Lead Well:The Leaders Table

Where the Presence meets Pressure

We are starting this series called Lead well. In movies and even in conversations I hear the talk about leadership as though it’s a table. I hear people say I want a seat at the table or I want to be a part of the conversation at the table. What most people don’t realize is there is a price to pay to sit at the leadership table. It isn’t easy to lead well, but the rewards for leading the way God desires are unmatched. You can develope healthy teams, healthy, systems, and for most people here

Healthy Families

I centered this series to fall around Father’s day because leadership is a key to being a man, but it’s also key to being a person. We are all called to lead and the flagship scripture that you are going to hear a lot through this series

1 Corinthians 11:1 MEV

1 Follow me as I follow Christ.

Many of the translations say imitate. Same idea, but I like the word following. Because I can tell how great a leader will be by his ability to follow. Everyone struggles with the idea of following, some more than most, but you need to learn to submit to leadership before you can lead. That’s why the first topic I want to cover

Leading Healed

If someone follows you or imitates you and you aren’t healed in your leading than you will teach people to walk broken. Have you ever seen the video meme’s where the dog follows the broken human limping just like the human is limping? It’s a great example of broken people leading.

Leaders need to learn

The presence of God isn’t the place you go to bypass your emotions; It’s the place you go to process them.

You can’t cast out emotions, feelings, or memories. They have to be healed.

Psalm 139:23–24 ESV

23 Search me, O God, and know my heart! Try me and know my thoughts! 24 And see if there be any grievous way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting!

In this moment David wanted to be raw and real. I have seen many leaders who appear to righteous only to be masking years of hurt and in highly intense moments or emotional response that hurt comes out and hurts other people.

David was speaking from the heart he understood that

Burying emotions doesn’t sanctify them—it only infects the soul from within.

And infection spreads

Luke 6:45 ESV

45 …for out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks.

Your words speak what your heart believes and if you’re heart doesn’t believe the word of God it will never learn to speak life.

The healing process is the pathway to power

I’ve seen many people try to skip the process of healing and fail. The issue is that wounds seems to be healed, but when the intense pressure of success is applied the wounds you burried instead of process begin to leak out.

Jeremiah 17:9 emphasizes the unreliable nature of human emotions and motivations apart from God. Self deception is real. We are warned more than a dosen times in the bible to defend yourself against self-deception.

You must process the emotions. This is hard, but it’s fruitful.

Hebrews 5:7–8 ESV

7 In the days of his flesh, Jesus offered up prayers and supplications, with loud cries and tears, to him who was able to save him from death, and he was heard because of his reverence. 8 Although he was a son, he learned obedience through what he suffered.

It is ok to pray for yourself and to pray for the healing of your emotions. Wea re told to follow the example of Jesus, and Jesus lead in the example in this. To not pray for yourself is like living in a house with a leaky roof, the tools, the means and the know how to fix the roof, and yet yell at God because your stuff is getting wet.

It’s ok to process, to get messy, and to be real in the presence of God.

There’s power in surrendering your emotions to the King. Reverence doesn’t remove emotion—it frames it in trust.

The word said because of Jesus’ revernace he was heard.

Reverence isn’t just defined as respect, but another word of reverence is humility.

It’s saying

You are God—I am not. I trust your way, even when it hurts or I don’t understand it

The hard part is—there is no equation to healing I can give you as each wound, each person is unique and the path to healing is different, but the reward is great.

Healed Leaders Lead well

Galatians 6:1–2 ESV

1 Brothers, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness. Keep watch on yourself, lest you too be tempted. 2 Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.

You can’t bear burdens or deal gently if you are bleeding on people.

The most powerful thing you can do as a leader isn’t to impress people with your strength—but to invite them into your healing story.

Empathy over Ego-Lead with compassion, not control.

If you want a healthy family it has to start with your healing. You must take the first step because you can only take people places that you yourself have been.