Biblical Fatherhood

ice breaker —- what would you write on your tombstone —- He loved Jesus

title - Biblical fatherhood

q. did you know that the word father shows up 102 times in the book of matthew

the word father is translated from the greek word pater

jesus spoke mostly aramaic and when He said father it was pronounced abba

it is the literal meaning of dad or father

as I was reading all of the passages throughout

matthew that had father in it

I realized just how perfect of a relationship Jesus had with His father

they are the perfect example for relationship

and we must know that this is the relationship that we

are supposed to have with God

the only problem is that we are sinful

and our fathers are sinful too

now I didnt have a good relationship with my father

and maybe thats the same for you

so a day like this can be hard

I want to share a verse that helped me this

Psalm 68:4–5 ESV

Sing to God, sing praises to his name; lift up a song to him who rides through the deserts; his name is the Lord; exult before him! Father of the fatherless and protector of widows is God in his holy habitation.

If your dad is not there for you

let this sermon teach you how to be a better father than him

and let these verses remind you that you have a father in heaven

that loves you

and if your dad passed away

let this sermon bring praises for his life and impact in your life

now let me ask you

have you ever take your dad for granted

have you ever stopped and thought

my dad is a beast

he has done so much for our family

and I want to honor him

—-someone tell me story about your dad being a beast …

today I want us to be able to hone in on this major theme

the theme of father

and the importance of this relationship

and what fatherhood means biblically

so First lets look at Biblical father hood

as pertains to men

who are made in the image of God

Fathers are the shepards of the home

this is a point that needs a lot of attention

we will draw from

Ephesians 5:23–24 ESV

For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.

there is a biblical heiarchy ‘

God the father is over God the son

q. Is God the father more iportant or valubale than God the son?

The son is over the husband ,

the husband is over the wife ‘

the parents are over the children

q. Is the husband more valubale than the wife ?

no

illistration -

jessica is smarter than me

Jessica is better looking than me

jessica is funnier than me

but I am responsibl to God for how my family is doing

and one of the saddest things is that in

the church , often times women are the spiritual heads of the house

because the men are not willing to pursue God

this is not how the Lord intended things

He intended for strong and faithful men

to lead strong and faithful women

to produce strong and faithful children

now if your sitting here

and your parents are not leading you

and your father is far from God

dont let that keep you from pursuing Him

as the child, you may end up being the spiritual leader in your home

I remember when I got saved at 24

I led my momand brother into a deeper relationship with God

but my step dad remained far from Him

do you know how hard that was on my mom to have a weak spiritual fatherin the home

however there is still a heirarchy of leadership

the man is responsible for leading his family

therefore the pressure is the dad

He is responsible for the family being provided for and protected

seems like a picture of our heavenly father doesnt it

Men - one day you will father a home

women- one day you will submit under the leadership of a husband

wait for the right one….

test - is he commited to a local church ?

does he have sound theology ..

does he read his bible…

does he have a job ———we dont want scrubs

and does he love you like a queen….

Proverbs 1:7 ESV

The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge; fools despise wisdom and instruction.

make sure that you are looking at a man that fears God

and you will find yourself father after Gods heart

now as a father and shepard of the home

you have a few responsibilities thare paramount

spiritually lead your children

your the leader and

you need to teach your kids

one of the greatest needs in the church

is the pastor at the dinner table

Deuteronomy 6:6–7 ESV

And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.

fathers must know the commands of God

and teach the commands of God

there is a responsibility on the father to teach the family about God

and there is zero excuse for this

if your dad is not doing this

I would be willing to train him in order to do this

there is a comittment needed to

teach your kids

not perfectly

Q.who has a father that teaches them the bible at home?

consider yourself blessed

because I never had that

some of you dont have that and you have to overcome all the odds

and I am here to tell you that you can

but you have to put time into the study to make up for it…

story- I was praying with bradley

we started talking about being a soldier for God

and then he was asking if he could get a sword

and then we talked about heaven

and then he asked , who is going to take care of our house if were in heaven

—-he doesnt get everything yet but were having the conversations

there is a huge responsibility for me to teach him

Proverbs 22:6 “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.”

not a promise but this is a general truth

as a father you need to be putting in this effort

it is also the job of fathers to train and discipline children

q. did you know its biblical to spank your kids

story —- told uncle I had to spank bradley and he was mortified

he threatened to call dcfs

Proverbs 22:6 ESV

Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.

Proverbs 13:24 ESV

Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.

fathers are responsible for disciplining and traing kids

q have you ever seen a kid being a total brat …

im not talking a toddler but a kid your age …

its crazy

ands its because their fathers didnt father biblically

now you cant abuse your kids and beat them ‘

but you will know

a pop on the butt with a spoon will teach your kids

taking away phones and grounding will teach your kids

to fear their parents in a similar way that we are to fear the Lord

for biblical fatherhood demands respect

father with integrity and demand respect

as fathers you will need to establish spiritual leadership and respect in the home

as children you must must must honor your father

Exodus 20:12 ESV

“Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.

honor has more than obedience attached to it

its your inner attitude towards your parents

and I ask today

how is your inner attitude towards your parents

is it an attitude of greatfulness

is it an attitude of love

do you regard your father highly?

it is a crying shame to see children disrespect their parents

and im not going to sugar coat it

if your constantly disrespecting your parents

you are showing you dont love them

to disrespect is the absence of love

and it is very serious in the eyes of God

disrespect of your parents has no place in GODS kingdom

and it required the death penalty under the old testemant

this wasnt for having a meltdown

but for serious acts of rebellion against parents, mainly at a higher age

now

do you think it is still serious in Gods eyes today

yes

if you have been rebellious to your parents ‘

GOD WILL FORGIVE YOU

go and apalogize to your parents ‘

pray and ask God for forgivness

and make it a priorrity to obey your parents

now we have established

biblical father hood

must shepard their homes

lead the family in a spiritual manner

and to raise up the children in respect and honor

these are some of the basics of biblical father hood

something you can understand

for your future in fatherhood and your decision making in a spouse

these are things you can appreciate in your own father

and things you can talk with your dad about if they are lacking

but in closing I want to bring your attention to a better father

and that is God Himself

your dads are human and their going to fail

some of your dads may be so far from biblical fatherhood

and

when you become a dad your going to fall short in many ways

this is when you need to remember

we all have a perfect father in heaven

when you put your faith in Christ

you were given a perfect father

Jesus eliminated your sin by taking the penalty for you on the cross

and has given you reconciliation

with your father in heaven

your father in heaven is more of a father to you

than your father on earth

Matthew 6:26 “Look at the birds of the air: they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they?”

this passage is all you need to know

that you have a heavenly father

and he loves you perfectly

if your earthly father has failed

your heavenly father wont

if your earthly father is gone

your heavenly father is close

the earthly father is meant to be an extension of our father in heaven

the call to shepard the home is originated with God

the call on fathers to spiritually raise up the household

and discipline the children is originated with God

dear friends

stay in close relationship with your heavenly father

and I promise

you will be a biblical father yourself

stay in close relationship with your heavenly father

and you will know what to look for in a husband

and when you go to be with your dads today

tel them how thankful you are

for what they have done

to show you who God is

I want to close by reading psalm 23

and I want you to think of Our God as being

the perfect father