preaching

Chapter Markers:

What Type of Story (different plates)

What is your City?

What is your Dragon?

What is worth defending in the old city?

What's yous best line of attack?

Defining the Enemy

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Hitting the Wall (why we fail)

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Victory in Jesus

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Text:

Lord’s Supper:

On the night when he was betrayed, the Lord Jesus took bread, 24 and when he had given thanks, broke it, and said, “This is my body, which is for you. Do this in remembrance of me.”

25 In the same way also he took the cup, after supper, and said, “This cup is the new covenant in my blood. Do this, as often as you drink it, in remembrance of me.” 

Benediction:

The LORD bless you and keep you;

the LORD makes his face shine upon you and be gracious to you:

The LORD lift up his countenance upon you and give you peace.