Discipline
Notes
Transcript
Introduction
Introduction
Last week we talked about being united in marriage. Specifically, we dealt with how being united can help a couple parent better.
There were some discussion questions that you took home. Is there anyone that would like to discuss any of those things? You don’t have to get specific in what you share, but did those discussion questions open up discussions for anyone and their husband or wife? Uncomfortable discussions?
Opening Question
Opening Question
What comes to mind when the issue of disciplining children comes up?
Video: Discipline
Video: Discipline
Review
Review
Any comments or remarks?
Greg and Karen talked about a child’s “currency.” What do they mean by that?
Discussion Questions
Discussion Questions
1. Hebrews 12:11 says, “No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.” What are your thoughts about the principles contained within this verse?
2. What is your child’s currency? As a preschooler? As an elementary student? As a teenager?
3. Why is it so important to establish the authority of the parent during the preschool years?
4. In the Teaching phase, what have you done to explain the “why” behind the “no”? What has been successful? What hasn’t worked?
5. How have you been able to help your child understand what is driving their actions?
6. During the Coaching phase, why is it so hard as a parent to allow our children to fail?
7. What boundaries have you put in place for your teenager that serve as some measure of discipline when they are crossed?
8. If your teenager came to you at 10:45 pm and needed help with a school assignment, how would you respond? How does your response help or hurt your teenager learn the consequences of their actions?
9. Where have you and your spouse had success on being united? Where have you had difficulty finding common ground around discipline?
10. Karen said, “if it’s not consistent, it’s confusing.” Are there certain areas that you could improve on your consistency? How can you and your spouse work together to be a consistent team?
11. When do you find yourself the most frustrated? What do you do to create some time and space between the offense and the discipline?
12. Are there certain areas of discipline that your child knows you won’t follow through? What can you do to change? How can you and your spouse work together to be clear about your rules and discipline?
Additional Verses
Additional Verses
The Bible takes it for granted that parents discipline their children. There are many proverbs written to encourage children to see the importance of listening to verbal reproof.
1 A wise son heareth his father’s instruction: But a scorner heareth not rebuke.
5 A fool despiseth his father’s instruction: But he that regardeth reproof is prudent.
23 For the commandment is a lamp; and the law is light; And reproofs of instruction are the way of life:
7 If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not?
9 Furthermore we have had fathers of our flesh which corrected us, and we gave them reverence: shall we not much rather be in subjection unto the Father of spirits, and live?
10 For they verily for a few days chastened us after their own pleasure; but he for our profit, that we might be partakers of his holiness.
The Bible tells us reasons to discipline children.
17 Correct thy son, and he shall give thee rest; Yea, he shall give delight unto thy soul.
15 The rod and reproof give wisdom: But a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame.
15 Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; But the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.
The Bible gives guidelines in disciplining children.
13 Withhold not correction from the child: For if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die.
24 He that spareth his rod hateth his son: But he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.
Betimes: from an early age
15 Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; But the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.
It is important to remember to discipline the right way and for the right reasons.
4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
Provoke: to rouse to wrath, to provoke, exasperate, anger
Discipline is for building up. We are never to use ‘discipline’ to aggravate, anger, poke at, or get even with our children.
