Wisdom in Parenting Continued - Proverbs (Part 17)

PR O V E R B S PROVERBS W i s d o m W i s d o m f o f o r r a l l a l l Wi s e Pa r e n t i n g ( c o n t i nu e d ) Where does wise parenting begin? parent child child parent Three relational priorities: “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, and the knowledge of the Holy One is insight.” (Proverbs 9:10 ESV) God & You 1. spiritual Three relational priorities: Hus i fe W & d n a b God & You 1. spiritual 2. marital i i fe W & d n a b God & You Hus r a & C t n h e ld P Three relational priorities: 1. spiritual 2. marital 3. parental Five crucial influences: 1. Life example 2. …………………. 3. …………………. 4. …………………. 5. …………………. Five crucial influences: 1. Life example 2. …………………. 3. …………………. 4. …………………. 5. …………………. “In the fear of the Lord one has strong confidence, and his children will have a refuge.” (Proverbs 14:26 ESV) Five crucial influences: 1. Life example 2. Biblical teaching 3. …………………. 4. …………………. 5. …………………. “And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.” (Deuteronomy 6:6-7 ESV) “and how from childhood you [Timothy] have been acquainted with the sacred writings, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus. All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness,” (2 Timothy 3:15-16 ESV) Five crucial influences: 1. Life example 2. Biblical teaching 3. …………………. 4. …………………. 5. …………………. “Whoever despises the word brings destruction on himself, but he who reveres the commandment will be rewarded.” (Proverbs 13:13 ESV) Five crucial influences: 1. Life example 2. Biblical teaching 3. Loving discipline 4. …………………. 5. …………………. Pa r e n t i n g p h i l o s o p h i es Post-modern Psychology Individual Behaviour Focus Parent/child Methods Biblical Teaching Pa r e n t i n g p h i l o s o p h i es Individual Behaviour Focus Parent/child Methods Post-modern Psychology Biblical Teaching essentially good fundamentally sinful “Folly is bound up in the heart of a child…” (Proverbs 22:15 ESV) “Behold, I was brought forth in iniquity, and in sin did my mother conceive me.” (Psalm 51:5 ESV) Pa r e n t i n g p h i l o s o p h i es Post-modern Psychology Biblical Teaching Individual essentially good fundamentally sinful Behaviour product of upbringing/ personal experiences ultimately, the result of personal choices Focus Parent/child Methods “Even a child makes himself known by his acts, by whether his conduct is pure and upright.” (Proverbs 20:11 ESV) Pa r e n t i n g p h i l o s o p h i es Post-modern Psychology Biblical Teaching Individual essentially good fundamentally sinful Behaviour product of upbringing/ personal experiences ultimately, the result of personal choices Focus Parent/child Methods Pa r e n t i n g p h i l o s o p h i es Individual Behaviour Focus Parent/child Methods Post-modern Psychology Biblical Teaching essentially good fundamentally sinful product of upbringing/ personal experiences feelings/self-esteem/ personal happiness ultimately, the result of personal choices heart/personal holiness “Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life.” (Proverbs 4:23 ESV) “For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false witness, slander. These are what defile a person .…” (Matthew 15:19-20 ESV) Pa r e n t i n g p h i l o s o p h i es Individual Behaviour Focus Parent/child Methods Post-modern Psychology Biblical Teaching essentially good fundamentally sinful product of upbringing/ personal experiences feelings/self-esteem/ personal happiness ultimately, the result of personal choices heart/personal holiness equals/cooperation authority/obedience “Listen to your father who gave you life, and do not despise your mother when she is old.” (Proverbs 23:22 ESV) “Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.” (Ephesians 6:1 ESV) Pa r e n t i n g p h i l o s o p h i es Post-modern Psychology Biblical Teaching essentially good fundamentally sinful product of upbringing/ personal experiences feelings/self-esteem/ personal happiness ultimately, the result of personal choices heart/personal holiness Parent/child equals/cooperation authority/obedience Methods therapy/behaviour modification loving discipline Individual Behaviour Focus Five crucial influences: 1. Life example 2. Biblical teaching 3. Loving discipline 4. …………………. 5. …………………. “My son, do not despise the Lord’s discipline or be weary of his reproof, for the Lord reproves him whom he loves, as a father [disciplines] the son in whom he delights.” (Proverbs 3:11-12 ESV) “Folly is bound up in the heart of a child,” but the rod of discipline drives it far from him. “Folly is bound up in the heart of a child,” but the rod of discipline drives it far from him.” (Proverbs 22:15 ESV) “Folly is bound up in the heart of a child,” but the rod of discipline drives it far from him.” (Proverbs 22:15 ESV) “The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.” (Proverbs 29:15 ESV) “I will be to him a father, and he shall be to me a son. When he commits iniquity, I will discipline him with the rod of men, with the stripes of the sons of men,” (2 Samuel 7:14 ESV) “Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you strike him with a rod, he will not die. If you strike him with the rod, you will save his soul from Sheol.” (Proverbs 23:13-14 ESV) “Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.” (Proverbs 13:24 ESV) “Discipline your son, for there is hope; do not set your heart on putting him to death.” (Proverbs 19:18 ESV) “For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.” (Hebrews 12:11 ESV) Five crucial influences: 1. Life example 2. Biblical teaching 3. Loving discipline 4. Church family 5. …………………. “Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise …” (Proverbs 13:20 ESV) “Faithful are the wounds of a friend ….” (Proverbs 27:6 ESV) “But exhort one another every day, as long as it is called “today,” that none of you may be hardened by the deceitfulness of sin.” (Hebrews 3:13 ESV) “And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another…” (Hebrews 10:24-25 ESV) Five crucial influences: 1. Life example 2. Biblical teaching 3. Loving discipline 4. Church family 5. Intercessory prayer Five crucial influences: “Do not be anxious 1. Life example about anything, but in everything by prayer 2. Biblical teaching and supplication with 3. Loving discipline thanksgiving let your requests be made 4. Church family known to God.” 5. Intercessory prayer (Philippians 4:6 ESV)