Keeping Your Marriage Strong

Introduction

Opening Question

What is a key to keeping a marriage strong?

Video: Keeping Your Marriage Strong

Review

Husband’s Needs

To know: Do I have what it takes?

Wife’s Needs

To be pursued

To Feel Valued

To be Cherished

Discussion Questions

1. What was one of the first “differences” you noticed about your spouse after you were married?

2. Have you said to yourself recently, “It feels like we are just two ships passing in the night.”? Have you shared that with your spouse?

3. What steps have you taken in your marriage to become a student of your spouse? What have you learned?

4. How have you implemented the things you have learned about your spouse to strengthen your marriage?

5. For the men, do you get the affirmation and confirmation from your wife that she thinks “you have what it takes”? If so, how have you received it? If not, how has it affected the way you feel about your standing as a husband and father?

6. For the women, have you marginalized, minimized, or spiritualized any issues your husband has shared with you? What can you do or say to confirm to your husband that he “has what it takes”?

7. For the men, what have you done lately to make your spouse feel valued? To feel pursued? To feel cherished?

8. For the women, do you feel valued by your husband? What do you need to feel valued? To feel pursued? To feel cherished?

9. Is there any doubt in your mind that you are your husbands #1?

10. What is your spouse’s love language? Are you speaking it on a consistent basis?

11. When will you go on your next date? Your next vacation? Work on your 3-5 year dream plan?