What She Needs: Do You Hear What I Hear?

Guys Go Vertical

If a man needs to be cheered, a woman needs to be cherished.

Listening Vertically

LOVING VERTICALLY

- Providing tender, affectionate care- Ephesians 5:29 “For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:”

Nourish- 6:4- raise up

Cherish- to hear; warm; foster

HOW DOES YOUR WIFE FEEL MOST LOVED?

Love Languages-

Quality Time

Words of affirmation

Touch

Gifts

Acts of service

It doesn’t matter WHAT you think. It’s the WHY- the reality of how she feels- that we must address and resolve.

DEAL WITH HER REALITY AS TRUTH.

Personalizing the conflict. Graeme Foster

- Protecting and nurturing- Ephesians 5:27–28 “That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.”

- Showing the same careful attention one naturally gives to their own body- Ephesians 5:29 “For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:”

TO DISCOVER A MAN’S PRIORITIES, CHECK TWO PLACES- his wallet & his calendar

- Following Christ’s example of self-sacrificial love for the church- Ephesians 5:25 “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;”

LEAVING VERTICALLY

Ephesians 5:30 “For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.”

Gen 2:24-

The word “therefore” tells us that Moses is building his observation about the present state of manhood and marriage on his previous statements. In verses 22 and 23, Moses describes the creation of the woman from the man’s side and God’s presentation of the woman to Adam. “Therefore” or “for this reason,”—namely, the fact that God created the woman from the man—a man shall leave his father and his mother and cleave to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. In order for the man and the woman to be joined as one flesh as husband and wife, the relationship with their parents must change fundamentally: the children must leave their parents in order to cleave to each other.

But we are getting a little ahead of ourselves. I have been speaking with specific reference to a married couple and how they are to come together as one flesh in the context of leaving their individual parents. With respect specifically to our discussion of manhood, two important observations must be noted in this text. The first is that Moses directly addresses the man but only indirectly addresses the woman. “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife and the two shall become one flesh” (Gen 2:24). It is the man who is leaving and cleaving to his wife. Why? Because if the man does not lead his bride to walk in accordance with the new one-flesh reality that has been forged by marriage, it will never happen.